You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's a real woman. I know you love it. I know some real women and it really does raise your man level. Dealing with the knuckleheads is good for you too, teaches you to value yourself. But a good woman will bless you.No, but it doesn't give me the same excitement as it did at one point.
As for the other things like doing my dishes, giving me money for the food she eats at my place, bringing me refreshments while I'm fixing my jeep and even that death grip she has on me, are fantastic replacements that I don't get from most women. I don't even ask her for that stuff, she just does it.
I don't measure SMV. All I care about is where I'm sitting on her HSL.Des,
I'm curious, what would you say your SMV is compared to hers? My SMV is at least 2 points higher than the girl I mentioned.
-Augustus-
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Not at all. I still do that.@Desdinova I'm curious. I quoted a great old post of yours on another thread on emotional fluctuation.
There you said a good tactic was to be up early in the morning doing things when she woke up. So basically sometimes she gets cuddled sometimes she doesn't.
Has your thinking on that changed?