"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How Many Musicians Do We Have Here?

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I'm a musician myself, I play five instruments. Listed in the order I learned them: Guitar, bass, piano, drums, organ. I gave up sax due to embouchure reasons.

The main ones I play the most nowadays are keyboards, guitar and rarely bass and drums. After over thirty years of practice starting from child hood, I reached virtuoso status, and now In addition to having prefect pitch, I can play anything I hear!

I worked my ass off, but was amazed that my daughter must have inherited my gifts as she started playing by ear unprompted at the age of nine, she'd hear tunes and almost instantly play them back, I'd go back and check and she'd normally be spot on. So, some of this must be genetic. However, I actually believe that her ears are better than mine were when I was her age. I practiced 10 sometimes 15 hours a day on weekends to get here, she put in barely any practice it just seems more natural, but of course she can't do the things I can on keyboards, because she doesn't practice enough, but boy if she did...:eek:

I've played professionally off and on for the last fifteen years.

I started off playing rock(real classic rock) and heavy metal, then jazz, r&b, classical etc. :up:

I suspect pantywhisperer plays guitar.

So besides him(love that name btw) how many here play and for how long?
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I used to sing and play guitar and bass for about 20+ years... I quit in 2008 to focus on programming drums and synthesizers. I like how the computer can play the instruments for me, and at the same time. Songs flow together, and the sounds are limitless.
 

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You suspect correctly. Bass drums and keyboards as well. Little home studio set up. Been playing guitar for over 35 years.
Wow you may be tied with me. I started playing at 12 been at it 37 years. You're 57 right?
 

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Any of you two live in Texas?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Been playing guitar since 15. Bass since 22 and piano since 30.
 

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My best talent is singing, but I play guitar, bass, clarinet, and a little bit of keyboard. I can pick up almost any stringed instrument, fvck around with it for 30 minutes, and be playing something on it. Because of that, I also own a ukelele and a banjo. I've released one album and I'm working on my second one. I'm pretty good at mixing and editing which I've been doing since I was a teenager.
 

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My best talent is singing, but I play guitar, bass, clarinet, and a little bit of keyboard. I can pick up almost any stringed instrument, fvck around with it for 30 minutes, and be playing something on it. Because of that, I also own a ukelele and a banjo. I've released one album and I'm working on my second one. I'm pretty good at mixing and editing which I've been doing since I was a teenager.
Yep, I always suspected you too, lol! Normally, I can talk to someone and tell in a few minutes if they have musical talent, kind of vibe I get.

I had a female walk up to me one time and right off the bat she goes get you're a keyboard player right?

I asked her had she been to any of my shows and she said no, but that I had a strong musician type vibe.. Weird..
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A handful when I was younger. Did acoustic solo act for a few years in my late 20s as well. I mostly record in my home studio now. Working on a CD of originals.
 

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A handful when I was younger. Did acoustic solo act for a few years in my late 20s as well. I mostly record in my home studio now. Working on a CD of originals.
Cool. What kind of music?
 

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Cool. What kind of music?
umm... Original music... jk
It's kind of hard to classify - track to track it varies. Classic pop/rock, a dash of country, some modern rock. I'm terrible with labeling my own music.
 

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I've been playing since age 12. I've been in bands most of my life, and currently gigging solo.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm a self taught pianist. However recently I've been focusing more or the computer side of things. I produce instrumentation using virtual instruments. From hip-hop and r&b to pop, rock, orchestra and movie score. I use the program Logic.

Despite me always wanting to, I'm not a very good singer, although my voice is deep. So I rap. In conversation people always say "Wow, your voice is really deep, can you sing?" To all my in house singers is there some sort of correlation between a deep voice and singing.

I also have an album coming on the 16th. Great to see fellow Sosuave musicians.
 

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I played drums my whole life and was in a punk rock band in high school way back when. Now in my mid 30s, I've taken up the electric guitar. After my most recent breakup, I went out and bought a dope Schecter guitar hellraiser diamond series 6-string with deep ocean burst color. I practice everyday, yet need proper instruction. Next week, I'm taking my first lesson. My endgame goal is to learn how to play djent / progressive and death metal.

Some bands I've been really digging lately: Plini, Scale the Summit, Polyphia, Animals as Leaders, David Maxim Micic, and The Algorithm.

Seriously check out how good these guys are:



 

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I played drums my whole life and was in a punk rock band in high school way back when. Now in my mid 30s, I've taken up the electric guitar. After my most recent breakup, I went out and bought a dope Schecter guitar hellraiser diamond series 6-string with deep ocean burst color. I practice everyday, yet need proper instruction. Next week, I'm taking my first lesson. My endgame goal is to learn how to play djent / progressive and death metal.

Some bands I've been really digging lately: Plini, Scale the Summit, Polyphia, Animals as Leaders, David Maxim Micic, and The Algorithm.

Seriously check out how good these guys are:



Hmm...I wonder if any of these guys have ever heard of dream theater? Lol:p

But seriously, guitar is a dicipline. ..and after 20 years...I had to let it go...But, my years with it, effect almost every aspect of my new direction.

Guitar was basic training, for the war that I wage.:cool:
 

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Heh. Dream Theater was my first metal concert in the early 2000s. They've been very influential for many of today's progressive metal musicians.

@wifehunter, what kind of music genre are you recording/programming now with your synthesizers? There are scores of ambient genres out there.

I like Erik Wollo, Steve Roach, Liquid Mind, Enigma, Jon Hopkins, Philip Glass, Thom Brennan, and basically any music score by Hans Zimmer.
 

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Heh. Dream Theater was my first metal concert in the early 2000s. They've been very influential for many of today's progressive metal musicians.

@wifehunter, what kind of music genre are you recording/programming now with your synthesizers? There are scores of ambient genres out there.

I like Erik Wollo, Steve Roach, Liquid Mind, Enigma, Jon Hopkins, Philip Glass, Thom Brennan, and basically any music score by Hans Zimmer.
At first, I was messing around with trance and house, just to pick them apart...I finally settled into ambient breaks. Seems natural to me. See: Massive Attack...but my stuff is more gitchy with weird noises an what I call "break slice processing" which is basically taking drum loop slices and processing them individually or in groups.

my secret weapon of choice:

 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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