The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Skyline]

Day 7

Had group activity that involved everyone today, just a court simulation type thing. We ended up playing a simple talking game and she was involved.

After that, we made heavy eye contact before she broke it because I flipped her off- inside joke nothing actually personal. I know she's still into me, my gut is telling me that. Just bad timing I guess.

Other than that, I didn't talk to her and she didn't talk to me.

There's this morning girl I somewhat talk to, I don't see her often but I'm gonna grab her number the next time I see her.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

 

[dustmuffin]

****. I was looking of a pic of myself with beard that a girl asked for and I saw pics of my ex. I didn't remember them being there. A rush of feelings and anxiety invaded my body. I don't know what happened to me but I looked into the sex vids and pics we had. I feel like **** right now. I'm going for a walk so these feelings vanish. Fuk this ****, I was doing really good, I thought about her maybe once a day and I would quickly get my mind to think about something else. I was almost totally clear. Right now I want to call her and tell her how could she treat me like she did, I just want to tell her what I think about her, as I did not when I found about her cheating. I despise myself for this. How can I be this beta. . I feel like ****, but I know this will only last for a couple of hours.

So day 1 I guess lol.

Keep trying buddy. I have done the same thing. It will pass.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Keep trying buddy. I have done the same thing. It will pass.

It just went away. I still feel a little anxiety, but nothing too big, in a couple of days I will be like before. But man, I didn't think seeing a picture of her would make me feel that way. This is why NC is a thing, you can't heal without it.

 

[Skyline]

Day 8

We did another activity today and basically we cleared out a room and then waited in the next room.

After a few other people and I went, I stood in the doorway of a small room. She came in and started talking to me about a window and then asked me what was in the room.

I kept it short, simple, and somewhat playful. I can tell there is still interest because of the way she looks at me. It's almost "deep," it's hard to explain.

My friend broke something and I gave her a piece of it and didn't say anything. Probably a 2 second interaction. The eye contact is definitely there.

When we were leaving I went the other way on a dual stairway and we crossed paths at the bottom. She looked directly at me and I kind of just looked at her briefly as I opened the front doors and left.

I think she's just now realizing that I'm not interacting with her as much as I used to.

Oh another thing I forgot to add on day 7, we put our bags in a locked room to prevent stealing and we get them back when we leave.

I was the first one in and saw her phone was lightened up with a long *ss text message, I'm talking at least 240+ characters... Phones only receive 120 before it gets split, iPhones will merge it automatically though. I'm not sure who it was from or what it said, because privacy, but if it was from her boyfriend I don't think they'll last long.


Maybe it's nothing and I'm just being hopeful, but I'm honestly feeling like I'm getting over her.

Bad timing is all I have to say for this girl.

And I need to keep spinning plates until we are 100% exclusive. I got a little too ****y this time around.

She contacted me today by talking to me in class. I interacted with her today by giving her a piece of nothing. Both interactions were short and simple, but the one by me was less than 5 seconds. I don't want her to think I'm completely ignoring her- because I'm really not.

 

[Floydispink01]

Day 8

We did another activity today and basically we cleared out a room and then waited in the next room.

After a few other people and I went, I stood in the doorway of a small room. She came in and started talking to me about a window and then asked me what was in the room.

I kept it short, simple, and somewhat playful. I can tell there is still interest because of the way she looks at me. It's almost "deep," it's hard to explain.

My friend broke something and I gave her a piece of it and didn't say anything. Probably a 2 second interaction. The eye contact is definitely there.

When we were leaving I went the other way on a dual stairway and we crossed paths at the bottom. She looked directly at me and I kind of just looked at her briefly as I opened the front doors and left.

I think she's just now realizing that I'm not interacting with her as much as I used to.

Oh another thing I forgot to add on day 7, we put our bags in a locked room to prevent stealing and we get them back when we leave.

I was the first one in and saw her phone was lightened up with a long *ss text message, I'm talking at least 240+ characters... Phones only receive 120 before it gets split, iPhones will merge it automatically though. I'm not sure who it was from or what it said, because privacy, but if it was from her boyfriend I don't think they'll last long.


Maybe it's nothing and I'm just being hopeful, but I'm honestly feeling like I'm getting over her.

Bad timing is all I have to say for this girl.

And I need to keep spinning plates until we are 100% exclusive. I got a little too ****y this time around.

She contacted me today by talking to me in class. I interacted with her today by giving her a piece of nothing. Both interactions were short and simple, but the one by me was less than 5 seconds. I don't want her to think I'm completely ignoring her- because I'm really not.

Kudo's to you for remaining calm so far dude. Especially, when your in daily contact. Keep this up and maintain your focus on other things. Let her simmer.

