Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I think something has been missed out.
An ability to "play the game" and "outplay them" is necessary. You need to be smart enough not to fall for their tricks, keep THEM guessing and thinking about you instead of the other way around. Essentially all women manipulate, and if you can out-do them, or at the very least see through their game, you are at an advantage.
We all know that a "square", a guy who is too naive, too trusting, too innocent, doesn't get taken seriously by women. They just don't "get it", and that puts women off.
There is no difference in difficulty in getting an attractive woman and an unattractive one.So men are mostly attracted to looks (good looking face) and fertility (big bewbs)
What are most women mostly attracted to?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I would say status and humor are less important.. confidence would probably be the deal breaker for most. I've seen some hot ass woman with complete ****ing douche ****boys who have nothing to offer. Drug addicts driving a ****ty Civic with a tounge ring and a tribal tattoo but are confident enough to hold a girl. I think as you get older, or move on into older chicks, money starts to play an important roll. Woman have done the whole "love conquers anything" stage, and have been abused by dudes with Civics for so long that they need an actual man to support them instead of the other way around.. and then they seek money, and not love. Looks are just an added bonus. And really, I think it just depends on the self confidence of the girl in question. There are woman who are completely superficial in that sense, but I would say looks are less important than you think. The main key here is confidence.so basically ALOT of things attract women, so what are the top 3?
1status (rock star actor sportsman)
2humour(specific type of humor, not all work comedians are not overly attractive but those that use the right humor for women are extremely attractive)
3confidence( not many do it right, once its real its hot, an ugly guy can become hot etc)
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If you have those confidence and status comes by themselves anyway due to a snowball effect that starts in your youth and goes all the way till your last day.Height, hair (or aesthetic buzz or shaved head), face, cheekbones, jawline, skin tone, eyes, shoulder to waist ratio, abs and general muscle tone.
All but one (possibly two) of those is directly controllable, which is why you have no excuse to not be in the best health and shape possible.Height, hair (or aesthetic buzz or shaved head), face, cheekbones, jawline, skin tone, eyes, shoulder to waist ratio, abs and general muscle tone.
Agreed. Max out what you have aesthetically first. Then tweak the personality so you don't come off as awkward/eccentric. That's most of the puzzle.All but one (possibly two) of those is directly controllable, which is why you have no excuse to not be in the best health and shape possible.
At least half of my game is built on aesthetics alone. After that it's a case of simply not fvcking up, which is easy if you have a little confidence, game and are not too eccentric.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Unless you became good looking untill later in life, like 17 or 18. In that situation you almost have to work to get your confidence and status to where it should be.If you have those confidence and status comes by themselves anyway due to a snowball effect that starts in your youth and goes all the way till your last day.
I still fail to see how a short fat bald guy could improve his value by "being more confident" btw
Aren't there environmental factors at play too? Lots of us probably know that girl who picks her suitors based on what her friends say. Or when women flock to you just for being seen with a woman? Never got this myself.Look at basic biology.. females want an alpha or at least a man with alpha qualities like confidence, self control, and "status". They want a protector, someone who makes them feel safe, good looks and athletic bodies are always a plus because should the woman decide to reproduce the offspring has a better chance at survival. This is all on a sub-conscience level, even if she has no desire to have a baby she can't help it due to her biological wiring.
Looks, Personality, and Finances. You want to be efficient in all three.So men are mostly attracted to looks (good looking face) and fertility (big bewbs)
What are most women mostly attracted to?
There are environmental factors, for example family/friend influences, but I think that also ties in with the whole "status" thing. I think the less a woman feels about her own self worth, the less the status factor matters. I've seen some woman with some real "winners".. and %99.9 of them were damaged goods, daddy issues, or just had zero self confidence. Most sane woman want a man that their friends and family will approve of.Aren't there environmental factors at play too? Lots of us probably know that girl who picks her suitors based on what her friends say. Or when women flock to you just for being seen with a woman? Never got this myself.
In reality your worth as a man is not determined by your looks, but if these funny phenomenons go on you could just say they might as well be!
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.