icantgetlaid
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be careful .. lots of potential drama here .. you also don't want a false rape accusation in the event she gets caught .. it can ruin your life.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Pretty worked up dude. It was a drop of the hat, I don't judge and there was a spark. I said that to give her comfort. If it was what you said, "get your **** and get out". It would be something she saw as regret and it could be bad. I have texts from her, pics. I'm well within my bounds to protect myself.Bro you meet up and have sex with a 31 year old woman who is still in school. After having sex with her, she tells you "I have 6'2 husband that I gave vows to in a church in front of close friends, family, relatives, 5 bridesmaids, and 500 other close people that I will always love him, cherish him, and take care of him for better or worse till death do us part."
And you reply "The spark and chemical attraction between us is more powerful than anything?"
I would have replied "This is the first time I am hearing this and wouldn't have done this if I knew you were married. I suggest you get your clothes and leave. Don't forget to write."
Come on bro, the sex is that good that you are considering getting involved with a 31 year married woman? THINK ahead. What happens if he finds out? What happens if she blackmails you? What happens if he is a gang? What happens if she doing this with 10 other guys?
Sometimes we are so happy to have sex with an OK looking woman we don't think about the repercussions.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You can look at it one if 2 ways.Met a gal through Match and exchanged numbers and went to a bar for a drink and pool. 31y, hb7, in physical therapy school, 36DD, size 8, just moved from Texas to up here. Kisses closed and the next few days she got super flirty and started sexting with me and nudes and eventually she came over last night. Hot sex for a couple hours ensued and we cuddled for awhile. She was a bit fidgety and finally came clean saying "I have a confession, I'm still married and my husband is in Texas while I finish school". She also hinted at wanting a fwbs while away from home.
Mentally my jaw dropped the floor, but what came out of my mouth was "I don't judge, it's not my place, if there's a spark, I can't deny that".
Now my gut feeling is to run fast and hide, but the sex was good and she's kinky and hot. I have this melancholy feeling because I've known this happens a lot due to the red pill, but have never actually been a part of it. Do I keep boinking her and let her deal with her marriage or just back away all together?
LMAO! Blackmails him?? For what? Why the fvck would he care if someone knew he was banging her? What she going to do, tell his Mom on him?? Please...Come on bro, the sex is that good that you are considering getting involved with a 31 year married woman? THINK ahead. What happens if he finds out? What happens if she blackmails you? What happens if he is a gang? What happens if she doing this with 10 other guys?
Sometimes we are so happy to have sex with an OK looking woman we don't think about the repercussions.
Come on bro, are you that innocent? It's not the fact that it's "someone", it's the fact she is married and has a husband and took vows in front of 1000 witnesses that she will love her husband till death do them part.LMAO! Blackmails him?? For what? Why the fvck would he care if someone knew he was banging her? What she going to do, tell his Mom on him?? Please...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Of course it was; she's a married woman playing away from home.sex was good and she's kinky
And post it here too of courseand mfer you better get video and picture evidence to prove it
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I can attest to this as my mother was the same way. She wanted to cheat on my dad around this time period and was an absolutely horrible mother and wife. Anyone else who would have treated me, my siblings, and my father that badly would have been beat until death, if not by my dad then by me. But she is my mother so we cannot do that. Karma came back to her though because she has MS now so she will slowly become a cripple and die. Which sucks too because I did not wish for this, I wish she would have been a good mother and wife to begin with, that way she would have never had this. But oh well.31 is a weird age for women too. My ex-wife started cheating on me around the 29-30 mark. It's generally where a lot of women will go through a mid life crisis and seek excitement/validation. It rarely ends well for the guy end of the transaction, but in my case, my ex married the guy she was cheating on me with (he was also married and cheating on his wife) and now 22 years later they are still married. And never had any children that might force them to stay together. I don't think any reasonable person would have given that marriage even a 30% chance of surviving even 10 years, much less 20+.
So you never know
Really? Not so sure about that. The single women my age are all ugly. Women over 30 who are attractive will be wifed up.Plenty of single women around. This situation could end with much unwanted drama. You could also become attached. Better to just next her.