"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Taking a break from training

Rainman4707

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Two month ago I was getting sharp pains in my lower back, this was after having knee problems so I have had enough of training. I've trained my whole life. I'm not willing to risk my health anymore. My friend who I trained with has just found out he has slipped vertrabraes in the back, likely due to bodybuilding.

Over the last few years I've had the mentality of the warrior - push through the pain, don't be a wussy. Rest for warriors is to train. Well I've had enough so I haven't trained now for two months.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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mrgoodstuff

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Two month ago I was getting sharp pains in my lower back, this was after having knee problems so I have had enough of training. I've trained my whole life. I'm not willing to risk my health anymore. My friend who I trained with has just found out he has slipped vertrabraes in the back, likely due to bodybuilding.

Over the last few years I've had the mentality of the warrior - push through the pain, don't be a wussy. Rest for warriors is to train. Well I've had enough so I haven't trained now for two months.
You can walk... It doesn't and shouldn't always be pushing thru pain or at the highest intensity. Some of us are strong "enough", like literally way stronger than we need to be, and while we can raise it up some more, whats the point? Plus if we are lucky enough not to be injured and have intact good joints ( knock on wood )...
 

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I loved training, but have to admit I feel free now & not training has given me free time to do important other stuff like working on my house.
 

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I loved training, but have to admit I feel free now & not training has given me free time to do important other stuff like working on my house.
You didn't love training then, did you.

I get fricking depressed when i cant train because of an injury or some such.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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