"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
How do you treat AFCs?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wifehunter
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On a side note: I had some female uber passengers say most of the guys are jerks, afc's, players... and only 1% are the rare "good guy". And no, not 3%.
It may be where I live. It's like automatic scarcity...way too easy! Like shooting fish in a barrel!
Infern0
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Most AFC won't even consider change until some next level stuff happens to them
wifehunter
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Yes, this precisely. They are too wrapped up in their emotions to think clearly.
zekko
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That's great, but that doesn't automatically make you the 1% rare "good guy".
I dislike the term AFC, because it's almost as much of a stereotype as the alpha male. But I try to treat everyone with respect unless they prove they are unworthy. If a guy has problems getting women, or if a guy is letting a girl run over him, I will try to gently encourage them in the right direction, but I won't get pushy about it. It's his life and he has to find his right path on his own. I can give him a bit of truth, but he's the one who has to recognize it. Ultimately it's none of my business.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wifehunter
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Maybe not, best to let the ladies decide!
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"I bet she wouldn't act that way if you were brad pit or something like that, think about it."