You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Are your ears guaranteed to get f'd up over time? I'd hate to get in the practice and be forced to get surgery on my ears to remove growths due to my hobby.I did BJJ religiously for 3 years. 3 hours a day. I moved 2 hours North and there aren't any quality dojos around here and that is the sole reason I don't do it anymore.
Get ready to be tapped out in under 10 seconds by some random 130 pound guy/girl EVERY single time you roll with that specific person, it is not like stand-up where you can land a lucky strike. If someone is better than you, you will get destroyed every single time. It's a very humbling experience and you will realize how little size/strength matters and how important patience, technique and confidence pays off very quickly.
It's amazing, give it a try.
Well you convinced me I'll try it out thank youI did BJJ religiously for 3 years. 3 hours a day. I moved 2 hours North and there aren't any quality dojos around here and that is the sole reason I don't do it anymore.
Get ready to be tapped out in under 10 seconds by some random 130 pound guy/girl EVERY single time you roll with that specific person, it is not like stand-up where you can land a lucky strike. If someone is better than you, you will get destroyed every single time. It's a very humbling experience and you will realize how little size/strength matters and how important patience, technique and confidence pays off very quickly.
It's amazing, give it a try.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I have cauliflower ear on my left ear from BJJ. You can wear different types of headgear that specifically prevents it, or try and get it drained immediately after noticing it. My left ear is now asymmetrical (aka. sticks out a lot further than my right) and it noticeable as I wear short hair. I don't really give two sh*ts though, it doesn't bother me.Are your ears guaranteed to get f'd up over time? I'd hate to get in the practice and be forced to get surgery on my ears to remove growths due to my hobby.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DermatophytosisWhat's ring worm?
I'd rather avoid cauliflower ear. But the description that a trained 130lb woman will destroy a "strong" but untrained 230lbs male really makes it sound interesting.I have cauliflower ear on my left ear from BJJ. You can wear different types of headgear that specifically prevents it, or try and get it drained immediately after noticing it. My left ear is now asymmetrical (aka. sticks out a lot further than my right) and it noticeable as I wear short hair. I don't really give two sh*ts though, it doesn't bother me.
Nobody will care if you wear headgear either, people know cauliflower ear sucks.
The real thing you need to watch out for is ringworm (I've had it several times, also preventable). Now that sucks.
Good luck man, I hope you take it up!
That's not likely. Technique only goes so far. An untrained 230lb guy will still overpower the BJJ trained 130lb woman especially if the guy has any kind of grappling experience. She could be a purple belt and him a white. I would bet on the 230lb wrestler muscling out of submissions. You can get some wrestling head gear to help prevent cauliflower ear.I'd rather avoid cauliflower ear. But the description that a trained 130lb woman will destroy a "strong" but untrained 230lbs male really makes it sound interesting.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Sounds good...That's not likely. Technique only goes so far. A 230lb guy will still overpower the 130lb woman. you can get some wrestling head gear to help prevent cauliflower ear.
So skill in this endeavor will give you advantage in real world when there is grappling or close quarters involved.Sounds good...
I think it's probably the most useful martial art there is for self defense. The only issue with boxing is that without handwraps a hard, technical punch can cause damage to the hand and wrist.So skill in this endeavor will give you advantage in real world when there is grappling or close quarters involved.
I agree. A boxer trains to throw hard, so in a fight they do REALLY damage when they punch without gloves. But they train with gloves, so you hit to the face. Hitting the face and head without gloves actually hurts your hands more than you hurt the punched.I think it's probably the most useful martial art there is for self defense. The only issue with boxing is that without handwraps a hard, technical punch can cause damage to the hand and wrist.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.