I started dating this girl, pretty good looking, I went out a few times, we had fun and I invited over a few days ago, we almost had sex but I could not find the condoms I had so we did not but she spent the night. we talked about our relationship and I said to start slowly but that I like her way more than waht I thought (she clearly wants a relationship) After that she initiates contact with me over text but way too cold, (she used to text me every night and morning and very flirty), she also always instantly replies when I text her but in a very cold way, didnt invite her out again yet because I am sick, is she playing games becuase what I said about going slowly?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
CMNILS87
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She wanted to have sex and you ruined the moment literally from missing condoms. Preparation dude. One key to bettering yourself. If you're going on a date, always clean your room, stock condoms in the night stand. You get the gist.
She's cold now to you. Ask her to come over and cook together, if she doesn't reply....so do you. Talk to more women.
She's cold now to you. Ask her to come over and cook together, if she doesn't reply....so do you. Talk to more women.
Rainman4707
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Don't talk to girls about your FEELINGS especially if you're dating. Gives the game away if she finds out you really like her.
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No I don't think she's playing games. She could be busy or just got bored with you. Focus on meeting other girls dude.
hockeyfreak79
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Sex 1st relationship later, you've lost all frame.
STOP talking about RLs & feelings. Date and bang then atleast 10x.
Read the DJ bible.
STOP talking about RLs & feelings. Date and bang then atleast 10x.
Read the DJ bible.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
sodbuster
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WHY are you talking about relationship? That's a woman's job, don't bring it up. Let them. Then make them work for it.... Yes, you needed to bang her. Who doesn't know where their condoms are? That's like not knowing where the toilet paper is.... and you never want to run out of either one
One. You didn't pull the trigger and you didn't have sex with her when she wanted it. Women aren't used being sexually rejected and they never handle it very good.
Two. You told her how you feel. Best way of making a girl go cold or get her interest to plumet is tell her how you feel about her.
Telling her how you feel destroys challenge.
Mike32ct
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Telling her that you want to "start slowly" or "go slowly" won't earn you points. Quite the opposite. You would think that women would respect that, but they don't. If SHE wants to go slow, ok. But don't verbalize it if you don't have to. Talking about it kills it.
Definitely have condoms ready and nearby. There are only two options with today's female:
1. Do it raw. (not recommended)
2. Grab a condom quick and use it. (Recommended)
Stopping to go to the gas station or drugstore to buy condoms will not fly. Women hate interrupting the moment.
This is a tough one to recover from, even though it was a minor mistake. But try one more date and see what happens.
Definitely have condoms ready and nearby. There are only two options with today's female:
1. Do it raw. (not recommended)
2. Grab a condom quick and use it. (Recommended)
Stopping to go to the gas station or drugstore to buy condoms will not fly. Women hate interrupting the moment.
This is a tough one to recover from, even though it was a minor mistake. But try one more date and see what happens.
Rippy
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Personally I think it was less about the sex and more about telling her you really, really like her. Girls don't want guys who are emotionally "easy." Ask yourself: would an outlaw biker say that sh*t?
That's my gut reaction, not enough info in OP to be sure.
That's my gut reaction, not enough info in OP to be sure.