Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
True, I've tried countless "systems". Nothing works better than fvcking the system.Would it surprise you to find out the they guys who do best likely have little idea why?
From what you're saying, your text game seems to be on point. It would be great if you could share some examples(screenshots if possible). I am keen on improving as text game has never been my cup of tea.- I have a low sex drive, so I don't have to put a lot of effort in finding poon
- Whenever I make contact with any possible female prospect, I pour on humor. I make humor out of anything and everything.. Humor is out there everywhere once you know where to find it. And it doesnt have to be something bad about someone, I just make humor out of life's daily events good or bad...
- I make my interests/intentions known. I get the number fast.
- Once I get number I text. Not big on the call. I text. More humor. I make humor out of anything she says. I also don't respond immediately to every text.
- Once I ask to meet, she either better say YES or NO+counter offer. If neither, NC starts immediately.. And her texts responses if not YES originally go from funny, to, short one word/one line at the most, answers.. (good strategy fellas, once she is used to all your texts being funny and all the sudden they get serious and short, she knows your IL in her is fading, and she will try to fix it) She will start chasing you!!
- When we meet, the humor continues.. If all is going well, I go for the kiss close in the middle, I don't wait until we are both heading for home... A couple hours and a lot of good talk, leave one place, she gets a kiss in the parking lot before we head to the second place..Then we hold hands the rest of the night...
- All goes naturally from there... If I feel its going bad, I will end the night before she does..
- I have had sex on first night many times, but I never plan to.....
- Usually I just have a good make out session and introduce some b00bies to my great mouth.. Get her all hot and bothered with that and my fingers on her lower mommy parts.. enough to let her know what I can do later but dont do it...
_ Scoring the second meeting is rarely a problem at this point... And its rare that I don't fvck on the second date if i have let it get to that point, very, very rare...
And now you know, the LEFT of the story..... lol
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Second date is very often times LL:"Hey its been a busy week and I don't want to go out.. You want to just come over to my house and I'll grill up something for dinner?" And she comes over to my place, we eat, I usually make a bon fire out back, I give her the grand tour of my house and property, and then we get it on....Thanks lefty that sounds a lot like my natural game which I thought I had to change up because I've been off the scene for so long.
Sounds like it still works fine and I've been second guessing myself.
It would be great to hear your second date routine do you escalate quickly ie basically pick up where you left off or do you pretty much just run comfort first for a while, rebuild the rapport and then crack on