Your Longest No-Contact

[Desdinova]

This is just for curiosity.... What's the longest amount of time a woman maintained no-contact before she caved and re-initiated contact with you? Six months? A year? Ten years?

 

[Tictac]

Two years.

She's now plate #1.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

This is just for curiosity.... What's the longest amount of time a woman maintained no-contact before she caved and re-initiated contact with you? Six months? A year? Ten years?

ha. my first gf, on highschool. it was a very short thing. Anyhow, so 3 years pass or so and I start with my LTR, in 4 months she contacted me. Of course, she knew about my new relationship.

 

[Floydispink01]

I've had one who re-initiated after 3 years. This was after a chance meeting in a bar if that counts. We maintained a sexual relationship for a few months afterwards.

I've also had a plate who contacted me after 5 months and an ex girl friend after 6 months - I stayed strong and refused to stay in contact with this particular one.

These are mostly girls who left me hanging though rather than point blank say to my face that it's finished. So maybe it's the cat analogy working in favour for us if you stay strong and walk away and most importantly mean it.

I will happily leave it up the air rather than confront and seek out closure.

 

[blind_one]

She contacted me about one and half months after she broke up with me ( for the 3rd time I guess ) and I was not gonna chase. Breaking up over bullsh!t and throwing tantrums are what cemented it. Of course she regreted it afterwards. It was also me acting like and AFC not putting my foot down on her downward sh!tty behaviour. I ceased contact. It is now year and half, we were together for a year and half as well. Not intending to contact her. I've seen her since like 3 times in a bar by a chance. We treat each other with dignity but don't talk. She probably still thinks I hurt her by not getting back with her

 

[StacksHitEmUp]

One month. Girls get real anxious if you decide to walk away and STICK TO IT. When she heard I was making a name for myself and enjoying life to the fullest she re-initiated very quickly.

 

[TRPShill]

i accidentally (seriously) contacted her after a little over a month. two months later she wished me marry x mas and asked me to come to some bs thing she was doing. I declined. She is torn up about it as I can tell her from her social media. She will try again with what she knows i want: sex

 

[dustmuffin]

My ex sends me crap texts on. Holidays
I don't respond.

 

[Armourhead]

Maybe 2 years and the rest generally fall into less than 6 months

 

[logicallefty]

21 years! I dumped a girl in the fall 1991 when I was a Senior in high school. We hooked back up via Facebook in June of 2012, and had a 2.5 year LTR that lasted until October of 2014.

 

[Desdinova]

I guess I should give mine... 8 years - the woman who drove me here contacted me just days after I ended my marriage

 

[Glumix]

5 years... But I am far far down her HSL and she has a family now so probably won't hear from her for a lifetime.

Can't wait a few more years to see how many of my exes will call me back.

Especially the BPD one. Ah man, I so want her to call me back so I could say "wanna be friends? ok, come here, get naked, suck my d*ck, ok now we are friend, go away there are others in line after you". Ahah, can't wait.

(nah, this is a fantasy, won't do that, I am a good man)

 

[Floydispink01]

Here's the story with one of my ex's who attempted to re-initiate after 6 months. This particular relationship had no closure. She let things fizzle out rather than tell me up front that she wanted to end it. She was acting distant and I made the cardinal sin of confronting and trying to convince her how we should stay together, which seemed like the right idea at the time (amazing how you can rationalize your poor behaviours and intentions under your oneitis spell) .I was very confused as she was sending me mixed signals but i had no choice but to walk away. I was gutted.

Fast forward six months later and she began contacting me out of the blue. 'Hey,how are you?' 'i miss you so much' 'Are you mad at me, you are a special man' 'i would like to see you again'. Blah blah blah. I refused to be baited into this and maintained my vow of NC. In the back of mind though, i was thinking does she want to kick things off again. I contemplated responding but i refused. An earlier version of me would of been excited and respond favourably....I had to stay true to myself.

I only come to realize later down the line though that she was pregnant with her ex-boyfriend (the one before me) whilst she re-iniatiated and her attempts were nothing more than trying to make herself feel better. The conceivement of her child was around the time of her acting distant and my futile attempts to convince her. She even told a mutual friend that she wanted to get back together with me whilst she was pregnant (as her ex wanted nothing to do with her or the child). I felt stupid but proud that i stuck to my guns. Ive never spoken to her since and never will.

This is in stark contrast to my first ex who up front told me that she wasnt feeling it anymore and ended it. I never heard back from her but have the most respect for her for being honest.

 

[NSX-R]

Usually after2 months ,all of the plates i have dumped text me back. At this point i start to run away and it's funny when i get responses like " sorry for bothering you" or asking why i dumped them. Good times.

 

[logicallefty]

responses like " sorry for bothering you" or asking why i dumped them. Good times.

Sorry for bothering you = I have some respect for you and your time and I know you are busy with more important things than me.

