Just sick and aggrevated with dating mistakes made need advice.

[Shootin4Dreams]

Came back from chicago it was best vacation I had as the new me. I was able to pull 2 chicks per say. The first one I was out in the streets of michigan ave. and we were really into each other and ended up ****ing in the station. i still stay in contact with her she is always horny and **** on the phone so that one worked out well I didn't say anything stupid or and as well kept my frame.

This other girl I feel like I screwed up on and need help fixing. I met her last night in chicago at a club and when I approached her she was already into me we grinded on the dance floor let me finger her within like 10 minutes pretty much DTF. So I had to pull her i made some rookie mistakes letting her go back to the club getting her friend and close her tab. Luckily her friend was ****ing cool as hell though she pretty much knew she wanted to ****. I tried to bring her in the apartment I was staying my cousin and uncle were upstairs and said "Wow you brought a black girl!" felt a little awkward somewhat amusing I brought her back downstairs and we hung out at the bar. Then told her I wanted to check out her area, was a little hesitant then was pretty much down as well as her friend. I wish I tried a 3some but wasn't thinking about it I just wanted to pull this broad really. Ended up ****ing at her place all night and morning. Here are the mistakes.

in the morning I started opening up to her a little bit (a problem I need fixing ASAP)
she was saying how she is a nerd I was like yeah same here asked what stuff I was into she was like OWN IT i am like yeah I pretty much do. Went into somewhat detail about my ex in the past and how i learned about love and things like that and told her about other girls ive ****ed/****ing she was like oh its cool you can tell me anything its not like we are married. I am like your so cool thats awesome you are like my Whatever girl! Then when I left I told her how do you feel dating a player? She was like we are dating? I was like oh wait no nahh your just a whatever girl. She then said look in my eyes and say you don't care and I said I dont care. Made out and then I left. I tried texting her later in the day seems somewhat responsive but texts starting getting shorter. I told her she should come to stl sometime I texted her when I made it home finally. No response, what do I do to fix this Please help!!!!!!

 

[slight]

Do nothing! The worst thing you can do now is shoot her some more texts. You shouldn't have texted her the same day anyways.

If you keep it cool you could salvage it and she may contact you after some time.

 

[marmel75]

There is nothing to help the level of desperation you are showing.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

Dont get it i told her she was a whatever girl and she told me to look in her eyes and say i dont care and i did. Dont i need to fix that?

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Dont get it i told her she was a whatever girl and she told me to look in her eyes and say i dont care and i did. Dont i need to fix that?

She lives in Chi-town you live in Stl, what is there to fix? It was just a ONS.

 

[skinnyguy]

Lol. You sound so desperate bud. Good luck with that one.

 

[Vivacity]

You can't find frogs in STL to kiss that you are looking for frogs that are 4 hours away?

The male to female ratio in STL is 0.88:1, meaning there are more females than males in STL.http://zipatlas.com/us/mo/city-comparison/male-to-female-ratio.9.htm
http://zipatlas.com/us/mo/city-comparison/male-to-female-ratio.9.htm
@ 832

 

[Asmodeus]

OP needs to step back a little bit. He has a bad case of the oneitis. The only cure for that is to just take a break from it all, and re-focus on yourself and what is important to you. Forget about the girl you met, you will meet many girls in your life... One girl is nothing, women will come and go in your life but you will always remain.

 

[NiceBarn]

I did the same thing this weekend. I was in Chicago all weekend. I'm not from there, but I was going to use everything I learned from here. My goal was to be cool confident and charming.

No luck

I even had inder on the times I wasn't out and had dates lined up that flaked. I came close a few times but never closed. I feel more frustrated even when I was in chump status. Back to "small town, no girls around, living."

On the plus side it's been over 60 days since I've had contact with the gal that lead me here. I didn't even think about her much. But between the failure to close and the beauty of the women everywhere you turn and the brief times I thought of her, it was tough. I almost broke down a few times. Thanks anyway guys.

 

[dustmuffin]

Went into somewhat detail about my ex in the past and how i learned about love and things like that and told her about other girls ive ****ed/****ing she was like oh its cool you can tell me anything its not like we are married. I am like your so cool thats awesome you are like my Whatever girl! Then when I left I told her how do you feel dating a player? She was like we are dating? I was like oh wait no nahh your just a whatever girl. She then said look in my eyes and say you don't care and I said I dont care. Made out and then I left. I tried texting her later in the day seems somewhat responsive but texts starting getting shorter.

Are you kidding me? You are supposed to be a mystery not pour out your guts. You talk 20 percent of the time and no emotional stuff. Just knock it off.

 

[NiceBarn]

I rarely post and briefly said its been 60 days or more since last contact from the gal that lead me here. I got a snapchat from her today. I haven't opened it yet. The first time I mention her in weeks, Blam. I'm curious though. Lol