"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dustmuffin

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Have been out on two dates with this girl . Very receptive to kino. She has reciprocated. She agreed to meet at my house then today renigs. She was disrespectful on the second date. She flirted with other guys in front of me.

So Do I cancel the third date? Is it a waste of time? I am leaning toward texting her that she was disrespectful on the second date and that I am uncomfortable meeting her at the venue or do I just suck it up and meet her and see how it goes?

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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pyros

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you're a 'master don juan' and you ask this?
 

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Do anything you want with her, but KEEP EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT TO AN ALL TIME LOW. For your own mind's sake.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Geez guys this is DM the arse fvcking king of the Midwest. I don't think oneitis will be an issue.

Another option along similar lines schedule a double header.
 

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She is back pedaling because she knows you expect sex on the date at your house. She's not got enough comfort level yet with you for sex OR she thinks that's all you want.

How much do you like her? Do you just want sex or possibly something more?

What would you tell you to do if the OP wasn't you?
 

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True however the key issues the disrespect not her wanting to go softly slowly.

Now I know damn well you can handle any particular girl. This is just in the spirit of discussing options and tactics when this kind of situation arises.

Another option venue shift. If she starts being a pain in the ass say let's go grab ice cream Take her by the hand Yank her out of there. Halfway up your favourite alleyway grab her and gently push her against the wall and initiate a make out session. Then look into her eyes and say damn you are hot girl..Swat her on the ass and say but I want ice cream and start walking.

Basically I'm saying use the annoying girls like this one to practice game. It keeps them off balance and provides you with a lot of self entertainment. Then of course pump and dump.
 

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I get the issue at hand folks. If the OP was that offended by the behavior on the second date then he'd just move on. But he'd like to get laid. She knows this.

It's a little chess match. Right now she's winning. She was disrespectful? Or was she really just insecure? It doesn't much matter unless he'd like to date her a while.

My first thought was simply PASS but OP didn't automatically do that for whatever reason.

OP has his ego wrapped up in whether he can get her in bed and has given the ego more priority than what her actual behavior warrants.
 

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Act with indifference. She was trying to get a rise out of you. Also, was she flirting or just talking ? Either way, indifference is your friend. You will seem secure in yourself, plus its only the second date, who cares. Go talk with other girls.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Give us more detail on how disrespectful she was, what kind of flirting are we talking here
 

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Dude,despite what everyone tells you,keep your intentions of destroying her uteres to yourself,and esclate normaly and take your time,you want her to think:chemistry or it just happened or some other thing,not:im a hoe
 

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Have been out on two dates with this girl . Very receptive to kino. She has reciprocated. She agreed to meet at my house then today renigs. She was disrespectful on the second date. She flirted with other guys in front of me.

So Do I cancel the third date? Is it a waste of time? I am leaning toward texting her that she was disrespectful on the second date and that I am uncomfortable meeting her at the venue or do I just suck it up and meet her and see how it goes?

Opinions welcome.
I would have just left the date when she started flirting with other dudes in front of me. That's a pile of trash with files around it...
 

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I would have just left the date when she started flirting with other dudes in front of me. That's a pile of trash with files around it...
I'm wondering if she was actually flirting, of it was OP just thought it was flirting. Either way he did the right thing. Demand respect out of the gate or never gain it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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To be fair, if she's out with you, her attention should be entirely on you, especially only on a second date. Agree that if you were offended by anything she did or said at such an early stage, move on. Your own standards are your own standards. Stick to them.
 

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Why do you guys care if she flirts another dude? It's obviously a game and you are all falling for it?
This is sooo beta and insecure ...
I'd go on a date kinda like what ubercat is saying and go from there... but she doesn't seem all that interested to be honest.. she might see you as a provider or trying to have you orbit.
 

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Have been out on two dates with this girl . Very receptive to kino. She has reciprocated. She agreed to meet at my house then today renigs. She was disrespectful on the second date. She flirted with other guys in front of me.

So Do I cancel the third date? Is it a waste of time? I am leaning toward texting her that she was disrespectful on the second date and that I am uncomfortable meeting her at the venue or do I just suck it up and meet her and see how it goes?

Opinions welcome.
make the third date your last date if she doesn't suck your d!ck
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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