she stated she won't get married until living with me for a year because why be stuck hating each other on the same couch waiting for a home to sell if the marriage doesnt work out.......i said ok, makes sense.
I am a homeowner, she lives at home, she wants to live together., she mentions my 2000sq ft 3br 2bth home is not big enough for us and and her kid who she has part time that we need to buy a bigger home. I say hmm ok, i have 1400 to go towards my home and utilities and she says she has 600, I said well that wont work then because she does not have enough to contribute to a bigger home. She said with our combined 2grand we should be fine, i said um no, you dont want to be married and i do not put my money together with someone who i am not married to. She had been mad at ME for months because of this...haha. then changed it to she NEVER said this when this was her motto for 2 years......
She turned it into me shaming her for not making enough money, I said you make 27$ an hour, you have too many bills and cards not paid off to contribute, i did not put you down for that or judge just said she needs to pay her bills first i do not join accounts when not married.
I am a devout churchgoer, always have been , yes all religions have their problems but I am spiritually strong and like to go to full fill what i need. in the near 4 years of knowing her she has gone to her church probably 6 times. I have missed twice in those almost 4 years. When talking about marriage she stated we need to go to her church or at the very least hers then mine taking turns. She then mentioned me leaving mine altogether and finding one with her to join we can begin together. I said if you dont ever go or care and i am very spiritually invested in mine why would u try to take me out of mine when i truly enjoy it?????? this is loving someone?? When talking about kids if we had any ,she wants the kids to be in her religion, that she has nothing to do with.......So the non churchgoer who doesn't care about faith or church wants to control the church (not mine) if we get married and have kids...makes no sense.
I have been working overtime by 90 mins a day at work the last month I was with her, i busted my ass to get to her kids soccer games twice a week, skipping dinner, changing clothes, anything to get there and be supportive to the kid and so she doesnt have to sit by herself, after a few weeks of this she gets mad at something and puts me down saying i never do anything for her or go out of my way for her...The last weekend was Mothers day, i sent her flowers and a gift from her daughter to her, took her out to her fav restaurant for dinner and a movie she wanted to see along with weeks of making soccer games only to go home hours later to finish my work till 9pm... Absolutely NO appreciation of anything you do for a narcissist.
a bit back she changed plans sat am around 11 from coming to my house for me to go to hers for the day as she had to tend chemicals to the pool off and on, I told her ok I am at sears getting tires rotated and balanced, be home when they are done, she jumped off the phone saying she would get a hold of me later she had to hit the store in town. a few hours went by and i messaged her what was up around 1ish, she responded she just got out of shower, 30 mins later i get screamed at, berated for not being at her house, as I awaited her call and never heard, messaged her to see what was up and she was still getting ready for the day, yet i go screamed at, hung up on, i called back calmly and said, if you are ready for me to come over why not just say so instead of doing all this, then i get broken up with and all our vacations cancelled for the summer as i am now uninvited....
few weeks later she begins talking to me, i have not seen her in 3 weeks, she asked if i was going with her on a vaca for 2 days with her and her kid, i said no she uninvited me, broke things off so instead of me sitting around like a bitcch i made other plans and am busy..(not that i would go anyway now) she got mad at me and called me a selfish ******* and that i was "leaving her and her kid to go alone".....say what now? i said i never left anyone you were the one to cancel me and uninvite me in a frenzy of rage screaming at me because i guess i was expected to be at her house earlier when waiting to hear back.... i was cancelled on and broken up with but am selfish i made other plans......ha.....wow the mind of an npd...
psychopath...
we took her and her kid to a river and falls around these parts, she wanted to get ice cream after, i cant eat ice cream because i am lactose intolerant and i will **** my pants all day like a sick baby, it destroys me......she got mad at me and blew up on me for not getting any, stating if i was with anyone else i would have got ice cream....WTF she knows im lactose intolerant
i have stories like these for days...
sorry to rant, makes me feel better to know my decision to move on is the right one
I am a homeowner, she lives at home, she wants to live together., she mentions my 2000sq ft 3br 2bth home is not big enough for us and and her kid who she has part time that we need to buy a bigger home. I say hmm ok, i have 1400 to go towards my home and utilities and she says she has 600, I said well that wont work then because she does not have enough to contribute to a bigger home. She said with our combined 2grand we should be fine, i said um no, you dont want to be married and i do not put my money together with someone who i am not married to. She had been mad at ME for months because of this...haha. then changed it to she NEVER said this when this was her motto for 2 years......
She turned it into me shaming her for not making enough money, I said you make 27$ an hour, you have too many bills and cards not paid off to contribute, i did not put you down for that or judge just said she needs to pay her bills first i do not join accounts when not married.
I am a devout churchgoer, always have been , yes all religions have their problems but I am spiritually strong and like to go to full fill what i need. in the near 4 years of knowing her she has gone to her church probably 6 times. I have missed twice in those almost 4 years. When talking about marriage she stated we need to go to her church or at the very least hers then mine taking turns. She then mentioned me leaving mine altogether and finding one with her to join we can begin together. I said if you dont ever go or care and i am very spiritually invested in mine why would u try to take me out of mine when i truly enjoy it?????? this is loving someone?? When talking about kids if we had any ,she wants the kids to be in her religion, that she has nothing to do with.......So the non churchgoer who doesn't care about faith or church wants to control the church (not mine) if we get married and have kids...makes no sense.
I have been working overtime by 90 mins a day at work the last month I was with her, i busted my ass to get to her kids soccer games twice a week, skipping dinner, changing clothes, anything to get there and be supportive to the kid and so she doesnt have to sit by herself, after a few weeks of this she gets mad at something and puts me down saying i never do anything for her or go out of my way for her...The last weekend was Mothers day, i sent her flowers and a gift from her daughter to her, took her out to her fav restaurant for dinner and a movie she wanted to see along with weeks of making soccer games only to go home hours later to finish my work till 9pm... Absolutely NO appreciation of anything you do for a narcissist.
a bit back she changed plans sat am around 11 from coming to my house for me to go to hers for the day as she had to tend chemicals to the pool off and on, I told her ok I am at sears getting tires rotated and balanced, be home when they are done, she jumped off the phone saying she would get a hold of me later she had to hit the store in town. a few hours went by and i messaged her what was up around 1ish, she responded she just got out of shower, 30 mins later i get screamed at, berated for not being at her house, as I awaited her call and never heard, messaged her to see what was up and she was still getting ready for the day, yet i go screamed at, hung up on, i called back calmly and said, if you are ready for me to come over why not just say so instead of doing all this, then i get broken up with and all our vacations cancelled for the summer as i am now uninvited....
few weeks later she begins talking to me, i have not seen her in 3 weeks, she asked if i was going with her on a vaca for 2 days with her and her kid, i said no she uninvited me, broke things off so instead of me sitting around like a bitcch i made other plans and am busy..(not that i would go anyway now) she got mad at me and called me a selfish ******* and that i was "leaving her and her kid to go alone".....say what now? i said i never left anyone you were the one to cancel me and uninvite me in a frenzy of rage screaming at me because i guess i was expected to be at her house earlier when waiting to hear back.... i was cancelled on and broken up with but am selfish i made other plans......ha.....wow the mind of an npd...
psychopath...
we took her and her kid to a river and falls around these parts, she wanted to get ice cream after, i cant eat ice cream because i am lactose intolerant and i will **** my pants all day like a sick baby, it destroys me......she got mad at me and blew up on me for not getting any, stating if i was with anyone else i would have got ice cream....WTF she knows im lactose intolerant
i have stories like these for days...
sorry to rant, makes me feel better to know my decision to move on is the right one
