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So bible belt is banging her again.... did she suddenly get thin again or something?
Boiler while I understand what you are saying, and as me being a guy who usually always tries to give advice on here that tries to use every means possible to save a LTR that is worth saving-to the point where a few call me a WK, in this case I believe that because BB is a respected poster on here, some are willing to let him slide. To me, that is a dangerous road to go down. And it goes to show that even the wiliest and mature guys on here can slide back into afcdom.Boilermaker said:It's so amusing to watch the worthy, wise, sage "veterans" in this site, get furious over something that has nothing to do with them.
Your capacity to be as narrow-minded as possible amazes me. So if a woman is fat, she can't be loved, made love to, given any compromises, or forgiven.
They lived together for 5 years, day to day, and you want Bible to value your trigger-happy opinions because you found out about all this in 5 minutes and decided on their verdict...
Most of you are immature, and insecure, as one of the smartest and the most stable guys on this site, Bible says : Paranoia is not an asset, it's an obstacle.
This is very true ... A lot of you would be way happier if you let go of this blind hatred.
Bible probably wouldn't be attracted to a fat girl if he saw her walking down the street tomorrow, but this is a girl he was attracted to 5 years ago, who got fat. That dynamic is different, and given the right circumstances a lot of us could have been in that position.
If you can call a guy whom you have respected for years a "faggot", "AFC" , "arrogant" in 7 pages of a newly created thread ..., there's really no hope for most of you in becoming objective individuals.
This is no different than leftist Feminists who always bend the truth their own way...
Cheers,
LongLostFriend said:Yeah. I have been in an almost-four-year relationship myself. It's not and never will be unconditional.
The thing I don't get is Bible Belt is this alpha in shape guy who does martial arts. I wonder how he looks glued to a fat chic. Hey but who cares what everyone else thinks?cordoncordon said:Boiler while I understand what you are saying, and as me being a guy who usually always tries to give advice on here that tries to use every means possible to save a LTR that is worth saving-to the point where a few call me a WK, in this case I believe that because BB is a respected poster on here, some are willing to let him slide. To me, that is a dangerous road to go down. And it goes to show that even the wiliest and mature guys on here can slide back into afcdom.
Cut out everything else. The lack of sex. The weight gain. The general boredom with each other. The lack of spark in a relationship. The fact is this girl, who lets be honest here, probably does not have a lot of other great prospects right now, left BB. Broke up with him. Moved to another place without so much as a warning. For the life of me I cannot imagine my fiance doing such a thing, as that is such a huge change and upheaval in lifestyle. So to do something like that imo really shows a lack of love from her to him-to be able to go to that extreme. Now, did he do a lot of things that caused her to become this way? Yes I am sure. It sounds as if BB became lazy, unambitious, content, and to be quite honest about it, immature. That is not a cutdown of BB, but any man his age should be able to survive on his own without relying on a woman. At the very least he should have his own things and be able to pay his own bills.
As I said a few days ago, and as Gordon Gekko said before that, this is your wake up call pal, go to work. This is a golden opp to start over, to give him the incentive to get his life on the right track, and to find someone he REALLY is proud to be with AFTER he gets things going with his own life. And not be with someone just because. BB was left by a girl who I bet 90% of guys on here, a site full of desperate men, probably would not touch. What does that tell you about his standing in society, and in her eyes, right now? Especially if he comes back groveling like a lost puppy dog as it appears he is? She is going to rule him with an iron fist. He is going to be walking on eggshells and it will never work out. They are both wasting each others time here. Instead of spending time and energy on people that do respect BB, he is going to be spending precious time and energy on a person that has shown what her true colors are.
IF this was any regular poster on here, you know exactly what you would be telling him Boiler, to leave and don't look back.
I don't know man. What bothered me about it was this inherent "weak tit" attitude he has. Supplicating and ass kissing get under my skin. Especially from a guy who handed out advice for years that is directly opposite of what he's doing. But, to be honest- We really don't know the whole story.Malice said:Maybe this chic has money. Maybe she has money and she is paying the bills? I think it has to be something like this because it's the only thing that makes sense.
her weight is what prevents her from finding another man ,that what really kept her from dumping BBexpos said:I'd say let Bible Belt be. Keep this thread running...and let him update it throughout the next few months so we can all see what happens.
He's a man, 37 years old, and he can make the decisions from here on out.
