"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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An observation on women and their hair

Bokanovsky

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I find that one of the most obvious tell-tale signs of a woman being crazy (I don't want to say BPD, as the term is overused in my opinion) is frequent change of hairstyles - i.e changing hair color, cutting her hair short only to let it grow long again, etc. Without exception, every woman I have dated who frequently changed her hair was significantly crazier than average. Anyone else have similar experience?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have never dated a woman that significantly changed her hair. I usually only am attracted to long haired brunette middle eastern girls, because I think hair is a major expression of a girls femininity (and i heavily fvck with very feminine girls). However, one thing I think we can agree on is that when a girl constantly changes her hair, it subtly screams "Look at me! Give me attention!" Perhaps this derives from an inner insecurity of not getting enough attention from her parents, perhaps this derives from a mental illness such as BPD, perhaps this derives from a past boyfriend that didn't give her any attention at all. Clearly, however, if you were to date a girl like this she would constantly be wanting attention from you, and may actually get easily upset if you don't provide this for her. There may be unnecessary arguments, getting mad for no reason, clinginess etc etc. The point of the relationship for these girls is to receive attention. It is a form of value-sucking, and so I would say that any relationship with them might perhaps be founded on an unhealthy foundations.

This is presupposing that they actually have a inner insecurity and need for attention and that this alone is what is motivating their continual change in hairstyle. I don't usually like to think in black and white terms, and obviously some of them simply like the look. But be wary and gauge based on other actions. I personally wouldn't date one, just because I don't think it looks good. I like a traditionally beautiful feminine woman, who is perhaps a little bit ethnically ambiguous. But if you are into this type of girl, just keep your eyes peeled for red-flags.
 

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I have never dated a woman that significantly changed her hair. I usually only am attracted to long haired brunette middle eastern girls, because I think hair is a major expression of a girls femininity (and i heavily fvck with very feminine girls). However, one thing I think we can agree on is that when a girl constantly changes her hair, it subtly screams "Look at me! Give me attention!" Perhaps this derives from an inner insecurity of not getting enough attention from her parents, perhaps this derives from a mental illness such as BPD, perhaps this derives from a past boyfriend that didn't give her any attention at all. Clearly, however, if you were to date a girl like this she would constantly be wanting attention from you, and may actually get easily upset if you don't provide this for her. There may be unnecessary arguments, getting mad for no reason, clinginess etc etc. The point of the relationship for these girls is to receive attention. It is a form of value-sucking, and so I would say that any relationship with them might perhaps be founded on an unhealthy foundations.
I have a different theory. Hair is really important to women. Most women pick a particular hairstyle that they feel works best for them in their teens and stick with it. When they drastically change their hair style, it usually accompanies a traumatic, life-changing event, such as breaking-up with a long-term boyfriend. It's supposed to signify a new beginning or something like that. When a woman constantly changes her style, it's like she feels she needs a new beginning every few months, which, in turn, is indicative of deep-seated insecurities and other psychological issues.
 

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I have a different theory. Hair is really important to women. Most women pick a particular hairstyle that they feel works best for them in their teens and stick with it. When they drastically change their hair style, it usually accompanies a traumatic, life-changing event, such as breaking-up with a long-term boyfriend. It's supposed to signify a new beginning or something like that. When a woman constantly changes her style, it's like she feels she needs a new beginning every few months, which, in turn, is indicative of deep-seated insecurities and other psychological issues.
This could also definitely be the case. Interesting theory.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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