Atom Smasher
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"Although I could, I don't think it would be appropriate for me to pay for a sitter. If you think about it and see my point, feel free to get in touch."
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Paying For The Babysitter On The First Date
- Thread starter Robert_F
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Maximus Rex
Banned
Question, (and I'm dead ass serious when I ask this,) why can't her baby daddy watch the kids? Or at a minimum, either set of grandparents?
Robert_F
Don Juan
Gawd, I absolutely hate the term "Baby Daddy" or "Baby Mama", but that's beside the point.
I couldn't answer this honestly. Maybe she, like so many single mothers out there, aren't sure who the father of the child is.
I was introduced to a young single lady, (22 years of age) by her brother. This young lady was about 8 months pregnant and already had two other children. I guess she thought she was being "cute" when she said, "Well, I think I know who the father of this one really is."
She may have been thinking "cute" but I was thinking "tramp".
Drop this mindset of "dating".
How can you create an opportunity for her to have the pleasure of sucking your c0ck and fun
to take place is a better situation....
You see, her request is really a request to step into her reality....
You don't want that.
You want her to step into your reality. Say it "woman, you are a guest in my reality"
and then you decide what's appropriate for you in this situation....
but it must be your idea...
this request of hers would make me laugh......
sometimes you have to laugh at them....you have to FRAME their behavior for what
it is......SILLY AND IRRELEVANT.........and then you can invite her back into reality....
..YOUR REALITY......
"nah, let's watch a movie at yours. I'll bring the wine"
all she's worth is a bang. She's not worth a "date"
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
EyeBRollin
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Women don't stop being women when they have kids. Treat all women the same.
They become worse... You now have to be the "father" and provide for the kids under all circumstances even if they are not yours, case in point "pay for the babysitter". Also, single moms tend to be looking more for men as providers more than anything else. They are less willing to compromise and sacrifice for the other person and will frequently use their kids as an excuse.
EyeBRollin
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No you don't. People only do to them what you let them.
No, that is a myth. Single mom's are women. Women all want the same ****. Women with children I've found tend to have their **** together more than women without kids. Compromise is based on you, the male. Men lead the negotiation. Any woman that doesn't meet your standards gets kicked to the curb. Don't accept what you don't find acceptable. That goes for all your personal interactions.
Desdinova
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The reality is, she wouldn't need a babysitter if she had stayed with the guy who fathered the child. If she couldn't make it work with the father, then the child is her financial responsibility. That is the price she has to pay for either fvcking the wrong guy, or putting no effort into making the relationship work with the father.