Let's hash this $h!t out right now and settle it once and for all

[Robert28]

As a guy, I'm sick and tired of women that don't know me referring to me as "hun", "sweetie", "babe" or any variation of crap you'd say to someone you were dating or married to. Waitresses and bartenders are the worst about this type of behavior and it's insulting. It's even more insulting to sit around and hear women b!tch about guys doing it to them, only to turn around and do it to guys. I recently got into an argument about this while out with a group of friends (most were women) and they were like "oh it's nothing wrong with women calling you that! It's a term on endearment". Ummm, really? Well endear your ass on out of my face because I'm calling out this double standard. I consider it flirting, especially if the same girl who's calling me these names, turns around and says "oh I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out. Yeah, had that happen to me but that's not why I'm making this thread. Is anyone else noticing this crap and sick of it? There's a girl that works at the local Starbucks that is the absolute WORST about this and whenever I walk in it's always "babe this" or "sweetie that" or "honey" and the stupid b!tch has a boyfriend that she's supposedly "serious about". Well, Ms. Serious, you don't need to be talking to ME like that if you are so in love with your boyfriend.

 

[dustmuffin]

As a guy, I'm sick and tired of women that don't know me referring to me as "hun", "sweetie", "babe" or any variation of crap you'd say to someone you were dating or married to. Waitresses and bartenders are the worst about this type of behavior and it's insulting. It's even more insulting to sit around and hear women b!tch about guys doing it to them, only to turn around and do it to guys. I recently got into an argument about this while out with a group of friends (most were women) and they were like "oh it's nothing wrong with women calling you that! It's a term on endearment". Ummm, really? Well endear your ass on out of my face because I'm calling out this double standard. I consider it flirting, especially if the same girl who's calling me these names, turns around and says "oh I have a boyfriend" when you ask them out. Yeah, had that happen to me but that's not why I'm making this thread. Is anyone else noticing this crap and sick of it? There's a girl that works at the local Starbucks that is the absolute WORST about this and whenever I walk in it's always "babe this" or "sweetie that" or "honey" and the stupid b!tch has a boyfriend that she's supposedly "serious about". Well, Ms. Serious, you don't need to be talking to ME like that if you are so in love with your boyfriend.

Chill out....this is common in the south.

 

[Robert28]

Chill out....this is common in the south.

Ok, well I'm from the South (born and raised) and I think it's bs. So you're saying the next random girl I see I can be like "hey baby!" and if she gets insulted then I can be like "chill out, it's the South! It's common!" Please, she'd holler sexual harassment in a heartbeat.

 

[dustmuffin]

Double standard yes...you can roll with it or get your TWA t in a tich. I live in the south too. Waitresses use it to build rappor for better tips. I think most women in the service industry do the same. Guess you could go ape s hit on the next one that calls you sweetie and see how that goes for you. I don't really give a rats a as what they call me. If I am interested I will ask for a number...if rejected move on....

 

[Robert28]

Double standard yes...you can roll with it or get your TWA t in a tich. I live in the south too. Waitresses use it to build rappor for better tips. I think most women in the service industry do the same. Guess you could go ape s hit on the next one that calls you sweetie and see how that goes for you. I don't really give a rats a as what they call me. If I am interested I will ask for a number...if rejected move on....

Nah I'm not going to flip out, I'd rather just give it back to them and see how they like it and follow up with "so since you've already started calling me by these names I'm guessing that means we are going on a date sometime?" Put their ass on the spot.

 

[El Payaso]

Yeah, I can imagine if all the male mechanics started addressing their female customers with "Your total is 89.99, babe".

The feminized society would scream rape.

 

[RangerMIke]

In New Orleans it is common to call everyone baby, hun, sweetie... it means nothing.

Anyway so what... you can't control what other people do just how you respond to it. She starts talking like this and you are attracted to her try to move things along... if she's not available then just consider it's her loss and move on....

No reason to get all butt hurt about it and complain about a double standard. Is there a double standard... sure... men and women are not alike why would anyone believe behavior should be the same.

Try not to worry about it and just accept that is the way things are.

 

[JohnChops]

I call girls Hun all the time, I don't really see the issue with them saying it to you. Waitresses and bartenders are just trying to be nice

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Well, I guess it's time to tell my grandma to **** off then.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Well leave the south. It is a ****hole anyway unless you have those good ole boy connections.