When a (former?) plate's friend starts texting..

[EverSure75]

Would love your thoughts on this, gentlemen..

There was a woman I was seeing but pulled back after we had sex..I was keeping her as a plate..though I think she figured out I dropped the ball and had pulled back herself Our relationship kinda fizzled to texts a few times a week to check in...Haven't been out together in months..

A few months back a friend of hers who lives overseas (who is hotter and more interesting IMO..we met while she was visiting about a year ago) needed a favour I could've helped with because of the nature of my job. She inboxed me on twitter and we exchanged numbers. I helped her out. That time we met I could definitely pick up some chemistry. More than her friend (plate) and I ever had. From our few conversations and her social media feed..we have more in common than her friend and I.

She visited the country a few weeks ago and me, plate and friend were supposed to meet for drinks..It never happened...the friend had some last minute family thing to do.

A few days ago friend texts me out the blue.."heeey...happy Friday"..or something to that effect..
We've been having an interesting conversation about film to be honest over the last few days..I probably texted her like 3 times a day...neither of us responds right away.

Is there anything behind this?
Is she acting on the chemistry I thought I felt?
HAs the plate "passed me off" to her friend and she's now showing interest?
Am I thinking too deep?

 

[Billtx49]

It may be further proof of the power of preselection, or it might be female competitiveness for a desired prospect. Operate on those two assumptions going forward. If she sees you only as a friend, you will eventually know.

 

[EverSure75]

It may be further proof of the power of preselection, or it might be female competitiveness for a desired prospect. Operate on those two assumptions going forward. If she sees you only as a friend, you will eventually know.

hmmm...lol maybe

 

[blind_one]

A few days ago friend texts me out the blue.."heeey...happy Friday"..or something to that effect..
We've been having an interesting conversation about film to be honest over the last few days..I probably texted her like 3 times a day...neither of us responds right away.

That kind of texting kills mystery and attraction imho.
If she hits you up like that set up a date and go from there.

 

[Lozboss]

OP- Why you being her girlfriend and chatting film over text?

Crazy idea: Why not do that ON A DATE?

Grow a pair, ask her out. Worst thing is she's not interested, no loss.

 

[Bingo-Player]

id say she probably wants a piece of the pie

women are calculating and this sounds pretty calculated to me

women dont generally "do things out of the blue" unless they have an agenda

 

[EverSure75]

I hear you guys. I actually would ask her out but she lives overseas. So in my head I'm thinking nothing will come out of this any way

 

[Tictac]

Would love your thoughts on this, gentlemen..

There was a woman I was seeing but pulled back after we had sex..I was keeping her as a plate..though I think she figured out I dropped the ball and had pulled back herself Our relationship kinda fizzled to texts a few times a week to check in...Haven't been out together in months..

A few months back a friend of hers who lives overseas (who is hotter and more interesting IMO..we met while she was visiting about a year ago) needed a favour I could've helped with because of the nature of my job. She inboxed me on twitter and we exchanged numbers. I helped her out. That time we met I could definitely pick up some chemistry. More than her friend (plate) and I ever had. From our few conversations and her social media feed..we have more in common than her friend and I.

She visited the country a few weeks ago and me, plate and friend were supposed to meet for drinks..It never happened...the friend had some last minute family thing to do.

A few days ago friend texts me out the blue.."heeey...happy Friday"..or something to that effect..
We've been having an interesting conversation about film to be honest over the last few days..I probably texted her like 3 times a day...neither of us responds right away.

Is there anything behind this?
Is she acting on the chemistry I thought I felt?
HAs the plate "passed me off" to her friend and she's now showing interest?
Am I thinking too deep?

You are over-thinking. It's no more complicated than that she is reaching out to you and hoping that you will ask her out.

 

[EverSure75]

You are over-thinking. It's no more complicated than that she is reaching out to you and hoping that you will ask her out.

Ask her out when she lives a 4 hour plane ride away?
I remember when we met last year I asked her if she'll ever return her to live. She said no.
That's why I think there mightn't be anything to it.

 

[Tictac]

Ask her out when she lives a 4 hour plane ride away?
I remember when we met last year I asked her if she'll ever return her to live. She said no.
That's why I think there mightn't be anything to it.

Why bother asking then?

 

[EverSure75]

Why bother asking then?

Thinking out loud I guess?
I dunno man. I'm still learning about women. Lol. Really have no idea what they're capable of.

 

[Tictac]

Thinking out loud I guess?
I dunno man. I'm still learning about women. Lol. Really have no idea what they're capable of.

Women want your attention, always.

Why waste your time on this one? You said yourself it can't go anywhere.

 

[Yewki]

You know you're in trouble when your hamster is spinning for a girl who is overseas in another country.

Get to the point and ask when she is coming back to visit. Either way, stop focusing on this girl it's basically a black hole. You're throwing your time away. Pursue girls in your actual country.

 

[Desdinova]

Keep mild contact until she's in town again. Throw a hint that you'd li to meet up next time she visits. Think nothing more of it than an easy lay when the opportunity arises.