Month and a half reset on girl. How to play it?

[CMNILS87]

Went on a first date late June. Fun time, ton of hobbies in common. Kissed close and fooled around. Acted too aggressive she didn't want another date. Hit her up Friday and agreed to a date Tuesday. How does this play out for you guys? I acted too aloof and teasing on an introvert last time. Plan is to do Kube(tailgating game) in the park and beers, maybe bar after.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

It's been three months. If I were you I would be talking to other girls. Seems to me like she just wants some free dinner or something along the lines. I'm very prideful and you should be too. You should not be anyones second option.

 

[CMNILS87]

It's been three months. If I were you I would be talking to other girls. Seems to me like she just wants some free dinner or something along the lines. I'm very prideful and you should be too. You should not be anyones second option.

I'm seeing 3 others bud. Just haven't done a reset before. There won't be any free dinner.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Yeah I've contemplated this in the past on soft nexts but once communication breaks I don't bother. If they are going to put in zero effort then I'll match it & give them the same.

Don't be suprised if she flakes, I'd keep it short 60-90min tops.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Went on a first date late June. Fun time, ton of hobbies in common. Kissed close and fooled around. Acted too aggressive she didn't want another date. Hit her up Friday and agreed to a date Tuesday. How does this play out for you guys? I acted too aloof and teasing on an introvert last time. Plan is to do Kube(tailgating game) in the park and beers, maybe bar after.

In my experience, if you let your window close (it's only open from the time you are last in contact to 2-3 weeks), you are wasting your time. The only chance you have after too much time passes by is if it is her idea to hit you up. You may get a date, but it won't progress much further than that. Trust me.

 

[CMNILS87]

In my experience, if you let your window close (it's only open from the time you are last in contact to 2-3 weeks), you are wasting your time. The only chance you have after too much time passes by is if it is her idea to hit you up. You may get a date, but it won't progress much further than that. Trust me.

Alrighty thats interesting. Good to know. Why do you give it that window? I've heard some soft next, come back a month later and supposedly her perspective changes. This could be me just bored with plates that have no fun hobbies and i need to find better stock?

 

[CMNILS87]

She's already expressed low interest by not wanting another date the first time around. I wouldn't waste my time. For me, dating isn't about going out with a lot of women it's learning to spend my time with the ones who have high interest in me.

Do what you want, it's only a tuesday so it's not like you're giving up the weekend for her. Don't spend much money on her. Try to have some fun who knows maybe you can bang her in an alley behind the bar after the tailgate.

Thanks, I'll just go into it with a chipper attitude and have fun, if it falls flat and standoffish. I'll know not to beat a dead horse ever agsin.

 

[marmel75]

Went on a first date late June. Fun time, ton of hobbies in common. Kissed close and fooled around. Acted too aggressive she didn't want another date. Hit her up Friday and agreed to a date Tuesday. How does this play out for you guys? I acted too aloof and teasing on an introvert last time. Plan is to do Kube(tailgating game) in the park and beers, maybe bar after.

Act like none of that happened and this is the second date that is happening the week after the first. Act no differently than you would on any other second date...go for the kill, she will be expecting it.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Alrighty thats interesting. Good to know. Why do you give it that window? I've heard some soft next, come back a month later and supposedly her perspective changes. This could be me just bored with plates that have no fun hobbies and i need to find better stock?

Too distant. There's a fine line between a challenge and just not caring. After a certain amount of time, women feel like you don't care and are just playing games. If she thinks that, she will write you off. Once a woman writes you off in her head, there is nothing you can do to change that. Only she can change her mind at that point. That is why huge gaps of time really only work if she comes back to you, not vice versa.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

In my experience anything over 2 weeks of no contact never works out. Like another poster said about them putting in zero effort. You're more than welcome to try though and report back how it turns out.