What I want see, is how much weight his girl is going to lose in the next couple of months. Will she do things to keep Bible Belt around? She needs to change her ways too.
Wow Zarky, is that really you? Solid post. I am in shock.Zarky said:So since the OP got completely checkmated by this chick and his mind is off in la-la land somewhere, the lesson for everyone else is:
What caused this to happen? And how could I prevent it from happening to me?
Something to think about.
My answer would be, as it usually is: always have multiple relationships going at the same time. Imagine what would have happened if OP weren't dependent on his one fat girl for all his social / sexual / psychological needs. And NB: you can't wait until the breakup happens to start dating other chicks and expect that to work. Too late by then, you need multiple established relationships for them to help when you have a crisis with one chick. Also, they tend to prevent these crises from happening in the first place.
The second thing I see is that OP got suckered into depending greatly on her in many other ways... phone, TV, furniture, dogs, etc. etc. etc... all were hers. She knew that withdrawing not only herself but all her stuff would show him how lost he is without her. Brilliant move on her part. I'll give her that.
She basically said, "Look around you, you are nothing without me, and you have nothing without me." He looked around at his empty place and his dwindling Facebook friends list and said, "You know what, you're right."
A move so forceful and which takes so much energy and causes distress to so many people (including families and friends) has one end goal: marriage.
EDIT:
I find it absolutely fascinating the OP originally stated that the chick gained "80 lbs" and then, once he allowed his world to be destroyed by her, changed that to "40 lbs."
Best thread on SS in months. So eye-opening with great lessons taught. Really a good one.
EDIT 2:
The only problem I see with her immense power-move is that she allowed him back in too quickly. This might prove to be the downfall of her plan. For her move to really work, she should have held out longer. Make him grovel, make him really beg. Flowers, more dinners, and within a month an engagement ring. That should have been her play. She buckled too easily, and that fact might save our OP.
Just because someone is in shape and does martial arts does not make him an alpha. Alpha is a state of mind.Malice said:The thing I don't get is Bible Belt is this alpha in shape guy who does martial arts. I wonder how he looks glued to a fat chic. Hey but who cares what everyone else thinks?
Espi said:Thus another reason for women to marry: she can gain a ton of weight because the man vowed to love her "unconditionally."
Physical appearance makes a helluva difference to men; women, not as much. So men should stop pretending like outward apperance doesn't matter. Most men choose (or settle for) partners based on PHYSICAL appearance!!!
Literally, alpha is a position. The #1 male. PUAs, and maybe only PUAs, tend to think of alpha as a mindset because they are trying to mimic the behaviors and attitudes of true alpha males.Bokanovsky said:Just because someone is in shape and does martial arts does not make him an alpha. Alpha is a state of mind.
i agree the name-calling on this site is ridiculous- don't know how much more i can stand.Boilermaker said:It's so amusing to watch the worthy, wise, sage "veterans" in this site, get furious over something that has nothing to do with them.
Your capacity to be as narrow-minded as possible amazes me. So if a woman is fat, she can't be loved, made love to, given any compromises, or forgiven.
They lived together for 5 years, day to day, and you want Bible to value your trigger-happy opinions because you found out about all this in 5 minutes and decided on their verdict...
Most of you are immature, and insecure, as one of the smartest and the most stable guys on this site, Bible says : Paranoia is not an asset, it's an obstacle.
This is very true ... A lot of you would be way happier if you let go of this blind hatred.
Bible probably wouldn't be attracted to a fat girl if he saw her walking down the street tomorrow, but this is a girl he was attracted to 5 years ago, who got fat. That dynamic is different, and given the right circumstances a lot of us could have been in that position.
If you can call a guy whom you have respected for years a "faggot", "AFC" , "arrogant" in 7 pages of a newly created thread ..., there's really no hope for most of you in becoming objective individuals.
This is no different than leftist Feminists who always bend the truth their own way...
Cheers,
And it would be the white knights doing most of the bashing...Espi said:Can you imagine, though, a similar public service announcement curtailing the negative effects of obesity in women? "Hey girl: If you become fat, you could LOSE your boyfriend." OMG the fvucking feminists would be all over that shiat. The guy would immediately be labled an insensitive prick, a douchebag.
But it's perfectly fine to air a commercial portraying a man's worth based soley on his material possessions.