"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I have an appointment today, to get antidepressant meds. I just wanted to see if anyone here has any recommendations. I've only had herbs... in including cannibis and valerian... I'm not sure I even want to take the hardstuff. I'm on medi-cal so the meds are fully covered. What are the downsides?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Update:

The dr. gave me Zoloft... I'm not sure about it, anyone have experience with this?
 

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Some SSRI's can make a person feel edgy and uncomfortable. Wait a week for this one to start taking effect and see how you feel. Not everything works for everyone. Body chemistry differs widely. If current one doesn't feel good for you, try Lexapro. Widely prescribed.
 
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Depression is a state of mind... I believe that any psychological and emotional state can be controlled with willpower once one understands it. You have depression, certainly there are causal factors to this. Identify them, and seek a release from them. Medications may help in stabilizing mood, but they do not actually treat the depression... There is a difference.
 

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Depression is a state of mind... I believe that any psychological and emotional state can be controlled with willpower once one understands it. You have depression, certainly there are causal factors to this. Identify them, and seek a release from them. Medications may help in stabilizing mood, but they do not actually treat the depression... There is a difference.
Very true. The Meds should be used only short term to get to a more logical, less emotional state so the problems causing the situation can be more clearly identified by the patient.
If that can not be done well internally, then professional therapy would be the next option.
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Depression is a state of mind... I believe that any psychological and emotional state can be controlled with willpower once one understands it. You have depression, certainly there are causal factors to this. Identify them, and seek a release from them. Medications may help in stabilizing mood, but they do not actually treat the depression... There is a difference.
Yes, I agree! (There is also spiritual depression, but that borders on religion, right? /sarcasm)

I'm just looking for something to help when the sh1t hits the fan! I'm thinking Zoloft is not for me, because I have to stay on it, for it to work.

I may just go get a bottle of vodka, and call it "done". I just need a little vacation from all the bullsh1t.
 

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If you want something to help on an as needed basis, then SSRI's are not for you. Can't hardly get a script for Valium anymore, but there are other calming options available.
 

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I'm just looking for something to help when the sh1t hits the fan! I'm thinking Zoloft is not for me, because I have to stay on it, for it to work.
Might try church.
 

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Might try church.
Thx, I was excommunicated based on rumors and lies. Maybe someday I'll find one. Till then, I am not proactively looking.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If you want something to help on an as needed basis, then SSRI's are not for you. Can't hardly get a script for Valium anymore, but there are other calming options available.
Yes, I was thinking of getting a Medical Marijuana card, and buying some edibles.
 
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