"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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The top reasons women cheat

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Hell you can get cheated for being "too attractive", having too big of a c0ck, for being too good in the sack. Some of these b1tches cheat to WIN over you.
Can you elaborate a bit on this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can you elaborate a bit on this.
They cheat you to BEAT you! To dominate, to be the one on top, to be the one in control, to run over you... To show you are not the "boss" of them.

Some women are always "winning", they say "h0es be winning", and they be "winning" some games that pull everyone involved DOWN into the pits of hell, like crabs in a barrel.

I hope you understand. She cheated sometimes to k1ck that dominant males a$$. To show he's not all that. These women will win at the expense of the man. All women aren't like this, but "hot girls" do
tend to be competitive in these ways.
 

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She gets bored, and wants some excitement.
She gets emotionally attached to a new man.
She gets disillusioned with the realities of life and is looking for a fantasy.
Some women just cheat as part of their personality, it's who they are.

Realistically, any woman could pull this crap. ANY ONE. Thinking you're too alpha or your frame is too strong is crazy talk. It's ultimately a matter or luck, one you've got alot of control over but not COMPLETELY.
I do believe that anyone might cheat under the proper circumstances. Even if that isn't strictly true, you have to live your life like it is, because no matter how well you screen, there is NO guarantee that another person will always have your best interests at heart. As buck says, it's something you can't have complete control over.
 

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She gets bored, and wants some excitement.
She gets emotionally attached to a new man.
She gets disillusioned with the realities of life and is looking for a fantasy.
Some women just cheat as part of their personality, it's who they are.


I do believe that anyone might cheat under the proper circumstances. Even if that isn't strictly true, you have to live your life like it is, because no matter how well you screen, there is NO guarantee that another person will always have your best interests at heart. As buck says, it's something you can't have complete control over.
ANYONE won't cheat. Some of us have a commitment to ourselves NOT to cheat. However yes, if our woman starves us out we may cheat!

Some of the women are always looking around, or heavily influenced by the gossip vines she listens to ( her friends and circles she listens to ).
 

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I'm to the point in life I really don't care if they cheat or not. I've been there, got my azz beat down and heart stomped on. Nothing can hurt me anymore. I'll just walk away from them and find a replacement.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ANYONE won't cheat. Some of us have a commitment to ourselves NOT to cheat. However yes, if our woman starves us out we may cheat!

Some of the women are always looking around, or heavily influenced by the gossip vines she listens to ( her friends and circles she listens to ).
Everyone is capable of cheating if the circumstances are right.

Everyone is capable of murder if the circumstances are right.

The circumstances in question are different for everyone, it's just a matter of where on the spectrum of probability they lie.

For some individuals their subjective circumstances required to cheat are aligned often enough that they will cheat in every relationship repeatedly. For others, the "right" circumstances are so far fetched or unlikely that they will never be in a position to cheat.

Remember, a decision such as cheating is an emotional one at its core and all emotions are impermanent and subject to change. You can tell yourself now whatever you want to hear and say you'll never do this and never do that but at the end of the day how you feel in that moment will dictate your behaviour.
 

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Everyone is capable of cheating if the circumstances are right.

Everyone is capable of murder if the circumstances are right.

The circumstances in question are different for everyone, it's just a matter of where on the spectrum of probability they lie.

For some individuals their subjective circumstances required to cheat are aligned often enough that they will cheat in every relationship repeatedly. For others, the "right" circumstances are so far fetched or unlikely that they will never be in a position to cheat.

Remember, a decision such as cheating is an emotional one at its core and all emotions are impermanent and subject to change. You can tell yourself now whatever you want to hear and say you'll never do this and never do that but at the end of the day how you feel in that moment will dictate your behaviour.
I'm 45, I've been changed. If my needs are currently met in full, I as an individual will have zero desire to cheat. I don't even want it in my mind.
 

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Don't you guys think that for example, how busy and dedicated a woman is in what she does also plays a role in this? Like, if she is workin' on sth, a business or a job she loves + is gettin' the right treatment from her partner, I think the cheating chances reduce quite a lot.

@Reykhel you know and have heard Patrice, he's the man! :D
 

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I believe there are 2 types of unhappy women. Those who cheat and those who walk away if they are that unhappy.

I would much rather end it with the walk away chick if things go south
 

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I believe there are 2 types of unhappy women. Those who cheat and those who walk away if they are that unhappy.

I would much rather end it with the walk away chick if things go south
What makes them unhappy? Some of them look for things to be unhappy about.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What makes them unhappy? Some of them look for things to be unhappy about.
Some of them are so happy it makes them feel not right so they wanna get less happy and they fuk everything up.
 

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Don't you guys think that for example, how busy and dedicated a woman is in what she does also plays a role in this? Like, if she is workin' on sth, a business or a job she loves + is gettin' the right treatment from her partner
On the other hand, statistically, the most common cheating partner is a co-worker.
 

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Why did you say that?
I'm pretty sure I've read it in a few places. Is it not true?

It makes sense to me because people at work spend a lot of time together.. Then you have that whole "work husband/work wife" phenomenon. Things happen.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I'm pretty sure I've read it in a few places. Is it not true?

It makes sense to me because people at work spend a lot of time together.. Then you have that whole "work husband/work wife" phenomenon. Things happen.
They do. They tend to sweep relationship problems under the rug at home, and everyone at work has their best face forward and respectful. So over time and communication they grow
closer and things happen.
 

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It makes sense to me because people at work spend a lot of time together.. Then you have that whole "work husband/work wife" phenomenon. Things happen.
Temptations escalate if work travel is frequent, travel distance, and alcohol is involved. For example, having to go hotel restaurants, bars, lounges to woo the customer/client, or talk shop with other coworkers while on the trip. If business is stressful, home life sucks or boring... that person will be looking for a distraction.
 

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They do. They tend to sweep relationship problems under the rug at home, and everyone at work has their best face forward and respectful. So over time and communication they grow
closer and things happen.
It's that whole 'things are not so great at home" work honeymoon phase "she/he really gets me!" bullchit.

I've always thought females cheat because of lack of attention, but there are females with poor role model situations/messed up childhoods who cheat/monkey branch for validation - sexual validation, self esteem, ego validation, attention validation.

oh yea, and resentment, resentment at their partner can cause people to cheat.
 
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It's that whole 'things are not so great at home" work honeymoon phase "she/he really gets me!" bullchit.

I've always thought females cheat because of lack of attention, but there are females with poor role model situations/messed up childhoods who cheat/monkey branch for validation - sexual validation, self esteem, ego validation, attention validation.

oh yea, and resentment, resentment at their partner can cause people to cheat.
People can cheat because they need EXCESS outside attention.... Nothing you did wrong.
 

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It's because most women get close to people they work with. They start talking about their marriage/relationship problems at work, interested men start lending an ear and then become the person the woman confides in. The woman in turn starts developing an emotional attachment to him and the panties end up coming off.

Let's not give MOST women too much credit. They feel something is missing, start taking to people about it and then wind up developing that emotional bond with them and eventually screw them.

Some women are attracted to the strictly physical aspects of sechs, but most are emotionally driven. Men are physical instead of emotional about sechs for the most part, especially early in a relationship.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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