Her loss. Your gain.

 

[JohnyTheArrow]

I recommend everybody going through break-up taking supplements : magnesium,St Johns wort,melissa tea,Vit D,Zin,Selen,rhiodiola,5-htp,gaba - they will ease your mental breakdown

 

[Skyline]

Day 9

Chose not to go to class today because of a personal issue that happened last night. My issue isn't about women but about my life as a whole. I might make a thread about it, not sure.

This is actually my first absence throughout the entire year.

But anyway, I didn't show up so I never saw her.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

 

[Glumix]

It just went away. I still feel a little anxiety, but nothing too big, in a couple of days I will be like before. But man, I didn't think seeing a picture of her would make me feel that way. This is why NC is a thing, you can't heal without it.

You should either delete all those pics or buy a USB key, put them on it and put the USB key in a box you can't access easily.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

You should either delete all those pics or buy a USB key, put them on it and put the USB key in a box you can't access easily.

I should delete them, I know, but man, its 5 years of my life. 3 of them were very happy years, and I don't want to forget them, but at the same time I feel bad if I remember them. It's weird. Maybe the USB option would be the best thing to do. Thanks mate.

 

[Skyline]

Day 10

I woke up thinking about her. Then I got up and realized that I have bigger issues going on in my life, I actually hit rock bottom the other night. It really helped shifted my focus because now I know that I'm not designed to live a mediocre life, I just feel like I have far more potential than I originally thought. I'm going to be a millionaire(via success somewhere) in some way, I can just feel it.

I worked all day and didn't really think about her. But I know she is still at the back of my head because whenever I'm alone or have some down time she floats back up in my mind. Just a lot of 'what if's' really.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

 

[S. Aureus]

So after ****ing up again and talk to her and ****. I told her a few minutes ago about NC. I feel pretty secure this time, but i feel that she will write me in a few days. I kinda feel bad losing my best friend this way but it was the best decision i can think of

Day 1

 

[Skyline]

Day 11

Woke up thinking about her again. Just how I think we would be good together and me fvcking her in all sorts of fun ways.

Other than that, I felt normal throughout the day.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

 

[indisguise]

#Day17 over 45..

If I haven't broken my NC the first time, it would be day 62 by now.. I have mixed feelings about this. The idea of me forcing myself to forget the good days we had is troubling me.
To be honest, I've had easier days of NC before, I have spent long happy days with no problem. why on earth can't I stop thinking about her now?.. this feeling sucks.

Maybe I need closure. even though I tried really hard the last time we spoke to put an end and seek closure but she wouldn't give me it. in that last conversation she left me hanging and dropped the conversation in the middle. I know why she does that, it makes it ten times harder to forget her and to move on.

I try to keep myself busy and I really have lots of things to do other than my daily job. but it's all a matter of routine,.. is it normal that I still see her in my dreams/nightmares?
I hope you guys are doing well, keep it up..

 

[Wolfjay]

THE NO CONTACT CHALLENGE - Daydream Enginner

Hey Guys and girls,


Let's start the No Contact Challenge. This has personally helped me 2 years ago, and i have seen many members asking for "how to get my ex back", and after breakup questions. The idea is a simple one, for 60 days, you will not talk or communicate with the girl that bazooka your heart. In any way, form, or communication, and every time you feel like saying something to her, you will write what you were going to tell her, AND/OR why you want to contact her, in this thread instead. This has been field tested by me, and it works from selling your soul to the she-devil.

You are going to do No Contact for yourself, you need to get away from here and move on. You will feel a transformation at the end of your challenge, and the ex that broke your heart, won't be a parasite in your mind anymore. You might even get your ex's attraction back, but you will be busy thinking about other girls to give her a second chance.

Let's begin,
Here are the rules:

1. First of all, before you do anything, read these articles:

The "Just Got Dumped" GUIDE
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594

The Ultimate Break Up Guide…
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=38886

and....

No Contact - The Guide



...continued.

What happens after no Contact? How do u get it going for u again

 

[Skyline]

Day 12

She still floats in my head every now and then. I had to make casual, short(1-2 words) conversation because my friends were talking to her when I was right there with them(they talk to her because of me now, which is my fault). Not really anything serious.

I almost have my mojo back again I would say. Starting to think about 'fvck dat b*tch' and 'she's missing out,' type of stuff- which is good.

Neither one of us contacted each other today.

