Need some girl advice.

[edmsquad92]

So I met this girl last summer...

We started hanging out quite a bit and went to the bars together, eventually led to hooking up once. She went off to college that was a few hours away from mine and we talked on and off. Well this year I randomly saw her at the bars in my college town so I texted her asking if she wanted to come to this club that I had booked a table for. She agreed to come and got to meet all of my close friends. That night she came back home with me, but we only made out prior going to bed.

Afterwards, we got to start talking more actively, I invited her to fraternity socials & date nights, even a concert & an edm festival that I had free tickets to. At this point summer rolled around and she only lives 30 minutes from me. Every time we were out in public we would hold hands and even make out in front of my friends. Personally I felt like we were unofficially dating and my friends thought so too. I really like this girl so I figured why not be a gentleman and not rush things / wait until I ask her out to dinner before I make a move to hook up for the second time. Well after one night in the bars we decided to hook up (she initiated it so I just went with it), this happened before I actually got to take her out to dinner (which went well btw).. since then we started hanging out more and did things that didn't just involve the bars and getting f*cked up. We slept with each other every time she spent the night.

About a month in to seeing each other, and sleeping with each other exclusively, I saw her the night before I left out of town to visit some family + surprised her with tickets to see one of her favorite DJ, we ended up just cuddling and just talking and she ended up saying how amazing I was, this was not about the concert tickets (at this point I realized that she likes me). Also not to mention the sex is good...

When I landed and checked into my hotel the next day, I texted and snapchatted her saying things like "oh, I wish you were here to explore this city with me", sadly with no response. I didn't text her afterwards because I felt like I was spamming her with these messages that were left unresponded.

When I got back in town, I hung out with her best friend because she was always down to go to the bars (I'm just friends with her friend, nothing more). So I asked her about why this girl isn't texting me back. She said something along the lines that she really likes me, and just seems to put work over everything, which I understand. We are both college students and a lot of us try to get some money. But it seems like she is basically blowing me off cold turkey. I still have these concert tickets and haven't talked to her in 3 weeks.
Should I still ask her if she wants to go to the concert with me or just drop everything. At this point I've invested a good amount of time with this girl that I really liked and I know for a fact that she likes me also, but I'm just not sure what to do at this point. I'd actually like to make us a thing.

PS. One of my friends suggested I should text her about a week in advance of the concert, which is coming up, asking if she would still like to go. I know most of you guys will say just move on and focus on yourself and take someone else to the concert.

 

[Thorninmyside]

There used be a saying here along the lines of "The person who cares the least has the power". The thing about reaching out is, she hasn't forgotten you exist. She hasn't forgotten your plans. She'd rather do whatever she's doing.

Yes, take someone else if you want to. Yes, talk to other girls. Yes, focus on yourself, which you should never stop doing.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I hung out with her best friend...So I asked her about why this girl isn't texting me back. She said something along the lines that she really likes me, and just seems to put work over everything, which I understand.

That girl is her friend, not yours. Women stick together and cover for each other's lies. So asking that question to that girl was pointless. If your girl had someone else, she would never have told you, not in a million years.

 

[edmsquad92]

Trust me when I say this, her best friend wants us to date and there is no other guy involved. I know that for sure. It's her who's backing off, I'm assuming she isn't looking for anything serious which is fine, she's pretty independent. I'm just asking how should I go about either making her want to get like me enough to make it serious / at least hang out again.

 

[lizardking82]

Question: why would her best want you to date? Since you say she wants to you to.

 

[edmsquad92]

Question: why would her best want you to date? Since you say she wants to you to.

Because she legitimately thinks we are great for each other.

 

[lizardking82]

Question 2: Judging on this girl's actions, how much do you think she can influence her decision to be with you or not?
Question 3: Do you want to be with a girl who had to be convinced or swayed by her best friend to be with you?

 

[edmsquad92]

Question 2: Judging on this girl's actions, how much do you think she can influence her decision to be with you or not?
Question 3: Do you want to be with a girl who had to be convinced or swayed by her best friend to be with you?

Enough of an influence to make her realize that we could be potentially become a thing and that we are a good match. And to answer the other question, hypothetically no, I don't want anyone to be forced into a relationship, but currently I'm still stuck with her not talking to me at all. I'm trying to get her to at least "go back" to what we had prior to her stop talking to me. FYI, I never treated her wrong or gave her any reason to. I strongly believe it's a commitment thing. She definitely like me and she knows that I like her, haha.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Trust me when I say this, her best friend wants us to date and there is no other guy involved. I know that for sure. .

If her best friend did want you two to date, then she would certainly never tell you about any side interest that your girl has. I'm not trying to make you paranoid, but there is no knowing "for sure." Thinking you know anything for sure is the easiest way to get played. Any girl who is ghosting you like she has done ought to be raising suspicions that someone else is involved.

 

[lizardking82]

Enough of an influence to make her realize that we could be potentially become a thing and that we are a good match. And to answer the other question, hypothetically no, I don't want anyone to be forced into a relationship, but currently I'm still stuck with her not talking to me at all. I'm trying to get her to at least "go back" to what we had prior to her stop talking to me. FYI, I never treated her wrong or gave her any reason to. I strongly believe it's a commitment thing. She definitely like me and she knows that I like her, haha.

Dude...you cannot get her to do anything she doesn't wanna. If she ain't talkin' to you right now, that is what she wants, not to talk to you. You're putting your life on hold to wait for a chick? Wrong, brother, very wrong. But if you don't wanna listen to me, go on on your own, you'll find out what a mistake you're doin'.

 

[edmsquad92]

If her best friend did want you two to date, then she would certainly never tell you about any side interest that your girl has. I'm not trying to make you paranoid, but there is no knowing "for sure." Thinking you know anything for sure is the easiest way to get played. Any girl who is ghosting you like she has done ought to be raising suspicions that someone else is involved.

Dude...you cannot get her to do anything she doesn't wanna. If she ain't talkin' to you right now, that is what she wants, not to talk to you. You're putting your life on hold to wait for a chick? Wrong, brother, very wrong. But if you don't wanna listen to me, go on on your own, you'll find out what a mistake you're doin'.

I know for a fact that there is no other dude involved even if you guys think otherwise (and I have my reasons to believe that), I can see where that raises some suspicion though, don't get me wrong. That being said, I've already hooked up with another girl because we were never exclusive in the first place. I'm just saying, how do I go about this concert thing, should I still reach out to her and ask her if she wants to go? If she says yes, then I'll figure it out from there and talk about our relationship in person, but if she answers no or just leaves me on read, I'll take that as a final answer to move on. I have other girls that are into me, I just happen to be invested in this one because we get along so well.

 

[lizardking82]

I know for a fact that there is no other dude involved even if you guys think otherwise (and I have my reasons to believe that), I can see where that raises some suspicion though, don't get me wrong. That being said, I've already hooked up with another girl because we were never exclusive in the first place. I'm just saying, how do I go about this concert thing, should I still reach out to her and ask her if she wants to go? If she says yes, then I'll figure it out from there and talk about our relationship in person, but if she answers no or just leaves me on read, I'll take that as a final answer to move on. I have other girls that are into me, I just happen to be invested in this one because we get along so well.

Reach out to her and tell her "Hey, I am goin' to this concert at this time, this place. If you wanna join, let me know. Have fun".