"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Does an increase in a man's value bring in newer better friends?

Good Gao

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I know we don't talk about social circles all that much but a lot of us who picked up on this stuff after our school years (teens to early 20s) and don't have that built in benefit of student life (where it is supposedly easy to make friends) do wonder about this very thing.

For those who are getting their lives together in regards to money, finances, career, and life goals; we talk about how it can bring success with women or with better women but do newer better friends also happen as a result?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You'll have good friends if you're selective about who your befriend. The bigger difference is the respect these people will have for you and how they interact with you.
 

Who Dares Win

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Yes it does, the higher the league you play the higher the people you meet and deal with.

You cant hang out with the wolf of wallstreet if you play world of warcraft online the whole day.

Someone said that you are the sum of the 5 people you attend the most and I believe it, but I also believe that the 5 people you attend the most are not that far in terms of value from you.
 

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No, only new acquaintances.

As my late, great friend always said "Friends come and friends go, but the only people you can trust are from the old neighborhood".
 

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...the only people you can trust are from the old neighborhood".
There's wisdom in friends that have seen you go through the thick and thin of it all. Survive a job loss, separation/divorce, serious accident, bout with depression, etc.. Old friends will not bow out in the ninth round. They'll say "Come on man, let's go get a beer."

Treasure those friendships because they are rare and are valuable. They let you have a short pity party and then tell you you're being an idiot and to become stronger. I learned who my true friends are when I separated from my ex-spouse and returned to the path of my Don Juan growth.

I had one solid best friend text me once a week during the separation to ask me how I was. In a period of depression where I felt abandoned and discarded, I could count on this good buddy to exchange war stories on the road back to mental health. I hope to stay friends with this guy and a few other rare ones until old age.

Continue to be on the look out for new social circles, networking, and other opportunities. However, never forget the ones that helped you along the way, that know when to call you out when you're not being authentic toward yourself.

Cut out the negative ones that only bring negative energy into your life.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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No. When you are extremely focused on yourself, you don't have time to make friends and screw around to try and meet people.
 
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