"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm not like the other girls

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So I tried to kiss the girl. I could hug her, hold her hand, she gave me kisses on the cheeks before, I held hand on her knee and caressed her leg but when I tried to kiss her she said "I'm not like the other girls" (yeah sure) and did not allow me to kiss her. I tried few times. Later we cuddled and slept together but nothing more.

I wonder if there are good counters to her saying such thing.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So I tried to kiss the girls (I could hug her, hold her hand, she gave me kisses on the cheeks before). She said "I'm not like the other girls" and did not allow me to kiss her. I tried few times. Later we cuddled and slept together but nothing more.

I wonder if there are good counters to her saying such thing.
Man, the "I'm not like the other girls" is a cop out, there's no real meaning to that phrase.
 

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So I tried to kiss the girl. I could hug her, hold her hand, she gave me kisses on the cheeks before, I held hand on her knee and caressed her leg but when I tried to kiss her she said "I'm not like the other girls" (yeah sure) and did not allow me to kiss her. I tried few times. Later we cuddled and slept together but nothing more.

I wonder if there are good counters to her saying such thing.
Welcome to the FZ.
 

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The only good counter here is not letting it visibly bother you. Maybe give her another date/chance but if she won't let you kiss her then she's either just not interested or is going to be way too much work.
 

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So I tried to kiss the girl. I could hug her, hold her hand, she gave me kisses on the cheeks before, I held hand on her knee and caressed her leg but when I tried to kiss her she said "I'm not like the other girls" (yeah sure) and did not allow me to kiss her. I tried few times. Later we cuddled and slept together but nothing more.

I wonder if there are good counters to her saying such thing.
Now you say "slept together."

Is that shared a bed nothing happened sleep? Or is this "sechs" slept together?

If it is the second, you may want to remind her " you are just like the other girls."
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Nah, go find more plates.
 

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Typical ASD line... Probably needed more comfort building for the lay.
 

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"I'm not like the other girls".

I would put this in the same circular file cabinet along with "I dont do hookups", "I dont fvck on the first date" and "I'm not one of those crazy chicks".

All lies. They will all do hookups, fvck on the first date and are all crazy to some extent. The key is they may not fvck on the first date unless its with the right guy/game and will be crazy under the right game/wrong guy.

So they are in fact like other girls when they say "I am not like other girls".

As a general rule, when a chick goes out of her way to stress that she is or isnt something in particular, take it to the bank that she is. She isnt trying to talk me into believing her, rather still trying to convince herself and I am just the available audience.
 

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"I'm not like the other girls" = I'm a frigid prude and I think that's something to be proud of

usually uttered by teenagers who think that for whatever reason every girl except them is a slut, and that they should set themselves apart by limboing under the bar (isn't a girl refusing to suck your d!ck exactly what you want in a woman?)

that's all assuming that she's telling the truth and not just lying through her teeth out of low interest (trying to make an excuse not to do anything with you because she doesn't like you) or to manipulate you (god digger/beta bux, hoe into a housewife, etc.)

either way, it's not a good thing. get rid of her unless she relents
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I wonder if men are as predictable and generic... Probably
yes. many men are just as dumb and lame as most women are. that's why OLD is so easy in some places, women set the bar at rock bottom because every guy they meet has no social skills
 

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Hahahaha. This just proves you know nothing. What are you even on here?
Really? How many men do you date?

I've explained how I found SS and why I'm here before. You can find the info if you look around. No need to repeat.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have a high opinion of men, I enjoy the company of men a great deal & am very comfortable with men.

I didn't actually express an opinion, rather an observation. Men are quite predictable in dating scenarios. So are women to a great degree, which is why this site is generally worthwhile. It teaches men to understand common occurrences in female behavior.

Not sure how that is an indictment of any sort.

Humans are predictable to a great degree...how is that a surprise? :)
 
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