 

[S. Aureus]

Day 3 over 40 days

Pretty great so far. Going out with some friends and concentrating with my studies have made me think anything but her. Today i saw her for like 3 minutes but we didn't get close so we didn't say hello or anything, Tomorrow will be with her for 2 hours in the same room with another 10 people so it will be a little awkward.
Also thursday with a friend of mine, we will get out with his gf and two friends (one of them is pretty cute and available), and friday a pretty big party but I'm pretty sure that I will see my ex so I'll play cool and hopefully everything should be fine

Also I'm trying to think a lot of positive things about me, that "I'm the prize" "It's her loss" "I can do better" and I know. I will get better guys. If a lot of my friends and her bff told me that and also I KNOW THAT I AM.

 

[Skyline]

Day 13(broke no contact)

I woke up feeling normal. Later on in the morning she texted me that her car broke down and that she was going to be late and to tell me to tell our professor. I simply responded with "have fun walking" and she replied with "fvck no." I didn't reply after that.

Also, she could have texted a few other class mates but decided to text me..? Just food for thought.

Didn't really talk to her or interact with her in class. Kind of just let myself be fun and obnoxious like how I usually am.

Later in in the evening she posts a snapchat about how her coach hates her. I send her one asking why and she responded but I haven't opened it yet.

I don't feel bad for breaking no contact to be honest. Obviously I'm still going to treat her like a 2 and do my own thing but I feel like I'm on the verge of getting over her so I don't think I need to update this anymore.

She still floats in the back of my mind but she will come back around later down the road. She's really missing out.

The first 10 days were painful but I'm okay now.

Good luck to you all!

 

[Floydispink01]

Day 13(broke no contact)

I woke up feeling normal. Later on in the morning she texted me that her car broke down and that she was going to be late and to tell me to tell our professor. I simply responded with "have fun walking" and she replied with "fvck no." I didn't reply after that.

Also, she could have texted a few other class mates but decided to text me..? Just food for thought.

Didn't really talk to her or interact with her in class. Kind of just let myself be fun and obnoxious like how I usually am.

Later in in the evening she posts a snapchat about how her coach hates her. I send her one asking why and she responded but I haven't opened it yet.

I don't feel bad for breaking no contact to be honest. Obviously I'm still going to treat her like a 2 and do my own thing but I feel like I'm on the verge of getting over her so I don't think I need to update this anymore.

She still floats in the back of my mind but she will come back around later down the road. She's really missing out.

The first 10 days were painful but I'm okay now.

Good luck to you all!

She most likely texted you over the other classmates because you have been indifferent towards her in these last 12 days. You've demonstrated a backbone. This has raised her interest. Without fully knowing your situation, I think its a trap to suck you back into her little orbit. Good work over the last 2 weeks to keep your cool but i would be careful how you continue from here. Feelings for a girl don't quickly subside.

'she will come back around later down the road' - you don't know this for certain, it is more than likely than she is walking down another man's road. When she falls over, she looks for the attention of you and others to pick her back up. For example - friendly 'innocent' snapchats and predicament messages. Be mindful of this, which im sure you do. Your response to these were good. Better would of been to ignore.

Good luck dude.

 

[Skyline]

She most likely texted you over the other classmates because you have been indifferent towards her in these last 12 days. You've demonstrated a backbone. This has raised her interest. Without fully knowing your situation, I think its a trap to suck you back into her little orbit. Good work over the last 2 weeks to keep your cool but i would be careful how you continue from here. Feelings for a girl don't quickly subside.

'she will come back around later down the road' - you don't know this for certain, it is more than likely than she is walking down another man's road. When she falls over, she looks for the attention of you and others to pick her back up. For example - friendly 'innocent' snapchats and predicament messages. Be mindful of this, which im sure you do. Your response to these were good. Better would of been to ignore.

Good luck dude.

If it is a trap, ill only give in a little because I see her on a daily basis. If I didn't I wouldn't have responded at all or even broke no contact. I won't be going out of my way to talk/interact with her, it'll be as if I'm still doing no contact without actually thinking about it.

I think I'm fine now to be honest, if I fall off ill come back here.

 

[Floydispink01]

Righto Neon Owl.

Now THEY are feeling rejected. So, they extend the "Olive Branch"

But this is a poison Olive Branch...you see, when you reach out for this and take it....you do it with honesty, sincerity, and hope. Vulnerability. Meanwhile, she extends it ONLY to see if you will expose yourself, once again, to be gutted. IF YOU DO....it simply confirms she still has you, can reach you and get a response, be accepted and chased by you any time she wants. It is a Trojan Horse...........whose only purpose is to feed her ego.

I am not bitter, but I am slightly hardened. When she breaks it off with you..............she CHOOSES to give up the right of a reply from you.

I can remember reading this quote a few years ago during NC and it hit me like a block of ice full force in the face. It was just what i needed. Great stuff.