"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Manipulation???

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Good afternoon guys, this is my first time posting but I have been lurking for some months already.

Background,

There is this girl at work (we don't work in the same department) we went on a date months ago. We grabbed a couple of drinks on a nice place. I am the idea of whoever ask fot the date, pays.
We walked on the beach at night, sat and talk. i did not try to escalate (mistake one).
When we were walking back to my car, she tried to power play me saying "here, grab my purse while I walk on the sand" I turned around and pretend I was going to grab it and mucking her I said "No" and kept walking.
Dropped her off, cheek kiss and bye.
She texted 1 hr after saying "thanks, I had a great time". This was around 6 months ago

The time passed, and we would flirt a lot at work. in her department, they would say that we fight a lot because we really like each other ( we are really sarcastic with each other, teasing her and her back to me)

Fast forward Tuesday, I called her at 10pm, she did not pick up. it bothered me, but whatever

Next morning I got late to work, and she saw me in the parking lot, she texted me 1 hr after

9:14am Her : Good morning! You need to stop coming to work late... Its unacceptable‼

Her: lol

Her: You called me yesterday.. I saw it very late at night.

9:40am Me: sorry Boss, I won't happen again.

Me: I called you to inform you, we will go to grab a cup of coffee Thursday the 7:30 at XXX.

9:52am Her: Mr. those invites have to be with more anticipation, I can't tomorrow.

10:10am ME: no no no...

Me: Next Wednesday same place same time, or tell when you are available
(I am genuinely busy this weekend until Tuesday)

Not reply from her. I was a little upset, my ego was hurt. I thought, fine I won't reach out until she does.

Today

3:16pm Her: Well I have to teach salsa on Wednesdays.. We can go next Thursday after work.

Funny thing is that she literally came to the office 10 minutes later because she needed help from me.

What do you guys think ?

Sorry for the long post.


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just escalate already
 

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She's not interested move on to a new target. If she was interested you would have fvcked her by now. Don't give me this "she's a good girl crap". If she's young and hot she's banged atleast 2-3 guys in the past 6mo.

She's a co-worker, separate department or not it's best not to sh*t were you eat. You can pratice flirting and teasing but otherwise I advise against it unless you really don't care about your job.

This sounds like a massive case of onetis, find a new prospects, show her a good time and TRY to fvck her already.

Stop "asking" for dates, you set them up. You are the man, you take charge. I suggest more DJ bible reading. Good luck!
 

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Just escalate already
For now, I will just ignore her.
Thank you.

She's not interested move on to a new target. If she was interested you would have fvcked her by now. Don't give me this "she's a good girl crap". If she's young and hot she's banged atleast 2-3 guys in the past 6mo.

She's a co-worker, separate department or not it's best not to sh*t were you eat. You can pratice flirting and teasing but otherwise I advise against it unless you really don't care about your job.

This sounds like a massive case of onetis, find a new prospects, show her a good time and TRY to fvck her already.

Stop "asking" for dates, you set them up. You are the man, you take charge. I suggest more DJ bible reading. Good luck!
Actually you are right, she is young and hot, and she knows that. she loves attention. I don't think it is onetis.
I have a couple of plates, but not attracted to them enough, just to clean the pump. BUT definitely need to improve SO MUCH/TOO MUCH my game. Advices are much appreciated
Thanks for the reply.

just wait till the date, then smash

but she doesnt seem interested
Agree with you, she loves attention, so I will Ignore.

Thanks .
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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