"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Currently I have been texting a girl with the intention of asking her out, but after 5-6 texts from each side she seems to be trying to keep conversation going by asking questions etc...

Good or bad?

I am worried i am becoming her text buddy..... actually i rarely text her so i am quite surprised.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good, she has high enough interest in you to want to get your attention and learn more about you. You need to ask her out asap though. Ideally you want to limit text conversations and focus on going out on dates. Some guys can use a lot of conversation to build greater trust, comfort and attraction with a girl, but ideally it is better to limit it as things can go very wrong too.

Don't be unnatural about it though, at this point you've set a "norm" so cutting it all off, would stand out too much. Just take your time in replying sometimes and try to reduce the texting, unless you feel it is really productive and building rapport.
 
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Good, she has high enough interest in your to want to get your attention and learn more about you. You need to ask her out asap though. Ideally you want to limit text conversations and focus on going out on dates. Some guys can use a lot of conversation to build greater trust, comfort and attraction with a girl, but ideally it is better to limit it as things can go very wrong too.

Don't be unnatural about it though, at this point you've set a "norm" so cutting it all off, would stand out too much. Just take your time in replying sometimes and try to reduce the texting, unless you feel it is really production and building rapport.

Allright, but I have known this girl for a while and she is lets say partially from my social circle. I am also seeing her tomorrow at an event which she asked me if i am going to before, But it's not a date.

The thing is i never really tried to get to know her better or anything so ill give it a go and see what happens.

Also i initiated the conversation earlier today
 

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Common sense. If a girl asks questions means she wants to know more about you, and she has some interest in you. Don't blow it away. Don't spend too much time texting and talking on the phone with her. You should do most of that talking when you meet her in person.

Ask her to hang out and make your move.
 

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Move the conversation from the phone to a date to fvcking her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Texting is not for having conversations.. it is for setting up a time to meet face to face.

When you're spinning plates (like you should be) there is no time to text women for hours. If she isn't available to meet, then its on to the next plate. Stop wasting your own time.
 

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Gotta watch out, more time texting means she has your attention away from other stuff and can also shot test through text and catch you off guard. Take for example this one I got today..... Seriously women these days. Ask to hang out and they just Fick with you....
 

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Gotta watch out, more time texting means she has your attention away from other stuff and can also shot test through text and catch you off guard. Take for example this one I got today..... Seriously women these days. Ask to hang out and they just Fick with you....
What was odd is even though I was taking time to respond (between 10min and 30min) she was answering almost instantly (<5 min).

I am seeing her tonight, it's not a date but it will be enough to see how she acts in person and then take it farther.
 

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What was odd is even though I was taking time to respond (between 10min and 30min) she was answering almost instantly (<5 min).

I am seeing her tonight, it's not a date but it will be enough to see how she acts in person and then take it farther.
It is a date
 

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It´s obviously that the girl is into you, instead of worrying about the text game take advantage when you see her in person.

P.s: Don´t take the time to answer a girl, unconsciously you are giving her importance that she don´t deserve, just answer when you have free time and start doing some other stuff for your own good.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It is a date
Well not really because we are both going to a local event. In other words I'm going there with the boys, she is going with her friends.
 

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she seems to be trying to keep conversation going by asking questions etc...

Good or bad?
Good - she's interested
Bad - she's prob low quality

To pursue a guy so much that she hasn't met, she's likely naïve (immature) and doesn't have much going for her
 

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Good - she's interested
Bad - she's prob low quality

To pursue a guy so much that she hasn't met, she's likely naïve (immature) and doesn't have much going for her

She does know me, we have known each other for a couple of years.
Just never in a romantic way.
 

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A couple years? You're going to have be very keen on taking initiative if you want to get out of the friend zone

I am seeing her tonight, it's not a date but it will be enough to see how she acts in person and then take it farther.
It's not a date and you want to see if she likes you or makes a move... sounds like a good way to stay in the friend zone
 
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