Friend of mine was dumped unexpectedly

[ThisNThat]

It's interesting relationships are so disposable these days. Friend of mine was seeing this woman the past few months. You could tell from the Facebook posts they were into each other and he's pretty careful about who he posts on Facebook when he starts dating them.

I hadn't seen him in a while, then one day I had seen him out and asked him how and <her name> were doing. He said, "We're no longer together, she said she never did love me anyway."

I was like "Ouch, sorry man! Been down that road myself"

It's amazing how like this, even after a marriage of 20 years a man can come home and see his wife's bag packed in such a spontaneous fashion.

I dunno, what is going on in a woman's head when she's willing to throw in the towel and give up?

 

[lizardking82]

It doesn't even matter what's goin' on in her head. All you can do is react as calmly as you can and move on. Deal with the pain, as long as you have to. Then move on with your life and never make women the main focus of it. Like, never. Learned this the hard way miself.

 

[wifehunter]

The guy is CLUELESS...obviously

Breakups are an excuse to spin more plates. Yay!

 

[ThisNThat]

The guy is CLUELESS...obviously

Obviously? How so?

 

[wifehunter]

Obviously? How so?

Women, subconsciously, give off subtle warning signs. He failed to notice.

 

[btownbuck2012]

It doesn't even matter what's goin' on in her head. All you can do is react as calmly as you can and move on. Deal with the pain, as long as you have to. Then move on with your life and never make women the main focus of it. Like, never. Learned this the hard way miself.

The thing is though that reacting calmly to something like this isn't normal, either.

 

[lizardking82]

The thing is though that reacting calmly to something like this isn't normal, either.

As calmly as he possibly can. I understand, man. I reacted like the most beta possible person when my last girlfriend decided to leave me. I know it's not easy and it's normal and I don't expect any guy to just DGAF after 5 years of being with someone. I just think it is possible to minimize the damage by being tied emotionally to someone CAREFULLY. People dive in and I get it... I know, it's a beautiful feeling to just be able to rely on someone for love, affection, care. Thing is, you're older than me and most probably more experienced, too. You know how guys come here with hearts torn apart just because this woman decided he was no longer her best man. **** like this happens everyday especially in today's society and you got mostly guys being heartbroken and possibly emotionally scarred for the rest of their life.

 

[ThisNThat]

Women, subconsciously, give off subtle warning signs. He failed to notice.

LOL...what, you have a mind reading device or something?

 

[ThisNThat]

**** like this happens everyday especially in today's society and you got mostly guys being heartbroken and possibly emotionally scarred for the rest of their life.

Does this justify not being "all in" when being emotionally invested in future romantic partners? To always be ready to walk away, no matter how long you've been with them?

Easier said than done I suppose.

 

[wifehunter]

LOL...what, you have a mind reading device or something?

No, and yes... I cannot, straight up, read minds. But, I can read situations and nonverbal communication, to find out what's going on in they're heads. It's all based on probabilities, so it's not 100%.

That's what DJs do.

 

[mikey2012]

"dumped unexpectedly" is an oxymoron

 

[ThisNThat]

No, and yes... I cannot, straight up, read minds. But, I can read situations and nonverbal communication, to find out what's going on in they're heads. It's all based on probabilities, so it's not 100%.

He told me that he was unexpected until she ghosted on him a week ago. It was only when she did that, is when he took notice.

That's what DJs do.

Don't break your arm patting yourself on the back, *eyeroll*

 

[bigneil]

It's interesting relationships are so disposable these days. Friend of mine was seeing this woman the past few months. You could tell from the Facebook posts they were into each other and he's pretty careful about who he posts on Facebook when he starts dating them.

I hadn't seen him in a while, then one day I had seen him out and asked him how and <her name> were doing. He said, "We're no longer together, she said she never did love me anyway."

I was like "Ouch, sorry man! Been down that road myself"

It's amazing how like this, even after a marriage of 20 years a man can come home and see his wife's bag packed in such a spontaneous fashion.

I dunno, what is going on in a woman's head when she's willing to throw in the towel and give up?

Men often act like they were surprised by a breakup. That means they missed a dozen warning signs. Women don't dump men until they have thought about it a LOT.

When my 18 month relationship ended in 2015 I read her like a book. Early signs were there the previous date and I had tried to end it then, and she begged me not to. But now I knew she had prepared herself. I said "Do you think it's time to end it?" and she said "I don't know..." and I said "That means yes" and we ended it right then and I never saw her again.

That's why you should let women do nearly 100% of the text initiation. Just reply, or maybe occasionally text something humorous or a date invitation.

 

[wifehunter]

Does this justify not being "all in" when being emotionally invested in future romantic partners? To always be ready to walk away, no matter how long you've been with them?

Easier said than done I suppose.

Walking away is hard. But, when things aren't working, there are no other options. Unless you enjoy being disrespected.

 

[wifehunter]

Don't break your arm patting yourself on the back, *eyeroll*

Oh, have you not read the DJ bible? You may want to start there.

 

[ThisNThat]

Walking away is hard. But, when things aren't working, there are no other options. Unless you enjoy being disrespected.

There was no disrespect going on. Not sure where you get that idea. You're quite presumptuous in your posts. Anyways, back on topic.

 

[greatsnake]

So much **** goes on in a woman's head and to be quite frank, there is no point to be thinking about what else someone else is thinking. Things are the way they are and that's it. Once a breakup happens, you are a free man.