Adding value instead of leeching value.

[narcissist]

In my quest to become the best person I can possibly and realistically become I have realized that adding value to the lives of others is a much better paradigm to act from than the paradigm of leeching value from others. It is the difference between "I'll give YOU something Because I want to and I'm abundant" vs "You owe me something"

My question is, in what ways do you guys add value to the lives of others on a daily basis that derive from the giving paradigm?

Cheers. Let's get this discussion rolling fellas.

 

[The Duke]

I've always been good at helping people work thru problems involving their personal lives. I'm the go to person when they have "issues". I will always make time to sit down and talk with them like I was their counselor. I was fortunate enough to come from a family with zero dysfunction that always sat down and worked out problems. So I guess this is my way of paying it forward.

 

[wifehunter]

Great, but I there are people, on this board who don't know the meaning of value. We should probably define that first.

What is value?

 

[RichardTheFrog]

Great, but I there are people, on this board who don't know the meaning of value. We should probably define that first.

What is value?

Yes, please tell me what is value.

 

[cola]

Great, but I there are people, on this board who don't know the meaning of value. We should probably define that first.

What is value?

Having qualities either mental, physical or spiritual that others can gain from


I.e The nice co worker who remembers everyone's birthday and brings them a small gift is giving value.

Being an alpha who is admired and well liked. Yet deciding to start eating lunch with the quiet nerdy kid every day at work is giving value.

When a coworkers family member dies and its their first day back to work stopping at Walgreens and getting a card and writing a couple heartfelt paragraphs is giving value.

Being a sexy, well dressed & good smelling man beast and going to a group event with one of your plates is giving her value...

Etc etc

Basically op is saying
.. Instead of waking up every day and saying "what does the world have for me"..
Start saying every day when you awake "what do I have to give the world"..

 

[IraLeo]

1) stay away from blue pillers and white knights.

 

[wifehunter]

1) stay away from blue pillers and white knights.

You mean, everyone who is not DJ?

Lolz!!!

 

[EverSure75]

In my quest to become the best person I can possibly and realistically become I have realized that adding value to the lives of others is a much better paradigm to act from than the paradigm of leeching value from others. It is the difference between "I'll give YOU something Because I want to and I'm abundant" vs "You owe me something"

My question is, in what ways do you guys add value to the lives of others on a daily basis that derive from the giving paradigm?

Cheers. Let's get this discussion rolling fellas.

I've become somewhat of a known voice in the creative circles here. I'm not out there like that but I always make time for young men trying to enter the creative field. A lot of them remind me of myself 15...20 years ago.

When I can...I invite them to my studio and we bounce ideas off one another. I share projects I'm working on freely. I share my failures and struggles as well. A few have gone on to steal ideas but for the most part they seem very appreciative of me.

A benefit of this i didn't expect is how 'popular' this has made me. Recently a very well respected visual artist (not my field) approached me out the blue...saying he wanted to get together and talk and possibly collaborate on something together.

I think I'm adding value to their lives and it feels good.

 

[IraLeo]

You mean, everyone who is not DJ?

Lolz!!!

Exactly.

 

[Plums]

In my quest to become the best person I can possibly and realistically become I have realized that adding value to the lives of others is a much better paradigm to act from than the paradigm of leeching value from others. It is the difference between "I'll give YOU something Because I want to and I'm abundant" vs "You owe me something"

My question is, in what ways do you guys add value to the lives of others on a daily basis that derive from the giving paradigm?

Cheers. Let's get this discussion rolling fellas.

Just being kind and tolerant of others is a good start. Make people feel good about themselves. Look for qualities people have and not flaws. Be honest. Be strong and avoid hurting people by design because of your own self-doubts and weaknesses.
Offer advice but don't force your opinions onto others.

 

[Reykhel]

Just being kind and tolerant of others is a good start. Make people feel good about themselves. Look for qualities people have and not flaws. Be honest. Be strong and avoid hurting people by design because of your own self-doubts and weaknesses.
Offer advice but don't force your opinions onto others

That's comedy gold. That actually made me fvcking laugh long and hard.

going by the following thread, this female troll (who I suspect is a tranny, because it's even attacked @sazc a female poster and a good contributor) is a fvcking VALUE THIEF and is the complete opposite of what it's written above...
Have a look for yourself and then read it's description again!! ah good stuff
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/guy-settles-on-dating-an-obese-woman.241182/page-2#post-2444038

How about a ban.

 

[Plums]

You can't help yourself can you. SAD.

 

[Plums]

That's comedy gold. That actually made me fvcking laugh long and hard.

going by the following thread, this female troll (who I suspect is a tranny, because it's even attacked @sazc a female poster and a good contributor) is a fvcking VALUE THIEF and is the complete opposite of what it's written above...
Have a look for yourself and then read it's description again!! ah good stuff
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/guy-settles-on-dating-an-obese-woman.241182/page-2#post-2444038

How about a ban.

Just for your information I have received private messages from seven different member of this forum who are absolutely sick to the back teeth of your bullying and remarks. They want you banned. You are not a very popular fellow on this site.

 

[sazc]

Now THAT made me LOL, for real

 

[Plums]

Now THAT made me LOL, for real

Yes one of the reasons they haven't asked for him to be banned is that he is such a joke. They love me giving him a good puzziewhipping. Glad you do too

 

[sazc]

Yes one of the reasons they haven't asked for him to be banned is that he is such a joke. They love me giving him a good puzziewhipping. Glad you do too

riiight......

 

[Plums]

riiight......

 

[Billtx49]

Looks like a few people are leeching value from this thread.