"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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okay I was dating/seeing a girl about a month ago, but she wanted me round hers all the time and abit clingy, so I pulled away a bit. But then my mobile phone number for cut off, so havnt been in contact for a month ... Anyway I've finally had my old number transferred onto a new sim .. And a few messages came in from her .. Obviously a few weeks old. Anyway I just texted saying hi and explained the situation ... And got a text back 'Who's this' I think she's pi**ed with me or genuinely doesn't know who I am because she's deleted my number. Should I just next?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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okay I was dating/seeing a girl about a month ago, but she wanted me round hers all the time and abit clingy, so I pulled away a bit. But then my mobile phone number for cut off, so havnt been in contact for a month ... Anyway I've finally had my old number transferred onto a new sim .. And a few messages came in from her .. Obviously a few weeks old. Anyway I just texted saying hi and explained the situation ... And got a text back 'Who's this' I think she's pi**ed with me or genuinely doesn't know who I am because she's deleted my number. Should I just next?
Yup. Next.
 

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okay I was dating/seeing a girl about a month ago, but she wanted me round hers all the time and abit clingy, so I pulled away a bit. But then my mobile phone number for cut off, so havnt been in contact for a month

Bro if you liked her and had sex with her, why didn't you phone her and tell her 'my mobile is cut off so I can't receive any text messages from you.' You guys are so afraid to explain yourselves, assuming the girl will always be there when you are ready.

... Anyway I've finally had my old number transferred onto a new sim .. And a few messages came in from her .. Obviously a few weeks old. Anyway I just texted saying hi and explained the situation ... And got a text back 'Who's this'
'This is xyz. We were dating/seeing each other about a month ago. I would like to take you out again on Tuesday at 7 pm. Let me know if it works for you.'

I think she's pi**ed with me or genuinely doesn't know who I am because she's deleted my number. Should I just next?
How can you next a girl who is telling you she has no idea who you are? You guys have to be clear and explain yourselves. These girls are not going to rip off their clothes and sleep with you because you are you.
 

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I have banged her loads of times .. And I'm pretty sure she knew it was me .... She was very clingy and definitely wanted more, I just wants a plate.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I have banged her loads of times .. And I'm pretty sure she knew it was me .... She was very clingy and definitely wanted more, I just wants a plate.
She's hurt. What the hell were you expecting if you don't contact her for a month? The whole ghosting thing is to be done for a week at most. Let us know how you solve this, it is an interesting situation.
 

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Tell her who you are. What do you have to lose by doing this? You guys are a bit too quick to next sometimes.
His phone was only off for a couple of weeks. She knew exactly who he was. Until you force game players to stop playing games, they will never change
 

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His phone was only off for a couple of weeks. She knew exactly who he was. Until you force game players to stop playing games, they will never change
Ok, but that still doesn't answer what he has to lose by telling her who he is. And a month is still quite a long time to suddenly stop contacting someone after being in constant communication with them previously.
 

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You didn't contact her for a month and you expected her to just behave like she always did?

Just tell her who you are... don't apologize, tell her you want to see her again and you'll explain what's been going on for a month. Then it's up to her, any other answer than a yes to a date or a counter offer means you have to let this one go.
 

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It was more like 3 weeks than a month .. And I'm not too fussed what she does, I mean I think it's pretty obvious she knew who I was, but you're right she's hurt because she liked me way more than I liked her .... She was cool but definitely wanted more than what I did. I had to back off a bit. Then as I said my phone got cut off .. Was moving networks! So didn't have her number etc.. But I'm ready to move onto my next victim .. But in all honesty got more important stuff going on like getting a job etc. ... Another month I'll look way better back on the diet today (BodyCoach) check this guys recipes out! Also back in the gym so the only thing that's really holding me back now is not having a job. ( before anyone thinks I'm a bum, I'm not ... I was made redundant. )

Low funds is the only thing holding me back from my potential.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Telling her who you are won't do any harm. And even if she did delete your number I don't blame her, you disappeared for a month dude. I'm sure she jumped to all sorts of conclusions about your disappearance.
 

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Telling her who you are won't do any harm. And even if she did delete your number I don't blame her, you disappeared for a month dude. I'm sure she jumped to all sorts of conclusions about your disappearance.
Bro I agree ... She's probably jumping on some new D ... But it is and was all my fault. It was just moving too fast and she was way too into me.
 

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Ok, but that still doesn't answer what he has to lose by telling her who he is. And a month is still quite a long time to suddenly stop contacting someone after being in constant communication with them previously.
Ok. Fair enough. Lets see how she respons if he reaches out.

I guess you never know. Me personally o would have nexted and moved on.
 

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"New phone, who dis."

When chicks do this to me I usually don't reply. About half the time they double text something like "?." Other 50 we never speak again. Oh well, her loss.

I was just trying to fuk anyway. :D
 

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She just texted me again saying 'Hello... ' due to me not replying yesterday
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Women that like you don't forget who you are. Why would you want to waste time or money on someone who doesn't even have you on their radar? Move on. Find someone else.
Ok so they delete your number because you stop calling/texting them for a month. You expect them to remember your phone number? No one memorizes phone numbers anymore, aside from 911 lol. Besides, sending this one text "It's John Smith from wherever" is just oh so time consuming and wastes SO much money that could be used for other stuff....o_Oo_Oo_O

All that message is used for is to see her next response to determine whether or not she was bullsh!tting him. If she wasn't, hurray! If she was boo!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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