Thanks for the advice. She was on line again today according to brother. And I am having trouble breathing. The thought of her even communicating with another man makes me ill. I have it bad. And I know better. She has no compassion for me and never looked back when she left this time...less than 2 weeks...And now I find out from bro that he say her profile on POF 2 months ago...while we were still a couple. I want to puke. All the platitudes and wisdom still doesn't heal the hole I have in my chest. I was doing ok until this POF stuff was revealed and I saw her profile picture. Like an electric fence you know you will get hurt if you touch it, but touch it anyway...I am suffering and I am the cause and solution. Thanks for the replies.
As I said, she did it intentionally... She knew how you felt, but she did all she did anyway.
Screw wisdom then, it seems to not work here... But perhaps something else may.
Divert your sorrow into something else... Anger... It is a very simple proto-emotion.
But not destructive anger... Make it constructive anger. I am filled with anger, an emotion that is primary to me, but I have found that it can be directed for the good.
Get mad at her, for hurting you... Say that you hate her for it, I know you do. You hate her as much if not more than you love her...
You will never again get her love, but you can get her envy and you can be her regret. The last thing she wants is to see you succeed. The worst fear a woman has is that she missed out on the "one that got away". Make that fear into reality. Imagine a future with you as a success, imagine a future where you are dating an incredible woman, imagine a future where you achieve greatness. Now imagine the two of you running into each other in that future, as she asks you how you have been and you glance at her overweight husband and their pathetic existence... Then you just smile as she realizes it. A realization that will put her in your shoes, and will fill her with regret and sorrow at what she lost. Imagine that future and make it a reality, seek to fulfill the vengeance. Go out and use that negativity to create something positive from it.