The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Srcr347]

Day 1 (
It's been over a week now but I want to start this challenge today. She's trying to get my attention, I see her post different things on social media and it is killing me. I gave her all my attention and she only gave me a few momments of herself. I hate her for trailing me along. She is way more experience than I am, and she knew how much I liked her. She knows how to play people but I refuse to let her play with me. She could go **** herself.

I was doing good before her. I was workingout, I was eating right, and I was focused in school. When she started playing with my emotions, I started to get distracted. No more of that. I'm going back to that routine. I need to get her out of my mind and focus on myself again. I'll get back to you guys with updates.

 

[finality]

Day 1

Day 1 again. Our breakup was like a indy 500 crash and it was messy and a lot of things were said. I texted her last night saying I wasn't proud of the things I said. A lot of things leading to the breakup were her fault but the actually breakup was on me. I had a lot of pent up anger over how she was treating me and then I just snapped and told her to get the fk up of my house. My text basically just said I'm not proud of what I said but if you truly want to break up then this will be the last time I reach up to you. She didn't reply. Day 1 (2016/03/03)

 

[Srcr347]

Day 1 (03/03/2016)
It's been over a week now but I want to start this challenge today. She's trying to get my attention, I see her post different things on social media and it is killing me. I gave her all my attention and she only gave me a few momments of herself. I hate her for trailing me along. She is way more experience than I am, and she knew how much I liked her. She knows how to play people but I refuse to let her play with me. She could go **** herself.

I was doing good before her. I was workingout, I was eating right, and I was focused in school. When she started playing with my emotions, I started to get distracted. No more of that. I'm going back to that routine. I need to get her out of my mind and focus on myself again. I'll get back to you guys with updates.

Update: So we work together, and I wrote my first entry this morning. I had to ignore her and sit on the other side of the office. It was hard because I could she seemed very talkative today. She was all smiles and giddy, and I hated it. I am trying not to let it get to me, but I can't help but feel pissed.

 

[finality]

Day 1 again. Our breakup was like a indy 500 crash and it was messy and a lot of things were said. I texted her last night saying I wasn't proud of the things I said. A lot of things leading to the breakup were her fault but the actually breakup was on me. I had a lot of pent up anger over how she was treating me and then I just snapped and told her to get the fk up of my house. My text basically just said I'm not proud of what I said but if you truly want to break up then this will be the last time I reach up to you. She didn't reply. Day 1 (2016/03/03)

Well day 1 is going to have to start tomorrow. I met up with her today to discuss our breakup and she said she loved me but wasn't in love with me. This girl used to be infatuated with me but I did a lot of things over the past 3 months that would make her lose attraction. We ended up having sex and then she took me up for supper and then parted ways. I dated her for around 18 months. She was distant the past 3 months so I'm sure she has pictured life without me for 100's of times. She said she is going to miss me because I feel like family to her. Obviously she has very little sexual attraction to me at this point to say something like that.

I actually feel not bad right now. By her ending things 100% with her decision (I told her I still loved her) I only need to focus on forgetting her, improving myself, and finding new women. She will need to ask herself if she made the right decision tomorrow, next week, next month.. or maybe she will never ask herself that question.

I don't expect to hear from her any time soon. If she does reach out it will most likely be when I'm over her.

 

[finality]

Today officially is day 1 of NC after the X told me she is no longer in love with me.

Came out of the gym and noticed she called me. She left no message and I'm not returning the call. She might have anxiety already that she made the wrong decision but I'm just going to assume that she pocket dialed and get on with my day.

 

[finality]

Day 2.

I realize now that I was a total AFC. Caring what a women thinks is 100% ego based. My X lost interest in the AFC that I had become. I was in control of the relationship for 90% of the time we were dating but once she backed off I made the classic mistake the all AFC's make and told her how much she meant to me/chased harder and harder ect.

We don't fail. We only make mistakes. And then we learn and get better. My X did me a favor by breaking up with me.

 

[finality]

Day 3.

X texted a couple times yesterday basically saying she was scared of commitment,intimacy, making the wrong decisions, past failed relationships ect and that it wasn't about her and I and that its worth a conversation between us.

I didn't respond.

 

[S. Aureus]

Day 3.

X texted a couple times yesterday basically saying she was scared of commitment,intimacy, making the wrong decisions, past failed relationships ect and that it wasn't about her and I and that its worth a conversation between us.

I didn't respond.

From experience, is better not to respond. If you do it and then you try NC again. It will be possible that they know that you're weak, that once you tried NC and fail, if they wanted to contact you again and you will respond and be in their hands again.

 

[finality]

From experience, is better not to respond. If you do it and then you try NC again. It will be possible that they know that you're weak, that once you tried NC and fail, if they wanted to contact you again and you will respond and be in their hands again.

She called me from a different number and I picked up lol Basically just giving me reasons for breaking up with me (so she doesn't feel like the bad guy) and then simultaneously saying once I'm in a better state of mind you never know what can happen.

uggggg... feels like I lost a ton of power somehow

 

[finality]

"and then simultaneously saying once I'm in a better state of mind you never know what can happen."


Cut all ties then YOU have all the power. She is doubting her decision, plain and simple and trying to keep you on the hook.

YOU my friend, are the backup plan. How does that feel, to be the backup plan?

YOU my friend, are the backup plan. How does that feel, to be the backup plan?

YOU my friend, are the backup plan. How does that feel, to be the backup plan?

Don't let that happen.............she will string you along until she finds the next BF, then drop you like a hot potato.

Here is what you need to tell her next time she calls or texts "Thanks for the call ! I am already dating someone else now though, so it would be better for everyone if you didn't contact me again. Thanks"


I'll repeat it for you so you can memorize it easily.


