"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Incantations/phrases you guys say to yourself?

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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I was wondering if anyone did this. It kind of stems from the idea of Pook's 'as you think, you shall become' requote. I was tried this before and found it to work very well actually, but it takes time and consistency. Anyone have experiences with doing so?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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They work better when I say them a few times, and "let them go" I don't obsess or worry if they come true or not. I just put the mantra "out there" after repeating it to myself in certain situations I feel I need a little boost for.
I have a few I say, Be confident, mentally strong, creative, funny, relaxed, intelligent, good looking....etc
 

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They call these affirmations. Where you repeat positive phrases to yourself trying to imbed them in your personality.

I have a few I say, Be confident, mentally strong, creative, funny, relaxed, intelligent, good looking....etc
I'll say similar things to myself before entering a situation, more as a reminder to myself than trying to convince or hypnotize myself.

I've tried using a few affirmations, but I find it boring so I don't usually stick with it. I'm a pretty positive person anyway.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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