logicallefty
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"I need to spend time with my kids."
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Top 10 words of an uninterested woman
- Thread starter El Payaso
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
U should never be hitting up a woman with a kid
Mike32ct
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I'll take some exact ones I remember...
1. "Maybe we'll get back together. Maybe we won't."
<That was 11 years ago, and she hasn't called back yet. I should check my voicemail again to be sure lol.>
2. "I want to get a bunch of people to go to xyz."
<I don't want to be alone with you.>
3. "I'm dating now."
<Does that mean I'm not included?>
4. "Sorry I'm kind of tired tonight. A friend came over last night, and we talked all night. But umm umm we slept in different rooms."
<Can't make this up.>
5. "You're everything I ever wanted in a guy, but I like bad boys."
<She's only 35. She'll grow out of it in 45+ years and be ready for a "beta provider" to help raise her great-grandkids lol.>
1. "Maybe we'll get back together. Maybe we won't."
<That was 11 years ago, and she hasn't called back yet. I should check my voicemail again to be sure lol.>
2. "I want to get a bunch of people to go to xyz."
<I don't want to be alone with you.>
3. "I'm dating now."
<Does that mean I'm not included?>
4. "Sorry I'm kind of tired tonight. A friend came over last night, and we talked all night. But umm umm we slept in different rooms."
<Can't make this up.>
5. "You're everything I ever wanted in a guy, but I like bad boys."
<She's only 35. She'll grow out of it in 45+ years and be ready for a "beta provider" to help raise her great-grandkids lol.>
Young_Don
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I've gotten the "maybe we can be together in the future" line before and the "you're perfect, just not for me".
Both classics. Both tell me I'm never seeing/speaking to this girl again unless I miraculously bump into them in public.
Moving on*
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
logicallefty
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So true. I think a starving lion would give up its kill before a woman between 18 and 45 would give up her precious phone. She might miss a like for her latest selfie by an orbiter.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Glassguy
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"I love you but the timing for me just isnt right".
The same chick texted me 2 months later and asked to meet up for a drink. My response:
"I loved you but the timing for me isnt right. I'm seeing someone else. You're too late".
The same chick texted me 2 months later and asked to meet up for a drink. My response:
"I loved you but the timing for me isnt right. I'm seeing someone else. You're too late".
This sh*t again? It doesn't matter if your plates have kids.
Who said anything about dating?
Oh god don't get me started with this one.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
this!, i'm all up for never get close to a woman with kids, but if she want to open her legs to you and she is still hot, go for it, just don't fall for her or ever take her serious
nismo-4
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AttackFormation
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11. "You're nicer than I thought"/"You're not as c0cky as I thought"
No pvssy for you.
No pvssy for you.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.