"Thanks for the call ! I am already dating someone else now though, so it would be better for everyone if you didn't contact me again. Thanks"

Thanks for that man. I'm the backup plan.

 

[Srcr347]

Update: So we work together, and I wrote my first entry this morning. I had to ignore her and sit on the other side of the office. It was hard because I could she seemed very talkative today. She was all smiles and giddy, and I hated it. I am trying not to let it get to me, but I can't help but feel pissed.

Day 4
I'm not gonna lie, it's kinda rough. I really want to speak to her but I know how bad it'll be if I do. I know it won't progress anywhere if I decide to break this pack. I love her. I really don't want to love her because she's such a ****ing *******. I've been working on myself a bit, hopefully I won't have to pay attention to her later. I'm a lil drunk right now too. I ****ing hate how I feel right now.

 

[finality]

Day 1

I talked with my X yesterday so I'm starting out on day 1 again. I felt much better yesterday and while its easy to blame my X (was feeling good, then talked to my X, now feeling bad) I need to control my own feelings. As soon as I blame others for how I feel I am no longer in control of my own feelings and powerless. Recognizing this, of course, is easy. Applying what you know to be true is much harder.

Controlling my every thought is like trying to catch every snowflake before they touch the ground. And its a freaking blizzard outside. But the seasonings are always changing and pretty soon I wont need to try and catch snowflakes because it will be hot and sunny.

 

[Jordski]

Drama queen.. Go lift..

 

[finality]

X showed up at my gym ugghh

She gave me a lame smirk and then we basically ignored each other. I didn't want to seem butt hurt so as I was walking out I asked how her job hunt was and told her to enjoy her workout.

I think I have my first new plate spinning. I asked her when she is available to get together and she replied asking what time my bedtime was tonight

Created on online profile and sent 14 generic messages to HB7+

4 of them responded so that's not bad.

 

[Reykhel]

"No Mud, No Lotus: The Art of Transforming Suffering" Thich Nhat Hanh.

 

[finality]

Day 1 again.

X stopped by yesterday with some of my stuff. No sex. Just basically her coming around to mess with my ego. I found out that she has been banging another guy the past 3 months lol

I told the other guy on Facebook and he was also unaware

I need your guys opinion on this. We are planning on getting in the same room as my X and confronting her on friday afternoon but is it better to just go NC. The best part is Friday is her birthday and she doesn't know anything is up with the other guy. She also told me yesterday that she plans on contracting me in a month when she figures herself out lol.

Anyways.. she we confront her or should I NC.

Going on a first date tonight with a HB6. My attractive level is pretty low and I'd rather just stay home but forcing myself to meet other women,.

 

[Reykhel]

Day 1 again.

X stopped by yesterday with some of my stuff. No sex. Just basically her coming around to mess with my ego. I found out that she has been banging another guy the past 3 months lol

I told the other guy on Facebook and he was also unaware

I need your guys opinion on this. We are planning on getting in the same room as my X and confronting her on friday afternoon but is it better to just go NC. The best part is Friday is her birthday and she doesn't know anything is up with the other guy. She also told me yesterday that she plans on contracting me in a month when she figures herself out lol.

Anyways.. she we confront her or should I NC.

Going on a first date tonight with a HB6. My attractive level is pretty low and I'd rather just stay home but forcing myself to meet other women,.

No. Let it go. Have some dignity and walk the fvck away.

What will you gain by confronting her? Will she care? Will you care if she cares or doesn't care? Why?

Guess what? she can't care when she does't care.

Whose frame do you think you'll be operating in with this little drama? You'd think yours, but it would be hers.....two little idiots playing parts in this bytches drama......when you could be....

LIVING YOUR OWN LIFE!!!!

You got burnt. It happens. It hurts. You're not the first. There are plenty here that it happened to also.

You use it to transform YOUR LIFE. No Mud, no Lotus Flower. Are you ready to make your transformation?

You'll look back on this one day and think to yourself "wow, I actually needed that situation to happen to me" believe me when I tell you that one that you'll be grateful for this pain, grateful for this humiliation.....

Accept that it's over for good and let go of false hope.

It doesn't matter what she says. The words of the dead are not important. Move forward with your life.

With revenge, prepare to dig two graves (confuctious I believe)

 

[finality]

I took a new girl out and the entire time I was comparing her to my X. I actually talked about my X most of the night. She was a 6 at best and her personality was boring. Basically I just wanted crawl back to my oneitis like an afc.

What are some suggestions from the DJs. Should I take some time off to "heal" or should I force myself to see other women even when I'm pinning.

 

[Jordski]

You'll look back on this one day and think to yourself "wow, I actually needed that situation to happen to me" believe me when I tell you that one that you'll be grateful for this pain, grateful for this humiliation.....

. So much this.

 

[finality]

Nothing good will EVER come of doing this. Would it increase your attraction to a woman, to sit through a date with her, just to hear her talk about her ex all night? Talk about anything--but not your ex, especially on a first date! Have more self restraint. Get out of your past and be in the present. There was a brand new woman sitting in front of you and you spent the night telling her about a woman she does not even know or care about. How is that going to make her pvssy wet or want to see you again?

I didn't care about making her wet. She was 5 and only went out to force myself a date. She was actually rubbing her foot against mine and fiddling with her hair all night. I could've escalated things if I wanted to.

I was asking if there is a thing about not being ready to see other women yet. Like is there a grieving process after splitting with someone you dating for 18 months with talks about marriage or will going on dates right now expedite the process of feeling like a list a huge part of my life