narcissist
Master Don Juan
I am so fvcking horny. I have a 7th grade raging hard-on standing in line at Tim Hortons. I'd smash a 70 year old GILF right now.
Day 2.
Day 2.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Is 9 days long enough to provide an accurate sample in this "scientific research"Why bother asking others what their results are when you aren't open to results that don't support your preconceived notions about it? Sorry buddy, but that's how scientific research works. You have to be open to accepting the data that doesn't support your hypothesis along with the rest.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Indeed. When I fap after being on a no fap spree for a certain period of time , I feel fine. But , I know that if I go it 3 days in a row, im fvcked.I have noticed that even if you (I) fail after a few days, those few days abstinence bring some benefit; like t-levels are already restored to a level that one failure won't make a huge difference.
The biggest detriment for me happens when I fail on consecutive days - therefore t-levels drained too far in a short space of time. Earlier in the year I managed to cut down to once per week (on the same day each week, like a Sunday, when nothing much happens anyway). All the benefits remained, while staving off thirst and agitation of complete abstinence. If you manage 4/5/6 days abstinence each week I think the same benefits remain as for a complete cold turkey. Eventually might cut down or stop completely.
I believe it can postpone the urge to fap for a while but I'm not sure. There was guy in an older nofap post here in ss and he said it can enchase your testo or something. I could never make it anyway because once i start faping while watching porn , is already too late.Is it breaking nofap watching some porn, fapping a bit but not coming? Had this relapse yesterday...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.