"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Advice on dating for a guy with low dating experience

BrightV

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I am 30+ and I dare to admit. I am out of the game for years (4). (do not comment on this... various reasons)
My questions will look stupid. But for me are normal.

I had the online person which I met and had a first date. (my previous post)
Before we met, due to her occupation, she was busy, but we talked a lot on the phone and messages (unfortunately), she liked it and she was already convinced to meet but also positive.

During the first date (which lasted 6hours). I also escalated a bit by touching and tickling etc.
No more than that... but it was warm.... she let no eyes of me, I escalated a bit but not to kiss for goodbye.

We reduced communication after the date, she was outside the country we leave, and had no much of connection (wifi/internet).
Today when she returned, she called after she had no roaming (through her car).

She is busy with 1 job, some changes in her life. Also some extra post Graduation ****...
and the date seems to be a long shot (about a week from now)

Guys what should I do? Communication ? Date arrangement?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BrightV

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How do you really tackle on the daily need (from her) for talking on the phone.

Should I become just busy?

She texts first in the morning. and whenever she is free.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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dustmuffin

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How do you really tackle on the daily need (from her) for talking on the phone.

Should I become just busy?

She texts first in the morning. and whenever she is free.
Dont always answer and return calls next day or later.
 
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