What? Worst case they toughen you up. But ruin? Not unless you sign a contract. Hit the gym. Then thank whoever "ruined your self esteem". They simply exposed your weaknesses. Man up and address them. Stop drinking Diet Coke, stop eating at Chick-fil-A and make homemade chicken soup with free range chicken bones.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I don't think I will ever "let a woman in"... Or trust
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Tell that to homeless people. Most homeless guys are homeless due to a woman.
Look at Johnny Depp. Can't even be in the trailer of his own film because people think that he beat his ex wife.
Not to mention the men ruined by divorce.
Women can be just so horrible. They do things that make a guy just want to kill themselves.
Homeless due to a woman? Suicide? I thought paying for dinner was bad.
Don't be the poster boy for what not to do.
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All these things happen because of women.
Kid are you fvcking serious?
Are you putting to much stock in women?
Women come and go
Cowboy you are the constant
Time to be more commited...to your life
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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I should rephrase myself a bit.
Women can do all this if you are not careful. And most men are not careful.
I say all this because I won't allow a woman to have this kinda power over me.
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I'm just going off of what I see. And most guys that I know and see through the media get ****ed over by women. He'll look at Kurt Cobain. I'm pretty sure that he killed himself over Courtney Love.
All I am saying is that women are dangerous. They are like exotic pets. Beautiful to look at. But will kill you if you don't pay attention.
Please don't be such a defeatist dumb ****. You know, it upsets me to see a young man with such a mindset.
You sound sound depressed. Why don't you reach out to someone? It would be the fvcking man thing to do.
What's with the defeatist attitude?
Be proactive son
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Say what you will. But it's the overwhelming truth.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is true for the first 2 months or so, especially if you have options, but if a woman of sufficient beauty puts in a sustained effort to win your heart, your heart will become attached to her eventually. It's not only a mental decision, it's a physical reaction of her holding her heart against yours and synchronizing. This is how every attachment starts. She convinces you she is a safe harbor but once you are attached (not a conscious decision but more like the frog boiling in the water slowly) you realize one day that you now need her or she can "break your heart" (connection).
We can have this effect on them as well, and remember: it takes them longer to fall. So we at least need to resist this process of losing control until she loses control also (easier said than done).
At some point, you want a girl who can make you fall for her. IMO, there is no greater feeling than holding someone you love who loves you back. But that can only come with the risk of losing her and feeling pain. Trust me, I've spent my time alone thinking I was perfectly happy as well but didn't know what I was missing.
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I don't think Kurt Cobain took his life over Courtney Love. I sincerely believed he was a troubled man, whose thoughts dwelled on death too often.
Although I do think Robin William's suicide was due to alimony payments he could no longer afford. He was broke at the time of his death.
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Just out of interest have you been following the tv drama "Masters of Sex"? What you said seems reminiscent of season 4 episode 8.
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I watched the entire series (sadly got cancelled) and can confirm.
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Have you ever read his journal? He talks about the negative effect that she had on him. How he wanted to get a divorce and that she was going to lawyer up hardcore.
And just listen to her in an interview back in the day. She is a lot better now. But she would push any mango sucide.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Wasn't she in "The Game"? Didn't they teach her about FRAME before she went on to do a tv interview?
So perhaps she could drive a man with a weak frame to suicide?
Perhaps not so much...a man with a STRONG FRAME
can you read between the lines here...
Trusting women = Weak frame.
Why? Because you should trust YOURSELF. Putting complete trust in others is idiotic.
I trust a woman's motives. Whatever she values or hopes to gain out of a situation is what will predict her behavior. However, I don't trust a woman to always "do right by me". You would have to be a fool. But as you can see by reading this thread.. a lot of men are fools.
What you on about?
That post was a response to the kid saying that women drive men to suicide....
I said men with weak frames maybe, but men with strong frames no.
How is that difficult for you to understand?
How are you confusing that with trust?
Nevermind eh
Men with weak frames always trust women to "do right by them". When this doesn't happen.. some weaker men break down completely and in extreme cases might kill themselves.
Do I really have to spoon feed this sh!t to you?
The average IQ on this forum is dropping fast.
No, I never heard of it but I should check it out.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.