"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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In the beginning...

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I feel like I'm close to the top of my game and looking back...

I've noticed that coming off as "on center" / "non needy" from the first few interactions, seems to leave little room for game playing / testing.

Anyone else notice this?

Start well, end well???
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I feel like I'm close to the top of my game and looking back...

I've noticed that coming off as "on center" / "non needy" from the first few interactions, seems to leave little room for game playing / testing.

Anyone else notice this?

Start well, end well???
What got you there?
 

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What got you there?
1. Christ and all the benefits that follow (love, joy, peace, patience, self control, wisdom etc. Aka spiritual gifts.)
2. time
3. experience
4. being a ladies man
5. failing, and learning from failure
6. Ignoring the rules, and only looking at them as guide lines.
7. Being friendly, and showing love to those who haven't earned it, aka strangers.
8. Forsaking foolish people (boundaries / discernment)
9. Having lots of interests
10. Having lots of friends

I'm very thankful!!!

Thanks for asking!
 

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If you come accross as a strong man, her tests will be minor and minimal. Once you begin to lose frame, the tests will become much more severe and more frequent. This end product of the latter situation is the needy guy that chases. More tests = more neediness. She is basically creating the scarcity that strong men naturally create.

Thinking back now, this became especially prevalent in my last relationship. She nevver tested me the first couple months, then it gradually got worse and worse...
 

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Good work OP. I'm starting to get the same. A chick I was working with today started off being friendly and after an hour was basically giggling at everything I said. I'm finding this more and more with almost everyone I meet.

When we go out in to the world to give rather than being in need or looking to take, everything is easier. I've recently heard about approaching women; look at it as inspiring them.

I feel like I'm close to the top of my game and looking back.
Better not get complacent. Next week you'll meet a bird who really blows your mind and then you'll start learning a whole load more lessons.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Better not get complacent. Next week you'll meet a bird who really blows your mind and then you'll start learning a whole load more lessons.
Nah, my father was the poster boy for complacent. He's the anti-rolemodel. My personality won't allow for that.

I hope I do meet someone who challenges me. It could happen any day now with Uber. There's a constant flow of random stunning ladies in my life.

I've been at this for so long, it seems the typical patterns repeat over and over, and it seems like there is nothing new. If I mess up, I'm quick to notice and adjust.
 

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1. Christ and all the benefits that follow (love, joy, peace, patience, self control, wisdom etc. Aka spiritual gifts.)
2. time
3. experience
4. being a ladies man
5. failing, and learning from failure
6. Ignoring the rules, and only looking at them as guide lines.
7. Being friendly, and showing love to those who haven't earned it, aka strangers.
8. Forsaking foolish people (boundaries / discernment)
9. Having lots of interests
10. Having lots of friends

I'm very thankful!!!

Thanks for asking!
How long has the process been for your and are there any particular trials that helped you in particular ? ?
 

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How long has the process been for your and are there any particular trials that helped you in particular ? ?
Sure, I started around 1997, after a failed date with a childhood friend. I was sure it would work with her...I was dead wrong, result failure!!!

A hit a point of feeling hopeless and not knowing what to do. So, me being the research geek that I am, I started looking for answers. Praying, searching for wisdom...

After reading F.J. Shark's book "how to be the jerk women love" athough I don't subscribe to all his views, my perspective changed! My eyes opened! I wasn't blind anymore!!!!
I started experimenting with ladies at work, and results followed. Attraction became fun. Instead of hating women, I learned to appreciate them. The process became entertainment. And, I've been refining my "system" ever since.
 

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An hour ago, I met an adorable Mexican girl at the 99 cents store checkout.

As I walked up to the checkout I said "by the way, you are adorable." she smiled and then proceeded to start playing with her hair. After I paid, we locked eyes and smiled, then I told her to have a goodnight.

Darkhaired girls get to me, something mysterious behind those eyes.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I feel like I'm close to the top of my game and looking back...

I've noticed that coming off as "on center" / "non needy" from the first few interactions, seems to leave little room for game playing / testing.

Anyone else notice this?

Start well, end well???
you've probably just learnt to screen women better , i can sniff a time waster out from 50 miles away these days
 

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