"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to get stupid strength?

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I know genetics plays a part in strength and everything, but we can still train right? So then how can we train in such a way to where we can get stronger, more explosive, more powerful, more speed, etc. without getting huge? My brother and I have been wondering for a while now how we can get to that point but we don't know how. To give you an idea of what I mean by stupid strength, I'm talking about like Clarence Kennedy if any of you have seen him:

This shows him from ages 15-23. Yes, this dude was squatting 170 kg/375 lbs at 15 years old. He got a little bit bulkier at the end but I think it's because he may have started taking steroids after he injured his knee or something (apparently he put on 20 kg/~45 lbs in a year as an advanced lifter once he came back from his injury and he maintained relatively low bf%). But this guy is basically the epitome of what I want to become, especially when he was still slimmer but could somehow lift more weight than anyone I know. How can I get this way?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stop crying about your BPD relationship and use the pain to drive you in the gym. That will get you going.
 

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Stop crying about your BPD relationship and use the pain to drive you in the gym. That will get you going.
This was the most unhelpful thing ever. First off, I'm not in a BPD relationship. Second, I don't get heartbroken like the guys on here do. I just don't, it's who I am. Third, when you train for the reasons that I do, women are the last thing that preoccupy your mind in the weightroom.

I'm asking for actual fitness ideas, different training regimens, or logical reasoning for how this guy got so damn strong for his size, and what I can do to become the same. Training 'harder' doesn't mean **** if it'll just make me look bloated as hell. I don't need rage from women to fuel my workouts because that's training for all the wrong reasons. Why would I train to spite someone else? Why not do it to please and impress yourself?

So I ask again: How can I get as strong and as powerful as the dude in the video without getting bulkier? Not necessarily as strong, but pound for pound I'd like that.
 

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How can I get this way?

Im guessing he is quite small/ has has small levers to start with which makes big poundage easier to lift.. He's doing a lot of olympic lifting which is also very much about technique. If you wanna get strong without getting too much mass then train low reps and heavy weight. Go to a power lifting gym.
 

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Cross Fit or Power Lifting are the two great options. I'm a big guy, but my body just doesn't seem like to like heavy weight no matter what I do. Genetics really plays the biggest role. Imo of course.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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1. Never go to failure
2. No more than five reps per set
3. Lift heavy
4. Lift often
5. Take longer rest periods between sets
6. Focus on compound movements
 

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That weight is pretty impressive, but my God that dude doesn't even look like he lifts...whats the point?
 

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That weight is pretty impressive, but my God that dude doesn't even look like he lifts...whats the point?
Because I am fine with how I look. Maybe some minor things, but to be honest I'm happy with my body. I just want to get some astronomical numbers like that guy.
 

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1. Never go to failure
2. No more than five reps per set
3. Lift heavy
4. Lift often
5. Take longer rest periods between sets
6. Focus on compound movements

Pretty much. Lifting heavy is about training your CNS. If you regularly train to failure, it's hard on your body to recover from. Not saying you can find your limits once in a while, but the goal is add weight to the bar every week when you become an immediate lifter. You can't do that when your body can't recover from the stress you put on it.

The guy didn't put on a lean 45lbs in a year naturally. Not knocking his choices but it sounds like he used drugs.

Why are you worried about "getting huge"?

That's not going to happen by accident & you will get more positive attention from being huge than from being strong. The babes don't line up in the gym to see how much you can squat or press.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why are you worried about "getting huge"?

That's not going to happen by accident & you will get more positive attention from being huge than from being strong. The babes don't line up in the gym to see how much you can squat or press.
My physique is fine, but for my athletics I cannot be big and bulky. Any additional gains in size will be made with training for strength and power. Look good, but be GREAT. What's the point of looking strong if you're actually a weakling?
 

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I've got similar goals as you. I find it hard to gain strength, but funnily enough I have no problems getting bigger.

I recently increased my squat by 55lbs in a span of 6 weeks. I used the alphadestiny novice program.

I think the principle is to train the movement 3 or more times a week, 4-6 reps, with linear periodiodization of very small increments e.g 2lb increase per week.

Also the program needs to have been tested and reputable. If you make one up yourself it probably won't work, unless you're a expert training coach.
 

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I've got similar goals as you. I find it hard to gain strength, but funnily enough I have no problems getting bigger.

I recently increased my squat by 55lbs in a span of 6 weeks. I used the alphadestiny novice program.

I think the principle is to train the movement 3 or more times a week, 4-6 reps, with linear periodiodization of very small increments e.g 2lb increase per week.

Also the program needs to have been tested and reputable. If you make one up yourself it probably won't work, unless you're a expert training coach.
I make up my own workouts and it's worked out pretty well for me so far. Back when I was lifting 6 days a week I put 30 lbs on my bench in about 5 or 6 weeks too. My squat is increasing regardless of anything really. Bench is stalling but I know why. And power cleans are only stalling because I'm focusing on technique right now (I don't do deadlifts). Plus I'm currently only lifting 3 days a week.

I already follow the concept of progressive overload. But I want to get stronger without gaining size. I was reading some stuff about strengthening your tendons or something? And CNS training as well. But Inhavent fully figured out how to train either without directly training the muscle, which causes it to get bigger.
 
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