I know you guys have been through this so some insight would really help.

[VforVendetta]

As i said, it would help me get out of a place i'm stuck in.

I'm in college, finishing up my first year, living in a big dorm.
All's cool, i feel a craving for women so it's not that. But it's like, i approach, i put in the effort to get myself out there, i'm determined to drive it to the end (close) and then it bores me half way if she's too big of a tease/resisting/playing games...

God forbid it transitions to day two... I just don't want to message/call/hang out if she's not the type of girl i'd be in a relationship with. Not even pu$$y is a motivation to go after these girls even though i clearly am drooling over dat ass.
I'm having a lot of fun living my life, i have stuff i love doing and diving into, discovering, reading. I love partying too, drinking whatever. One nighters are cool and fun in the moment but man... Day two's kill me... What the hell is up with me? Too pu$$y to exert the effort because it's easier to go back into my comfort zone?

And my main problem:
As i'm practicing on getting better with escalation, attuning myself to the right natural timing to amp it up, neg, push pull etc, as soon as i **** up (aka go for the make out too early or get too physical/direct) and she pulls back/says no, my mind just switches to something else entirely and all the craving i had in my body just vanishes. All of that charge i had for her just *poof* gone.

I'm not even engaged in there in the slightest, NO drive to calibrate, stay in there, tweak things more. My body and mind just go ''**** it i got things i wanna do'' and i leave. And i'm not even in abundance with women! I figured i should be hella motivated to get into abundance but nope...

Am i dropping out of state?

 

[Serenity]

Why is this a problem?

 

[VforVendetta]

Why is this a problem?

Don't get me wrong it doesn't feel wrong, i feel great actually and unburdened by this, it just surprises me that i don't have this drive to get the girl home, to close, to get into abundance.

Clearly emotional abundance is there but since i am not having such great results with women lately and they aren't really reaching out to me themselves,i figured i must be coming from a faulty perspective/holding myself back somewhere "because it's easier".

 

[Silko]

'Holding back' is the only way to provoke attraction. In initial phase of course.

 

[VforVendetta]

'Holding back' is the only way to provoke attraction. In initial phase of course.

Yeeeah then i'm not doing something right... I don't just hold back i loose interest completely.

 

[Silko]

Yeeeah then i'm not doing something right... I don't just hold back i loose interest completely.

What's wrong with following your feelings?

 

[VforVendetta]

What's wrong with following your feelings?

Honestly i follow my feelings and my gut all the time, its just that this time i didnt think it was natural to not have the drive to pursue women.
I didn't want my ego pulling me back into my little comfort zone and allow "i just dont feel it" to be my excuse.

**** it, i'll just go with my own flow.
Thanks for a healthy dose of reality guys.