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[guru1000]

First time with a new girl, I usually last less than five minutes. But I never had a girl drop me because of that. There's something more here.

For one, DustMuffin, your opening email lacked dominance and strength. The use of and reference to the word "cuteness" is not very becoming of a dominant male. Makes me wonder what other "triggers" you projected.

I'd be interested to know all the details from post-fvck to now to identify the weakness, assuming of course it wasn't just a pity fvck she gave you. The best way to mitigate damage is never to incur it.

 

[CMNILS87]

All good points....she had multiple orgasms. I was telling her that she was my *****. She agreed and said I could have it anytime I wanted.

I think I wasn't ass hole enough for her. From our chatting I could tell she was used to being treated very poorly. For example she asked if she had to leave after sex. I told her she could stay as long as she wanted. I should have kicked her a ss out. Maybe it was the sex or maybe the fact that I need to up my ass hole game. I'll work on both.

It's a learning process. I will improve.

do you really want to go on more dates with a woman that's used to being treated like dirt? not enough ******* game? more like she has daddy issues and shes probably not good material for a relationship. that should have been red flag #1 poking you in the eyeball.

 

[dustmuffin]

Went on first date we talked. I walked her to her car and she was all over me. She suggested we get in her car where I finger ed her and got a bj

I texted her two days later and set up the date. She answered immediately and said that she wanted to date and wasn't looking for just sex. I told her I wanted to date her. The date was to meet at my house and go out for mexican.

She arrives at my house. I let her in close the door and shove her against it and start kissing her. She tells me there would be no sex. I ignored her and pulled up her shirt and fondled her boobs while looking in her eyes. I continue kissing her and escalating. I think I am giving off a nervous vibe. She is giving off a kind of crazy vibe.

Anyway I escalate and get her clothes off. We f uck ed twice. She told me that she wanted to make me *** after a while and rode me for quite a while before I did. We were laying in bed and asks if I'm going to kick her out I saw she can stay as long as she wants. She plays with my **** and we start round two.

I can't remember a lot of the small stuff. I do believe I gave off a nervous vibe. I was on meds that made me shake. I have stopped those. I am still nervous but not as bad. She told me I was handsome and she liked what I did to her. From now on I will try to give detailed lay reports to be analyzed. I also had my hand around her throat when I kissed her and a plied pressure. I told her that she was mine and that her ***** was mine and it was tight. I thought afterwards that it would be easy to set up another date with her. She goes to counciling one a week and I could tell she wasn't quite right. Idc because she was attractive and I just wanted to f uck.

 

[dustmuffin]

do you really want to go on more dates with a woman that's used to being treated like dirt? not enough ******* game? more like she has daddy issues and shes probably not good material for a relationship. that should have been red flag #1 poking you in the eyeball.

I don't want a relationship...she was a good f uck

 

[MrWood]

if you think you need to read up on bedroom techniques, you were a bad fvck bro.
her first exchange to you... sounds like she actually knows PUA, read it.. classic neg

"I told her she could stay as long as she wanted." = her pvssy turned to gold

 

[CMNILS87]

I don't want a relationship...she was a good f uck

If all you wanted was to bang a couple times, then why worry about her crazy and weird texting? reading too much into it bud. with what you said about her its the classic Arnold quote, "You're damaged goods lady".

 

[guru1000]

Went on first date we talked. I walked her to her car and she was all over me. She suggested we get in her car where I finger ed her and got a bj

Good.

I texted her two days later and set up the date. She answered immediately and said that she wanted to date and wasn't looking for just sex. I told her I wanted to date her. The date was to meet at my house and go out for mexican.

Good.

She arrives at my house. I let her in close the door and shove her against it and start kissing her. She tells me there would be no sex. I ignored her and pulled up her shirt and fondled her boobs while looking in her eyes. I continue kissing her and escalating.

Good.

I think I am giving off a nervous vibe. She is giving off a kind of crazy vibe.

^^

Anyway I escalate and get her clothes off. We f uck ed twice. She told me that she wanted to make me *** after a while and rode me for quite a while before I did.

Good.

We were laying in bed and asks if I'm going to kick her out I saw she can stay as long as she wants

I would have just responded, "Not yet, we have at least one more round "

I do believe I gave off a nervous vibe. I was on meds that made me shake.

^^^. Out of curiosity, what kind of meds?

She goes to counciling one a week and I could tell she wasn't quite right.

^^^^

What happened post-date?

 

[dustmuffin]

Good.

Good.

Good.

^^

Good.
I would have just responded, "Not yet, we have at least one more round "


^^^. Out of curiosity, what kind of meds?


^^^^

What happened post-date?

Post date I set up a zoo date which she flaked on. On this zoo date she said she wasn't looking for just sex. I ignored and set up the date. Then what I posted this morning.

I was taking ambilify. I am on depression meds. I also have a touch of anxiety which occurred after I was dumped by my ex. Now I am working on ridding myself of it. Before I was dumped I had a don't give a s hit attitude mixed with kindness. I think I have been giving off a nervous vibe that women can pick up on. I'm just going to work on it and keep going out on dates. Eventually I will get over it. I have gotten better. Just not where I need to be.

 

[guru1000]

Post date I set up a zoo date which she flaked on. On this zoo date she said she wasn't looking for just sex. I ignored and set up the date.

See what happens when all the facts are brought to light. Entirely new subject matter. That zoo flake should have been her last, and her relegation to the ghost list. Today's convo should never have occurred.

I was taking ambilify. I am on depression meds. I also have a touch of anxiety which occurred after I was dumped by my ex.

You mentioned your ex several times in this thread (by your own volition), and now the word "dumped." This "ex" and "dump" are unconsciously woven into your identity. The meds you take are to compensate for the low esteem you ascribe to yourself, as a result of your self-contrived machination of your previous relation. YOU are not that person anymore. Time to let it go.

 

[dustmuffin]

See what happens when all the facts are brought to light. Entirely new subject matter. That zoo flake should have been her last, and her relegation to the ghost list. Today's convo should never have occurred.


You mentioned your ex several times in this thread (by your own volition), and now the word "dumped." This "ex" and "dump" are unconsciously woven into your identity. The meds you take are to compensate for the low esteem you ascribe to yourself, as a result of your self-contrived machination of your previous relation. YOU are not that person anymore. Time to let it go.

Thanks for the insight. I appreciate it.