"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dk1990S111

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Alright so I have definitely noticed that with exs NC does make them go crazy and will end up contacting you. Atleast in my experience.

What I'm curious about is when used on a girl you are/were dating what kind of results have you guys gotten?

I know that no matter what the result is, it is for the best. Just curious if it usually ends up leading to a next or if they usually reach out and try to get your attention back.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've had it work once but it was almost unintentional and also it wasn't a typical case.

What happened was I deactivated my Facebook for like 5 months after getting played hard by a HB8.

After moping for like a week I got back to the gym and did just a real big image change, grew my hair and beard etc got new car blah blah.

Reactivated my Facebook and put up some new pics, noticed she was one of the first people to "like" them. She texted me hour or two later. I converted to a root and messed around with her for a bit but never went further than that.

Any other time I've done it at most they will break NC with some BS just to see if you still like them but it rarely works the way guys think. I think there needs to have been a big change in the guy like appearance upgrade etc for them to come back keen for you
 

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Dumped by a girl I dated for 2 years out of no where in March. NC for a month and she came back in a weird way after saying this was the happiest she's ever been without me and she felt I loved her more than she loved me...but she wanted to get back together after I basically told her to **** off.

We got back together but it wasnt the same I put all the effort in. She dumped me again about 2 weeks ago. Moral of the story don't take the ***** back if she comes back anyway.
 

Juanto

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What if you do the dumping and then go NC, do they also contact you after that, usually?
 

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What if you do the dumping and then go NC, do they also contact you after that, usually?
If you dump them they will always want you back somewhere in their heart. Will they contact you? Not always. But will you still feel a strange sexual tension in the air when you and her see each other again after a long hiatus? Almost always.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Even if they dump, if you immediately go NC, they will sniff back around. Maybe just a "how are you doing" but they will be poking around, trying to get a feel for whether you are "mad at them" or maybe you can still "be friends". In that situation, always stay NC, knowing that it will drive them completely crazy. They will never forget it - it will always bug them a bit. If you show your hand, explain, give them closure, you will evaporate from their memory very quickly.
 

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I had a great result from NC with an ex- girlfriend of mine.

I moved out of town, landed the best job I've ever had and met a new chick who was even better and hotter than the ex.

The ex has moved on and recently got married. I haven't spoken to her since applying NC but am geniuenly happy for her.
 

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NC is for YOU to move on without the mixed signals and feeding their ego after the break up. There was a reason for the break up, most times not fixable/repairable.
 

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If you **** higher quality women, it will always work because they aren't spreading their legs too often. You'll periodically get another shot to hit it again. Just steer clear of getting back into a relationship.
 

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If you **** higher quality women, it will always work because they aren't spreading their legs too often. You'll periodically get another shot to hit it again. Just steer clear of getting back into a relationship.
I don't know about you, but I've never been able to go back and begin hitting it again with an ex where there was a real relationship, and not have the feelings pour back into the situation. It's not always mine either - sometimes it's them. As tempting as the "for old times' sake" bang may look, it's fraught with peril. I would never, ever recommend it.
Plus it allows them to think they still "have you" in their minds and feeds their self-superiority.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If they like you, you will hear from them when they haven't heard from you. When this happens you MUST try to hook up with them, if that is what you want. If she won't go out then all it means is that she needs some assurance that if she ever wanted you you would be good to go, since at the moment you are her back-up.
 

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If you dump them they will always want you back somewhere in their heart. Will they contact you? Not always. But will you still feel a strange sexual tension in the air when you and her see each other again after a long hiatus? Almost always.
Is it feasible to break NC with an ex you dumped, and turn her into a occasional plate? And how long should you wait to break it?
 

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Is it feasible to break NC with an ex you dumped, and turn her into a occasional plate? And how long should you wait to break it?
If you do the dumping, then yeah. There's plenty of exes who are still fvcking each other. How you manage to do so though is dependent on the logistics, there aren't any real 'one method works for all' type of thing. Just trust your instincts, don't be awkward, and escalate.
 
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