"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have an appointment today, to get antidepressant meds. I just wanted to see if anyone here has any recommendations. I've only had herbs... in including cannibis and valerian... I'm not sure I even want to take the hardstuff. I'm on medi-cal so the meds are fully covered. What are the downsides?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Update:

The dr. gave me Zoloft... I'm not sure about it, anyone have experience with this?
 

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Some SSRI's can make a person feel edgy and uncomfortable. Wait a week for this one to start taking effect and see how you feel. Not everything works for everyone. Body chemistry differs widely. If current one doesn't feel good for you, try Lexapro. Widely prescribed.
 
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Depression is a state of mind... I believe that any psychological and emotional state can be controlled with willpower once one understands it. You have depression, certainly there are causal factors to this. Identify them, and seek a release from them. Medications may help in stabilizing mood, but they do not actually treat the depression... There is a difference.
 

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Depression is a state of mind... I believe that any psychological and emotional state can be controlled with willpower once one understands it. You have depression, certainly there are causal factors to this. Identify them, and seek a release from them. Medications may help in stabilizing mood, but they do not actually treat the depression... There is a difference.
Very true. The Meds should be used only short term to get to a more logical, less emotional state so the problems causing the situation can be more clearly identified by the patient.
If that can not be done well internally, then professional therapy would be the next option.
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Depression is a state of mind... I believe that any psychological and emotional state can be controlled with willpower once one understands it. You have depression, certainly there are causal factors to this. Identify them, and seek a release from them. Medications may help in stabilizing mood, but they do not actually treat the depression... There is a difference.
Yes, I agree! (There is also spiritual depression, but that borders on religion, right? /sarcasm)

I'm just looking for something to help when the sh1t hits the fan! I'm thinking Zoloft is not for me, because I have to stay on it, for it to work.

I may just go get a bottle of vodka, and call it "done". I just need a little vacation from all the bullsh1t.
 

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If you want something to help on an as needed basis, then SSRI's are not for you. Can't hardly get a script for Valium anymore, but there are other calming options available.
 

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I'm just looking for something to help when the sh1t hits the fan! I'm thinking Zoloft is not for me, because I have to stay on it, for it to work.
Might try church.
 

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Might try church.
Thx, I was excommunicated based on rumors and lies. Maybe someday I'll find one. Till then, I am not proactively looking.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If you want something to help on an as needed basis, then SSRI's are not for you. Can't hardly get a script for Valium anymore, but there are other calming options available.
Yes, I was thinking of getting a Medical Marijuana card, and buying some edibles.
 
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