No response from her after good date/Kiss

[jts3443]

I meet a friend of a friend about two weeks ago at a bar, got her number texted her that night saying it was nice meeting her. She initiated contact with me the next two days and we wound up setting up a date a few days later. Up until the date she initiated contact with me everyday through text, but I made certain not to reveal too much about myself before the date. We met up for drinks and everything seemed to go in great, were both in the entertainment industry and both had a lot in common. The conversation was free flowing and light, and we both had two ****tails and shared a last one before realizing we were there for four hours and the bar was closing soon. Afterwards we got food from a foodtruck, at which point she told me I had to come cook for her one day and expressed interest in seeing me again, I walked her back to her car and she sarcastically said well I obviously had a terrible time, I went in for the kiss, it was intense/passionate, lasted a few seconds, than I pulled away. She looked at me and actually said aloud wow, that was really good, I smiled and said call me, she responded back with no you call me, I said ok and walked back to my car. Two days later I text her something teasing and light recalling a conversation from the date. It went something like this "I saw a pretty cool blah blah blah today at blah blah blah, you would of appreciated it." That was yesterday and I still haven't heard back from her. I know she leaves the country for a week on Monday but I don't think that has an affect on her returning my text.

Now this is were it gets a little hairy, the night we met, when we first started talking, she said something along the lines of I cant even get the guy I love to text me back. Again this was in a social group setting at a bar, before we really talked much. We initially talked/joked about crazy ex's, but it seemed like this guy was out of her life, that they had been split up for a while and she was trying to move on to other guys. And she never brought it up on our date and seemed to want to see me more. I know there is a possibility that he could have contacted her after our date.

I cant tell if that's what is causing her to not answer, which really doesn't make sense, why would she have gone that far, texted me every day, asked to see me again, made out with me, ex. My other thought is that when I had initially met her I was aggressive and texted her that night, after our date went really well, maybe she was a little put off or thought that I was playing childish games by waiting two days to text her and let her know I had a good time.

Any thoughts? Should I try to contact this girl one more time? or maybe a restart text after her trip?

EDIT**** She actually just text me back, a day later, saying sorry I didn't get a chance to text you back yesterday, blah blah blah, I'm glad you thought of me, blah blah.
Seems like a **** test to me....thoughts?

 

[dustmuffin]

I would stop conversing with text and only use it for setting up dates. Leave conversation at a minimum.
Ignore her apology and try to set up a date.Pretend that crap never happened.

 

[Serenity]

Pretty odd apology, so polite. Anyways, you seem to have the issue of digging yourself into holes that go nowhere.

There's no use in speculating why a woman doesn't respond, all you have to care about is whether she does or doesn't. There's no use in trying to understand how a woman can be so turned on while being with her and then suddenly go cold. Now you did get a response eventually, but keep this in mind for next time.

No response = focus on other things.

I learned this lesson with a girl I met a few years back. I was super attracted to her and she seemed equally interested in me, we had a good night out with lots of making out. She got my contact details before I considered getting hers. A couple of days later I contacted her, she did respond but it was slow and she made it hard for me to set up a date. I thought "fvck it" and moved on. A year after that I randomly met her at a bar, I said hi with no hard feelings. Suddenly she was on again, she told she regretted what she did to me a year before (she remembered me after a year having only met me once). She invited me to a party she was having, I decided to give her another shot. The party happened, I came and we ended up alone. I fvcked her, I was satisfied, she was satisfied and I thought well this time she's not gonna be dumb. I was wrong, I never got to see her again. So I moved on.

So yeah, you can go all the way to putting your d!ck inside them and still not hear from them without an obvious reason. In my case I suspect she was insecure and shy, but gained a lot of confidence while drinking which was the side I saw. It's really her loss, she might horribly regret it the day she realizes what type of man I am.

 

[MrWood]

not a sh1t test. She has a serious bf
"I cant even get the guy I love to text me back."

 

[marmel75]

Aaaannndddd another case of no escalation in date leading to no real interest from the girl.

 

[jts3443]

Aaaannndddd another case of no escalation in date leading to no real interest from the girl.

Not really seeing the no escalation, I made out with her before it ended, not like i didnt touch the girl or something

 

[nismo-4]

A date is only good if she sees you again. Otherwise, you have failed and you should replace her. Or at least erase her.

 

[CMNILS87]

1. She talked about not getting texts back from the man she loves?? Wtf is that. Her hampster iis with someone else.
2. Compliance test asking for you to cook dinner. Men do not cook dinner for women they are not exclusive with period. If she ever asks this, say that is reserved for women I know are worth my time.

3. She took a whole day to get back to your text?. If you were brad Pitt would she wait a whole day to respond to something funny or a date offer? Hell no

 

[RangerMIke]

Yea... women will disappear and not respond to see if you will come unglued. It's actually kid of funny, and truth is that I don't believe they do this on purpose. It's completely subconscious. But the higher her interest in you the sooner she will eventually respond. If she has ANY interest in you... she will reach out to you. If it's just BARELY there it might take a few weeks, but it will drive her nuts if you do not get back with her.

If she has high interest she will not be able to keep it up for very long.

 

[marmel75]

Not really seeing the no escalation, I made out with her before it ended, not like i didnt touch the girl or something

That's the entire problem. You waited to the end to get a kiss whereas if you escalated in date and kissed her after about 15-20 minutes and throughout the rest of the date, you could have gotten laid. Maybe maybe not, but definitely not if you are waiting til the end of the date to kiss her.

 

[dude99]

This is just a plate. Do not stress over something that hasn't even started yet. One date.......they plate should have no effect on your feelings. If she replies great. If she doesn't.......next.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Less texting, more seducing.

The phone is for setting dates. Stop stressing about how much "attention" she gives you through the phone. That's ***** ****. One of my plates used to wait 2-3 days to respond to my texts in the beginning.

The only thing that matters is if she meets you for a date.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

This is just a plate. Do not stress over something that hasn't even started yet. One date.......they plate should have no effect on your feelings. If she replies great. If she doesn't.......next.

No she's a prospect not a plate. He hasn't hit it yet. That 3rd c*cktail is a green light indicator to escalate the kino get her juices flowing. Agreed with M75.

Your onestis is creeping in and STOP fvcking over analyzing. Get out there & find another prospect. Catch up with her when she gets back from her trip.