"I didn't have any other plans"

[CuddleJunkie]

Ok, so first date in 5 years of being in a LTR. The girl is fun to be with and the date was great, I think I'll have a second, but whatever, I'm just warming up at the moment. Anyhow, I encountered a new ****-test for me: just 2 minutes since we met she says "I didn't have any other plans", I was a little shocked but replied with "I do, but we're not in a hurry, so don't worry", as I was going to have some beers with a friend later. So I think I did well but I'm not sure as its been a long time since I do this stuff.

So, what do you guys think? And what would you have replied?

 

[dustmuffin]

I would have ignored.

 

[marmel75]

Didn't really sound like much of a sh!t test to me...sounded more like she was nonchalantly saying if you wanted to take her back to your house and shove your c0ck down her throat, she didn't have anything else going on that would have prevented it...just saying. Not everything a woman says is a sh!t test...

Woman are horny too sometimes ya know...

 

[El Payaso]

Using hindsight, she was probably telling you she was free all night which was code for she wanted to hookup with you.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Fuk my life. You are maybe right, she said later "I don't know what I'll do now, maybe watch some movie alone". Well, ok, I'll have it in mind next time. Thank you guys

 

[Julian]

oh my LOL damn cuddlejunkie...get with the program here. escalate

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Yeah I know, but my sex drive is extremly low since I found about my ex lies. It's just like I don't want women in my life anymore, but I know is temporary so I'm forcing myself to meet girls. But maybe I didn't escalate because of fear or rejection and I'm making up excuses, I don't know. It doesn't really matter, what matters is to learn from this and escalate next time.

 

[El Payaso]

Yeah I know, but my sex drive is extremly low since I found about my ex lies. It's just like I don't want women in my life anymore, but I know is temporary so I'm forcing myself to meet girls. But maybe I didn't escalate because of fear or rejection and I'm making up excuses, I don't know. It doesn't really matter, what matters is to learn from this and escalate next time.

It's okay. You live and learn. Also, don't force yourself if your mind is still not in the right place.

 

[Poon King]

Stop analyzing and over-thinking so much.

All that matters when you are spending time with a woman is her level of submission. You should know what you want and expect from her. So move forward with getting it from her. Don't analyze every retarded thing she says. Its not important. What matters is how much she submits to you.

Remember that women talk a lot of sh!t and are generally dishonest. YES women are generally dishonest. So worry about what she does and ignore what she says unless it matches up.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Yeah, I should try to be more moment-centered while doing things, I think too much about stuff that does not have importance. So, you're basically saying: stop listening to what she says, escalate till the point she wants you to, and try to escalate more another time. This is what I'll do next time.
Thank you very much to all of you.

 

[_Dream_]

Yeah I know, but my sex drive is extremly low since I found about my ex lies. It's just like I don't want women in my life anymore, but I know is temporary so I'm forcing myself to meet girls. But maybe I didn't escalate because of fear or rejection and I'm making up excuses, I don't know. It doesn't really matter, what matters is to learn from this and escalate next time.

I know that feeling man.. I manage to meet girls, bring them to my room. Things get heated up but i get so ****ing angry when a girl is laying on her back all passive making me do all the work.
In my mind thats a sign she is a ungrateful ***** and it reminds me of how my ex dumped me. Its such a freaking turn off.

Like grab some D*ck, suck some, show that you want me

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I know that feeling man.. I manage to meet girls, bring them to my room. Things get heated up but i get so ****ing angry when a girl is laying on her back all passive making me do all the work.
In my mind thats a sign she is a ungrateful ***** and it reminds me of how my ex dumped me. Its such a freaking turn off.

Like grab some D*ck, suck some, show that you want me

It's real. Being cheated on can mess up your sex drive and erections. What will help it is females who are super into you.

 

[Glumix]

Things get heated up but i get so ****ing angry when a girl is laying on her back all passive making me do all the work.

Women receive. Men take. You take her and give your energy. She gives her (submits) and takes your energy. That's how it works in animal kingdom and we live in that kingdom!

And women **** with their mind first. So **** their mind HARD.
Order her to do something! Like grab my d!ck. Show me your a$$! Or lick me gently, I want to feel your tongue on me.

**** her mind as hard as you can!

It's not about forcing her or whatever. It's must be fun but powerful. It's about having a consensual exchange of sexual energy.

If you do all the work then you submit to her. That's no good for your self-esteem. Your manliness will grow only if you take her mind hard.

Sex is not about ejaculating. It's a mind game. You have to feel it in your stomach.

And if she does not do anything then leave. You do not need her. She's a bad fvck.

 

[_Dream_]

Women receive. Men take. You take her and give your energy. She gives her (submits) and takes your energy. That's how it works in animal kingdom and we live in that kingdom!

And women **** with their mind first. So **** their mind HARD.
Order her to do something! Like grab my d!ck. Show me your a$$! Or lick me gently, I want to feel your tongue on me.

**** her mind as hard as you can!

It's not about forcing her or whatever. It's must be fun but powerful. It's about having a consensual exchange of sexual energy.

If you do all the work then you submit to her. That's no good for your self-esteem. Your manliness will grow only if you take her mind hard.

Sex is not about ejaculating. It's a mind game. You have to feel it in your stomach.

And if she does not do anything then leave. You do not need her. She's a bad fvck.

You know what, you are absolutely right
Next time things get hot with a girl and I want her to start grabing and touching me under clothes, im going to take her arm and lead her into it.
I want her to suck it, say it and put her in a position for it.
I feel like im losing my turn on since she isn’t doing anything? Ill say it and not just hope she gets more active..
If I want sex I will unbuckle her pants and do it, not just wait for her to be comfortable enough to do it


I know it might sound like common sense to you, but I was in a LTR with a girl that would lose all her sex drive and get super scared if I got dominant. That gets into your head man.
Its time i finally take control!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You know what, you are absolutely right
Next time things get hot with a girl and I want her to start grabing and touching me under clothes, im going to take her arm and lead her into it.
I want her to suck it, say it and put her in a position for it.
I feel like im losing my turn on since she isn’t doing anything? Ill say it and not just hope she gets more active..
If I want sex I will unbuckle her pants and do it, not just wait for her to be comfortable enough to do it


I know it might sound like common sense to you, but I was in a LTR with a girl that would lose all her sex drive and get super scared if I got dominant. That gets into your head man.
Its time i finally take control!

Your girlfriend messed you up. All of my women I would "lead the dance" as you say and start taking their clothes off. The new one had a thing against me being dominant and controls a lot of the positions and timings, it really lowers my desire.