You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Are your ears guaranteed to get f'd up over time? I'd hate to get in the practice and be forced to get surgery on my ears to remove growths due to my hobby.I did BJJ religiously for 3 years. 3 hours a day. I moved 2 hours North and there aren't any quality dojos around here and that is the sole reason I don't do it anymore.
Get ready to be tapped out in under 10 seconds by some random 130 pound guy/girl EVERY single time you roll with that specific person, it is not like stand-up where you can land a lucky strike. If someone is better than you, you will get destroyed every single time. It's a very humbling experience and you will realize how little size/strength matters and how important patience, technique and confidence pays off very quickly.
It's amazing, give it a try.
Well you convinced me I'll try it out thank youI did BJJ religiously for 3 years. 3 hours a day. I moved 2 hours North and there aren't any quality dojos around here and that is the sole reason I don't do it anymore.
Get ready to be tapped out in under 10 seconds by some random 130 pound guy/girl EVERY single time you roll with that specific person, it is not like stand-up where you can land a lucky strike. If someone is better than you, you will get destroyed every single time. It's a very humbling experience and you will realize how little size/strength matters and how important patience, technique and confidence pays off very quickly.
It's amazing, give it a try.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I have cauliflower ear on my left ear from BJJ. You can wear different types of headgear that specifically prevents it, or try and get it drained immediately after noticing it. My left ear is now asymmetrical (aka. sticks out a lot further than my right) and it noticeable as I wear short hair. I don't really give two sh*ts though, it doesn't bother me.Are your ears guaranteed to get f'd up over time? I'd hate to get in the practice and be forced to get surgery on my ears to remove growths due to my hobby.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DermatophytosisWhat's ring worm?
I'd rather avoid cauliflower ear. But the description that a trained 130lb woman will destroy a "strong" but untrained 230lbs male really makes it sound interesting.I have cauliflower ear on my left ear from BJJ. You can wear different types of headgear that specifically prevents it, or try and get it drained immediately after noticing it. My left ear is now asymmetrical (aka. sticks out a lot further than my right) and it noticeable as I wear short hair. I don't really give two sh*ts though, it doesn't bother me.
Nobody will care if you wear headgear either, people know cauliflower ear sucks.
The real thing you need to watch out for is ringworm (I've had it several times, also preventable). Now that sucks.
Good luck man, I hope you take it up!
That's not likely. Technique only goes so far. An untrained 230lb guy will still overpower the BJJ trained 130lb woman especially if the guy has any kind of grappling experience. She could be a purple belt and him a white. I would bet on the 230lb wrestler muscling out of submissions. You can get some wrestling head gear to help prevent cauliflower ear.I'd rather avoid cauliflower ear. But the description that a trained 130lb woman will destroy a "strong" but untrained 230lbs male really makes it sound interesting.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Sounds good...That's not likely. Technique only goes so far. A 230lb guy will still overpower the 130lb woman. you can get some wrestling head gear to help prevent cauliflower ear.
So skill in this endeavor will give you advantage in real world when there is grappling or close quarters involved.Sounds good...
I think it's probably the most useful martial art there is for self defense. The only issue with boxing is that without handwraps a hard, technical punch can cause damage to the hand and wrist.So skill in this endeavor will give you advantage in real world when there is grappling or close quarters involved.
I agree. A boxer trains to throw hard, so in a fight they do REALLY damage when they punch without gloves. But they train with gloves, so you hit to the face. Hitting the face and head without gloves actually hurts your hands more than you hurt the punched.I think it's probably the most useful martial art there is for self defense. The only issue with boxing is that without handwraps a hard, technical punch can cause damage to the hand and wrist.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.