Basically I had a so-so first date with a girl recently. Honestly, the fact that we even had sex was surprising, as I didn't feel much of a click for the entire date up until the end where I basically just said fvk it and made a move. I gotta be honest and say we were both awkward and nervous through different points of the evening...and almost like inexperienced teenagers.
And tbh, that never happens to me. Conversation usually flows easily, and Im more confident, bold, and flirty throughout the evening. But it was hard getting a vibe off this girl at the time.
Now usually a kiss, and especially sex with a girl washes away all that nervousness and lack of familiarity between us...but I still feel unsure about this girl. Im not sure exactly how to approach things. Part of it is that she does seem a bit quieter and shyer than she was over text (we met online). And even liquid courage (alcohol), didn't have the same effect on me when I was with her last week.
Im wondering is this is really just one of those situations where you simply dont click with someone and I should be ok with that. Or if I can put myself in a better mindset and maybe build upon last week. And tbh, if I didn't try to kiss her for the hell of it during the first date, we'd likely not have gone out again...or just remained friends only.
I went for it because I felt "only way to know if there's any chemistry in any capacity, is to kiss her". So there's a little something there...but things are still up in the air.
Ever have a so-so first date, but a better 2nd date with someone? I guess Im just trying to get in the right mindset tonight...so positive thoughts breed positive outcomes.
And tbh, that never happens to me. Conversation usually flows easily, and Im more confident, bold, and flirty throughout the evening. But it was hard getting a vibe off this girl at the time.
Now usually a kiss, and especially sex with a girl washes away all that nervousness and lack of familiarity between us...but I still feel unsure about this girl. Im not sure exactly how to approach things. Part of it is that she does seem a bit quieter and shyer than she was over text (we met online). And even liquid courage (alcohol), didn't have the same effect on me when I was with her last week.
Im wondering is this is really just one of those situations where you simply dont click with someone and I should be ok with that. Or if I can put myself in a better mindset and maybe build upon last week. And tbh, if I didn't try to kiss her for the hell of it during the first date, we'd likely not have gone out again...or just remained friends only.
I went for it because I felt "only way to know if there's any chemistry in any capacity, is to kiss her". So there's a little something there...but things are still up in the air.
Ever have a so-so first date, but a better 2nd date with someone? I guess Im just trying to get in the right mindset tonight...so positive thoughts breed positive outcomes.
