"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Truth About Single Moms

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It's a long a** video but quite interesting so far. This guy has definitely done his research.



This is a must listen for any guy thinking about dating a single mommy!

 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i love all of Stefan molyneux's videos. I dont agree with him on a few small bits here and there. But he's done his homework and i've been amazed by how much i've learned from him.
 

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ditto. I did marry a single mom, but she is the very rare exception to the rule
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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She cost me a lot, but she paid it all back, with interest, her first year here. Our daughter had to stay behind for a year in her home country, cause she didn't speak English at all. Because she (and her mother)were in such poverty, I"ll have to teach them both a lot. No balls to dribble, no hoop to shoot at, no bats, no gloves, no space for a soccer field, no bows, no BB's, etc.
 

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A bit over a year now. She's almost black belt and a fine shot with pistol and rifle, and her open wear pistol draw is swift and sure. She still needs more work on her weak hand stuff and concealed draw.
 

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Stefan's main point is simple: If we didn't have the welfare state extracting money from the productive workers at gunpoint (see the IRS), women would be forced to be NICER to their men. This would lead to happier MEN, happier CHILDREN, and ultimately happier WOMEN. Now many of you (Bernie supporters) will say "These poor women are being abused by their men". Sorry, but only 1% of men are abusive, not 99%.
 

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I went out with an HB 8 single mom last night. She didn't attend college and doesn't really have any qualifications (she's a stripper and waitress). These types of girls don't seem to want commitment and are great for pump and dump. Just don't get oneitis and you'll be fine.
 

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I date single mothers because of my age. Most women have children. Will I marry? No....They don't bring enough to the table. I would wind up spending my resources on them and their children. LTR....yes...marriage no.....
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Yes by age 45 I've had more "step" kids than Mike Brady and Angelina Jolie put together.

I've done well with the "spend 10%" philosophy regarding my women. I budget 10% of my income as money to burn with women. I figure if I were married I'd be lucky to keep 10% of my income.
 

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I avoided having kids all my life. I"m very glad that I was able to skip the first 5 years of my step-daughter's sqalling, etc. Now she's old enough to appreciate having a daddy.
 

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All my life, whenever I observed people with children, their lives seem chaotic. Men with kids are turned into slaves. He is a slave to his boss because he has to pay the bank, and he is a slave to the bank because his wife needed a fancy McMansion to impress her high school friends on FB, and he is a slave to his wife because she can take half his stuff and 80% of his family away (thanks to Family Court and the Welfare state), and he is a slave to his child via "dead beat dad" laws which will jail a man for being unemployed during a depression. Meanwhile, the doctors will vaccinate your kid before it ever leaves the hospital, guaranteeing a lifetime of sub optimal health, allergies and autoimmune disorders along with neurological issues. They'll give them antibiotics which damage their gut, and then they'll have them on Ritalin by age 8.

I've never looked at a woman with a kid and thought "I wish I had one of those!" but the women I've dated confessed to always wishing for one.

And sorry, but I don't want to spend the day at her sister's house either.

I'm an inventor. I want to sit at the computer learning a new language, or crawl under my car to add a new performance upgrade, or get on a plane for a business trip, not sit at home on Sunday changing diapers to make more humans.

My brother, best friend, mother and father all recommend I don't have kids.

Kids are for handsome millionaires . Those are the only ones who have what it takes to keep a woman happy.
 

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All my life, whenever I observed people with children, their lives seem chaotic. Men with kids are turned into slaves. He is a slave to his boss because he has to pay the bank, and he is a slave to the bank because his wife needed a fancy McMansion to impress her high school friends on FB, and he is a slave to his wife because she can take half his stuff and 80% of his family away, and this he is a slave to his child. Meanwhile, the doctors will vaccinate the kid before it ever leaves the hospital, guaranteeing a lifetime of sub optimal health, allergies and autoimmune disorders along with neurological issues.

I've never looked at a woman with a kid and thought "I wish I had one of those!" but the women I've dated confessing to always wishing for one.

And sorry, but I don't want to spend the day at her sisters house either.

My brother, best friend, mother and father all recommend I don't have kids.

Kids are for handsome millionaires . Those are the only ones who have what it takes to keep a woman happy.
LOL
 

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I was the same way, until I turned 62, had plenty of money and adopted a 5 year old (skipping the most obnoxious parts of the deal). :). Your problem is the rush in early years, lack of investment income, worry about job loss, etc. There's no rush to be a "dad", ya know. You shouldn't even think about it until you've got half a million $ securely invested.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I was the same way, until I turned 62, had plenty of money and adopted a 5 year old (skipping the most obnoxious parts of the deal). :). Your problem is the rush in early years, lack of investment income, worry about job loss, etc. There's no rush to be a "dad", ya know. You shouldn't even think about it until you've got half a million $ securely invested.
It all depends on what you value.

Pursuit of money and women isn't enough to make you happy in and of itself. Neither is being someones doormat. Both eventually leave you with an empty feeling.

Balance provides the best of both worlds
 

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People are so quick to get married, pop out a baby and then waste their life away. I'll never, ever understand it.

I just got back from lunch with my mom, and it seems like every time we're out she asks me about having children or marriage. I'm 27 and she's been asking for years. I tell her the same thing every time: I'd feel like a slave. I find no joy in overpopulating the world even further, the American Dream, and pieces of paper than state that I'm tied to one woman for the rest of my life.

I've been waiting for this mindset to change. It hasn't yet. I don't think it will. I've dated one single mom and never saw her child. I decided after that that any woman with a child I pretty much could never be with.
 
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