Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I've come to a stage in my life where I've grown more and more introvert. Basically because woman are hypertrophy and I just can't imagine myself being the best they can get. There is always someone better than me that they could be with.

I see a girl I like and immediately think "yeah well you're just a ****". It has gone terribly, terribly wrong and I feel like it's only getting worse.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I've come to a stage in my life where I've grown more and more introvert. Basically because woman are hypertrophy and I just can't imagine myself being the best they can get. There is always someone better than me that they could be with.

I see a girl I like and immediately think "yeah well you're just a ****". It has gone terribly, terribly wrong and I feel like it's only getting worse.
That's called becoming bitter. Salty. Sour grapes. This is bad.

That is instantaneous negative thinking rather than value assessment and is the kind of thought process that gets you stuck on places like 4chan making "feels threads" or skipping blue pill and going straight to black pill.

When you see a girl, you should be able to see her negative qualities and positive qualities, and decide how to act from there, rather than see a girl you like and assume the worst or tag her instantly as low quality.

Not saying you have to get to know every arched-eyebrow prada-bag ***** you meet, most of them are low quality, but you should treat it like you seeing a brand of bread you don't like at the store, with apathy. Apathy > Dislike.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I've come to a stage in my life where I've grown more and more introvert. Basically because woman are hypertrophy and I just can't imagine myself being the best they can get. There is always someone better than me that they could be with.

I see a girl I like and immediately think "yeah well you're just a ****". It has gone terribly, terribly wrong and I feel like it's only getting worse.
you eventually get over that, your hatred will subside but your libido is everlasting.
 

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Think of yourself as compared to a 5-10 dude moving average. That's about the extent of most women's memories.

You don't have to be the best she can get. All you have to do is be the best among the past 5-10 guys she's interacted. That should be pretty easy, especially if you increase your shots on goal.

And once you've "got her" your next job is to find a better girl before she finds a better guy.

The more you play, the better you get, and the higher "quality" woman you'll snag, AND you'll increase the size of your average (the number of dudes in her memory that you score better than) from say, 10 dudes, to 100 dudes, etc.
 

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Think of yourself as compared to a 5-10 dude moving average.
This post was revealing. So if a woman is exposed to attention daily on social media, OLD, or in person with many suitors it's harder to leave a lasting impression because of the high turnover rate. I.e. she's outgoing, ultra extroverted, "free-spirited", likes heaps of attention. A DJ would then have to be her best option, indeed. That's why I feel like scarcity or withdrawing attention to maintain respect, honor, and mystery doesn't hold the value like it used to (welcome to input here).

A DJ can't control the high volume of male attention she gets. The best he can do is control his frame, continue self-improving, and spin plates. If she knows she gets more opposite sex volume than the one she's with, she'll soft next early. It just seems to be the nature of the game with respect to the power struggle dynamic in SMV.

I like the idea of hooking the plate and keeping options aggressively open before the plate finds a monkey branch to jump to first. :cool:
 

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I like the idea of hooking the plate and keeping options aggressively open before the plate finds a monkey branch to jump to first.
All's fair in love and war. Women are programmed to act that way without thinking. Men need to consciously get into the habit of doing it.

 

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This post was revealing. So if a woman is exposed to attention daily on social media, OLD, or in person with many suitors it's harder to leave a lasting impression because of the high turnover rate. I.e. she's outgoing, ultra extroverted, "free-spirited", likes heaps of attention. A DJ would then have to be her best option, indeed. That's why I feel like scarcity or withdrawing attention to maintain respect, honor, and mystery doesn't hold the value like it used to (welcome to input here).

A DJ can't control the high volume of male attention she gets. The best he can do is control his frame, continue self-improving, and spin plates. If she knows she gets more opposite sex volume than the one she's with, she'll soft next early. It just seems to be the nature of the game with respect to the power struggle dynamic in SMV.

I like the idea of hooking the plate and keeping options aggressively open before the plate finds a monkey branch to jump to first. :cool:
Scarcity always works...

http://www.kitco.com/charts/livegold.html?sitetype=fullsite
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Men need to consciously get into the habit of doing it.
Seriously... who they hell socially programmed us men to not spin plates and devote all our time, energy, love into one person who's only concerned with weighing her options at all times? :rolleyes:
 

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Is it possible for everyone to become a DJ or at least better with woman? I mean, I have an abnormal low self-esteem, I barely can look anyone in the eye because I think I'm hideous. This is a vicious circle because I can't hold conversation, have no social skills,...

I discovered this site 4 years ago, in that time I have gotten nowhere, and in fact got worse.
 

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None of us are "the best a woman can get".
I see it as a bit different. We are the best a woman can get, but much of the time the woman realises it much too late. By the time she sees value in us, she's old, ugly, and we have moved on. It's not often that a woman can be satisfied with her man, but it does happen. You just need to get in early enough and have all the cards fall perfectly into place for it to work.
 
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