Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I think something has been missed out.
An ability to "play the game" and "outplay them" is necessary. You need to be smart enough not to fall for their tricks, keep THEM guessing and thinking about you instead of the other way around. Essentially all women manipulate, and if you can out-do them, or at the very least see through their game, you are at an advantage.
We all know that a "square", a guy who is too naive, too trusting, too innocent, doesn't get taken seriously by women. They just don't "get it", and that puts women off.
There is no difference in difficulty in getting an attractive woman and an unattractive one.So men are mostly attracted to looks (good looking face) and fertility (big bewbs)
What are most women mostly attracted to?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I would say status and humor are less important.. confidence would probably be the deal breaker for most. I've seen some hot ass woman with complete ****ing douche ****boys who have nothing to offer. Drug addicts driving a ****ty Civic with a tounge ring and a tribal tattoo but are confident enough to hold a girl. I think as you get older, or move on into older chicks, money starts to play an important roll. Woman have done the whole "love conquers anything" stage, and have been abused by dudes with Civics for so long that they need an actual man to support them instead of the other way around.. and then they seek money, and not love. Looks are just an added bonus. And really, I think it just depends on the self confidence of the girl in question. There are woman who are completely superficial in that sense, but I would say looks are less important than you think. The main key here is confidence.so basically ALOT of things attract women, so what are the top 3?
1status (rock star actor sportsman)
2humour(specific type of humor, not all work comedians are not overly attractive but those that use the right humor for women are extremely attractive)
3confidence( not many do it right, once its real its hot, an ugly guy can become hot etc)
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If you have those confidence and status comes by themselves anyway due to a snowball effect that starts in your youth and goes all the way till your last day.Height, hair (or aesthetic buzz or shaved head), face, cheekbones, jawline, skin tone, eyes, shoulder to waist ratio, abs and general muscle tone.
All but one (possibly two) of those is directly controllable, which is why you have no excuse to not be in the best health and shape possible.Height, hair (or aesthetic buzz or shaved head), face, cheekbones, jawline, skin tone, eyes, shoulder to waist ratio, abs and general muscle tone.
Agreed. Max out what you have aesthetically first. Then tweak the personality so you don't come off as awkward/eccentric. That's most of the puzzle.All but one (possibly two) of those is directly controllable, which is why you have no excuse to not be in the best health and shape possible.
At least half of my game is built on aesthetics alone. After that it's a case of simply not fvcking up, which is easy if you have a little confidence, game and are not too eccentric.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Unless you became good looking untill later in life, like 17 or 18. In that situation you almost have to work to get your confidence and status to where it should be.If you have those confidence and status comes by themselves anyway due to a snowball effect that starts in your youth and goes all the way till your last day.
I still fail to see how a short fat bald guy could improve his value by "being more confident" btw
Aren't there environmental factors at play too? Lots of us probably know that girl who picks her suitors based on what her friends say. Or when women flock to you just for being seen with a woman? Never got this myself.Look at basic biology.. females want an alpha or at least a man with alpha qualities like confidence, self control, and "status". They want a protector, someone who makes them feel safe, good looks and athletic bodies are always a plus because should the woman decide to reproduce the offspring has a better chance at survival. This is all on a sub-conscience level, even if she has no desire to have a baby she can't help it due to her biological wiring.
Looks, Personality, and Finances. You want to be efficient in all three.So men are mostly attracted to looks (good looking face) and fertility (big bewbs)
What are most women mostly attracted to?
There are environmental factors, for example family/friend influences, but I think that also ties in with the whole "status" thing. I think the less a woman feels about her own self worth, the less the status factor matters. I've seen some woman with some real "winners".. and %99.9 of them were damaged goods, daddy issues, or just had zero self confidence. Most sane woman want a man that their friends and family will approve of.Aren't there environmental factors at play too? Lots of us probably know that girl who picks her suitors based on what her friends say. Or when women flock to you just for being seen with a woman? Never got this myself.
In reality your worth as a man is not determined by your looks, but if these funny phenomenons go on you could just say they might as well be!
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.