Asking why I dumped them = I haven't got complete closure and moved on and I may even still like/love you

If a relationship is going to end, this is where you want it to be... A complete 180 from what most guys go through where the woman dumps them and they are still soppy over her months/years later while she has moved on and fvcked 10 other guys sense then.

Good times, indeed!!

The one I dumped in HS and then had a 2.5 year LTR 21 years later, AND, dumped her yet again then, she told me when I ended the LTR that I was her first love and she had loved me the whole time, for 21 years. Then about a year after I ended the LTR she ran into my mom and told my mom "I still love him and always will".

 

[Alvafe]

now you mentioned, all girls I kicked to the corner, take more or less 6 months to try and send a msg to me again, one at least was polite asking how I was been, the other just wanted me to fix her computer lol, most will just send random things, but feh I read and delete after

 

[Reykhel]

I guess I should give mine... 8 years - the woman who drove me here contacted me just days after I ended my marriage

How did she know? Facebook? Small town?

 

[Reykhel]

They all must hate Reykhel!!!!!!!

Granted I do tend to end things in a bad way....I'm trying not to say "Goodbye, you are the
weakest link" anymore from 2016. But it just seems so amusing at the time....

Well I suppose my compulsive liar of an ex from my last LTR contacted me a few months (2.5 I think) after I went commando No Contact on her, which included a nice two week fvckfest in Cuba....she sent me
a fvcking 5 pages hand written letter....telling me she loved me and we would be together again in the future.......after previously telling me the opposite........I kept that letter for a while just to amuse myself and
remind me what a fvcking lunatic she was........then I put a lighter to it.

 

[NSX-R]

Sorry for bothering you = I have some respect for you and your time and I know you are busy with more important things than me.

Asking why I dumped them = I haven't got complete closure and moved on and I may even still like/love you

If a relationship is going to end, this is where you want it to be... A complete 180 from what most guys go through where the woman dumps them and they are still soppy over her months/years later while she has moved on and fvcked 10 other guys sense then.

Good times, indeed!!

The one I dumped in HS and then had a 2.5 year LTR 21 years later, AND, dumped her yet again then, she told me when I ended the LTR that I was her first love and she had loved me the whole time, for 21 years. Then about a year after I ended the LTR she ran into my mom and told my mom "I still love him and always will".

It's just crazy how things can turn. Sometimes i wonder if some chicks feel the same way as when a guy got dumped. That's the reason why i don't want to have a gf . When you see the chick as a plate , it's easier for you to dump her , no hard feelings and you still maintain your alpha status since you had nothing exclusive with her. It's a win win imo

 

[Desdinova]

How did she know? Facebook? Small town?

She ran into my cousin and he told her my marriage had ended. Here's the message she sent me:

Dear Des:

Its been nine years since we have spoken to each other. I have thought of you from time to time over the years, I could not contact you out of respect but I have always hoped that you were well and happy. I was pleased to hear of your successes in life, the birth of your son especially as I am a mother too and their is nothing in the world dearer to me then my boy, I am sure that you feel the same about yours. I really hope that this letter will not cause you any more distress, as we have been thru some very tough things together and apart. I like to think of all the many good times we had, I have so many fond memories of you, we were so young then...only kids. Sometimes it seems like it was in another life but then other times I can remember a simple funny conversation or a kind smile like it was yesterday.

You were the most unique,weird,witty,talented,just plain silly,tender, kind person I knew. their was soo much to love about you. I still have this video that you made for me for christmas one year. I think I was seventeen maybe... well it was just the sweetest thing anyone has ever done for me. I have a few pictures of us, you really were a handsome kid You know! And I still cry cry like a baby when I think of my cat...I really miss him! lol

My dear old friend...in these last few days I cannot stop thinking of you, my heart is aching for you, and I could not help myself from wanting to say just a few words in hopes that it may help you in some way. At times in my own life I have felt so much pain, so much uncertainty, I felt literally like their was no more strength left in my mind or body to pull through. but I have and I am happy. I have survived deceit, abuse, abandonment and loneliness. I have seen people I care for consumed by these things, which I find the most tragic of all...and some that have become stronger in spite of them. remember that you cannot control what other people do, we all have to walk our own paths in this life and we must live with the path we choose.

I know that it does not ease the pain of loss and their will be good days and bad, but if I am feeling down I only need look at the sweet smile, the little sparkle in my babies eyes and all of my worries seem to disappear, if only for a moment I feel rested. kids are amazing that way, their purity and love is so relieving, it is truly medicinal. I feel a great sense of purpose as a parent, to do the best that I can for him and it is so easy because all that he would ask of me is to sit with him and read a book, to explore everything and anything. Just to talk with him for little while, to be kind and loving.

Be hopeful that their are many good days yet to come, don't even doubt it, I knew you once upon a time and you are a strong person and you have a good heart! I am sure that you have many friends and family helping you out but if you ever need someone to talk to, as a friend or one parent to another, if you need anything at all please send a message or give me a call. I would be happy just to know that you are doing ok. If not, I would completely understand but please take care of yourself and the little one, you are a very special kind of person and you will be just fine in time.